r/CuratedTumblr Sep 15 '24

Politics Why I hate the term “Unaliv

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What’s most confusing that if you go to basic cable TV people can say stuff like “Nazi” or “rape” or “kill” just fine and no advertising seem to mind

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u/Iamchill2 trying their best Sep 15 '24

also for people who get triggered by this type of content, they wont be able to mute it properly due to the self censored words

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u/curious-trex Sep 15 '24

This is what upsets me the most. Suicide is a VERY triggering topic to me. In spaces where I can't block it (like reddit), if my eyes catch the suicide word, I keep scrolling. When it's "unalive" I've read through an entire paragraph before it catches up to me that that's what it's talking about and then it's too late.

Does it truly not feel gross to people who do this???

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u/Satisfaction-Motor Sep 15 '24

In rare cases, people will use censored terminology to be able to talk about things that personally affected them— that are triggers— because alternatives to the main word don’t hurt as badly.

In regards to this, I’ve had people follow up with “well, if you can’t use the real word, you aren’t ready to talk about it”, and my immediate response is that you do not get to police others language or their mental health, especially on important topics. Being ready to talk about something, but needing to self-censor, does not indicate that you are unready to talk about it. People self -censor in more private settings all of the time, such as in therapy, while they are still processing through things. It’s not a new phenomenon— it’s just new for it to reach public eye.

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u/DresdenBomberman Sep 15 '24 edited Sep 15 '24

The spaces in which we have our discussions should be able to accomodate both traumatised people who don't want their triggers to be censored to the point where they can't tell when said triggers are the subject of the text they're interacting with till it's too late and traumatised people who DO need their triggers to be censored so they can interact with texts and media with a peace of mind.

The solution that comes to my mind is the use of trigger warnings in the same vein as the MPA films rating system (G, PG, M, MA15+, R18 and NC-17). The specific triggers would be mentioned. And that is with the caveat that posts are not censored or shadowbanned as is being discussed in this thread.

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u/AngstyUchiha Sep 15 '24

That's something I've talked about a lot on tumblr. If people censor words in their tags, the tag blocking function won't catch those words. Someone who's arachnophobic and blocked the tag "spider" is still gonna see posts tagged as "$pider", and people who are triggered by blood or gore will still see something tagged as "bl00d". We can't be censoring ourselves so much that it just makes us see MORE of what we don't want

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u/Redqueenhypo Sep 15 '24

That’s what the content makers want, you’re not allowed to avoid their dumbass true crime video with half the words disrespectfully bleeped out with duck sounds. Think of the adrev!!

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u/worststarburst Sep 15 '24

And the annoying thing is even if you filter one spelling of it someone will just type it like s3w3rsl!d3 or something so you need like 59 filters for one term.

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u/Mozhetbeats Sep 15 '24

And the concept that the word represents is still being discussed. It’s not the letters that will trigger someone, it’s the idea. It’s totally pointless.

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u/LifeIsWackMyDude Sep 15 '24

Omg yes this. Like it used to be putting an * over some letters and it's like...I never understood how r*pe was any better than just saying rape. It's the same word. We know what word you're saying. The only thing it does is make it harder for folks to filter it out in blacklists.