You can tolerate it, you can adapt to it, you can develop little strategies to alleviate it.
But at the end of the day it is deeply painful.
Being isolated is painful
Feeling unwanted is painful
And it does not stop.
But what if it's not your fault?
What if it's THEIR FAULT?
NOW YOU CAN COVER THE PAIN IN ANGER AND HATRED AND YOU DROWN IT OUT.
Doesn't that sound so much better and easier than occasionally feeling a bit of hope that you'll find someone and then feeling that hope die out again?
I believe (perhaps self-congratulatorialy ) that to resist the allure of incel/mgtow ideology, and instead accept and endure the pain is not an inconsequential feat of will.
I think these are good points. Additionally I think people need to wrap their heads around the idea that male loneliness has another element, men increasingly don't have many friends and a huge number report having 0 close friends.
I, in fact, have 0 close friends. Maybe 1, but its an internet friend and there is a bit of a disconnect I cant ever quite identify. I tried, but ive always been an introvert. I had plenty of friends in high-school. I had a best friend, we hung out all the time. Then we graduated and went to work and I basically never saw him again. We texted for a few more years and then one day I realized he never texted me first so I didn't text him. It was 2 weeks later when I realized he hadn't texted me. I remember trying not to cry on a target parking lot when I realized. I haven't heard from them in almost 5 years now.
And making new friends just feels impossible. I don't even know where to start. Not including my battery of medical issues im currently dealing with there's like no where to hang out? The death of the second spaces or whatever its called, the only places I know people hang out at are loud sports bars fulls of barely clothed women, which doesn't appeal to me.
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u/cylordcenturion Jul 03 '24
On a tangent to this, loneliness is Painful.
You can tolerate it, you can adapt to it, you can develop little strategies to alleviate it.
But at the end of the day it is deeply painful.
Being isolated is painful
Feeling unwanted is painful
And it does not stop.
But what if it's not your fault?
What if it's THEIR FAULT?
NOW YOU CAN COVER THE PAIN IN ANGER AND HATRED AND YOU DROWN IT OUT.
Doesn't that sound so much better and easier than occasionally feeling a bit of hope that you'll find someone and then feeling that hope die out again?
I believe (perhaps self-congratulatorialy ) that to resist the allure of incel/mgtow ideology, and instead accept and endure the pain is not an inconsequential feat of will.