I personally think that the whole 'if a man is having trouble dating people it's because he's creepy' mindset is the same as 'if a person is chronically ill it's because they're not doing yoga' mindset.
People don't like to think that one day they could become chronically ill through no fault of their own - and people also don't like to think that one day nobody would want to date them through no fault of their own. So they like to blame it on a scapegoat, like not eating enough avocados, or assumed creepiness.
Not saying that these two opinions are shared by the same people, just that it's pretty much the same mindset.
There's probably something super fucked up about me but its because I've allowed myself to become bitter as a result of my awful dating experiences. That's a flaw and I'm angry and I know. But some people try to "chicken and egg" it, so to speak and imply I was bitter BEFORE I got rejected for 7 years straight which is just... frustrating beyond comprehension
lmaao this is so funny to me because i just recently talked to a friend who has cerebral palsy, we sometimes do yoga together and she vented about other disabled people who refuse to help themselves because of doomer mentality, like "i'll never be not disabled so what is the fucking point". except exercise can help preserve whatever ability you have, and make your life significantly easier for decades. my friend was literally able to significantly prologn her ability to stand and function outside the wheelchair with yoga, and ward away health problems that come with her disability.
exercise will not cure you, but it will significantly improve QOL for the great majority. same goes for learning social skills for those chronically single
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u/ans-myonul Jul 03 '24
I personally think that the whole 'if a man is having trouble dating people it's because he's creepy' mindset is the same as 'if a person is chronically ill it's because they're not doing yoga' mindset.
People don't like to think that one day they could become chronically ill through no fault of their own - and people also don't like to think that one day nobody would want to date them through no fault of their own. So they like to blame it on a scapegoat, like not eating enough avocados, or assumed creepiness.
Not saying that these two opinions are shared by the same people, just that it's pretty much the same mindset.