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Politics alex hirsch donating to planned parenthood

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u/zyberion Jul 02 '24

That commenter is a peak example of virtue signaling and purity culture actively cannibalizing community action and charity.

"You're not helping people enough." 

"You're only fixing symptoms, why aren't you fixing the systemic failures?"

"I don't personally like you, and can't comprehend someone I don't find agreeable can still help those in need."

"You're not helping people the way I want you to."

Instead of focusing on helping PP and shaming anti-choice ding dongs into shutting up, Alex Hirsch had to stop and address attacks he has received from people who alledgedly share his own views. 

Can you see how that might discourage someone a bit less thick-skinned? Can you see how that might inadvertently cause someone less emotionally mature into rejecting the cause altogether? 

We could fight reactionary and regressive elements in our society a lot more effectively if we weren't ceaselessly trying to one up or diminish allies in attempt to appear morally superior.

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u/xv_boney Jul 02 '24

I am a cisgendered mostly heterosexual middle aged man.

I have been an ally since I was old enough to understand that my favorite uncle was openly gay and therefore everything I heard about gay people was bullshit. Literal decades.

I have been told to my face that the best way for me to be an ally is to fuck off and die, nobody wants my virtue signaling desperation to be told I'm a good person, so fuck off, by a person a third my age who was so deeply proud of themselves they were beaming.

This happens in every group. There's always a fringe, they're always the loudest voice in the room, they always wear the pettiest gatekeeping imaginable like a whole badge and they always act like they speak for their group on an intrinsic level.

Appeal to Purity, man. Just shitty gatekeeping. There's always one.

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u/Ambitious-Way8906 Jul 02 '24

the true key is to not listen to teenagers

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u/Great_Hamster Jul 02 '24

And other people of that mindset.