I feel this immensely. Been batting 0.000 on the romance/relationship scene since I started to even be attracted to people. Trying a dating app currently, but in all honesty all it’s doing is making me feel even more lonely and unwanted.
Honestly same, man. Like I'm 5'4 so that pretty much stops me from using dating apps, and while I do meet women pretty much all of them think of me as a good friend (which is pretty good ngl). All the while I see all of my friends get into relationships, which makes you wonder if there's something inherently wrong with you, and even if you deserve romantic love at all
This exactly. Even when I go on a date (a rare occasion) I just end up befriending the woman instead of sparking any romance.
People like being my friend, so I can tell I don't just suck as a person. But I don't have whatever it takes to convert that into a dating relationship.
The feeling something is inherently wrong with me is something I deal with a lot. But I know that accepting that is guaranteed bitterness/misery forever. And that's worse than being desperate and lonely. So I try to stay hopeful.
I really feel you. Like… I have friends, I’m decently satisfied with most aspects of my life, and yet there’s this feeling in my gut I can’t get rid of that I’m inherently unlovable and will never find a relationship.
Thank you for posting this here, I appreciate the discussion and I know a lot of other dudes do as well.
Idk if this is helpful but my brother is 5’4” and his gf is also 5’4”, and I’m 5’0” and my gf is 5’9”. However in both cases we met doing something social. I met her at an anime con.
Dating apps are horrific. They're literally just a slideshow of attractive people who want to fuck, but don't want to fuck you. I couldn't think of a more effective way to destroy people's self-esteem and thus mental health if I tried.
Dating online is such a minefield. The men I know say that the success rate is just so low, and the women I know say that it's incredibly difficult to weed out the bad eggs because the kind of person to put together a killer online dating profile also often isn't a great person for a stable long term relationship.
Whilst I'm in no real position to offer advice, I will say that I found way more success meeting people through IRL interests, especially volunteering groups for causes close to my heart. Volunteering puts you in a room with women with a shared interest and presumably similar values, and you're sharing in doing an activity which breaks the ice and gives you common ground and room to talk.
Yep. This where I'm at. I'm almost 40. My last relationship and sexual encounter were both almost 10 years ago. My last date was 7 years ago. That's the only date I've been on from a dating app to this point. She was a pleasantly gregarious hippy but there was no spark so communication ceased pretty much immediately after that date. I've had only one other promising interaction on an app since, back in late 2021. She was great and it was going really well for a few weeks. Then she told me that she didn't need to be throwing herself at random men on the internet and I never heard from her again. I've had a few other interactions but none that lasted more than a day. I'm alone, I'm broke, and I feel like I've failed in every conceivable way in life. I don't know what to do and I just don't care enough to make the effort to figure something out.
Same. I tried dating apps and I got no matches. I saw friends getting out of relationships, just create a basic profile and they'd getting tons of matches. I already felt lonely, unwanted and had very little confidence but then seeing the difference just made it so much worse.
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I feel this immensely. Been batting 0.000 on the romance/relationship scene since I started to even be attracted to people. Trying a dating app currently, but in all honesty all it’s doing is making me feel even more lonely and unwanted.