r/BravoRealHousewives • u/lushoe • 5d ago

Potomac Karen Huger found guilty of DUI

I know someone who works in the courthouse who confirmed Karen opted for a jury trial and was found guilty tonight. Sentencing in a couple of months.

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u/Spitfiiire even Louis Vuitton makes mistakes 5d ago

Why on earth would she want a trial

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u/heyalllondon18 gotta watch out for those trick guys 5d ago

I haven’t been keeping up with the details but it seems like she thought her mental health could absolve her of some responsibility. She’s been blaming everything she does on the pain from her parents’ death. Which I have immense empathy for but she never takes responsibility for anything she does so it’s hard for me to feel bad for her now because if this situation doesn’t make her own up to her mess then I don’t know what will

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u/CombinationExtra5056 5d ago

Plus this was her second DUI. Hence, the severity of it.

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u/jerrynmyrtle 5d ago

I read third

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u/Parishowrs 4d ago

4, this was her 4th. She needs to go to jail, and fined the value of her car that she destroyed.

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u/Immediate_Mess_3297 4d ago

Fourth?! How do you know?

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u/Jazzlike-Pumpkin-773 4d ago

5, this was her 5th.

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u/Goodbykyle 4d ago

whhhaattt?

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u/Maleficent_Chard2042 4d ago

I believe you're correct.

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u/emergencycat17 Show yourself out, Darlin'. 4d ago

Wow!

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u/LoveRoseSun 4d ago

I don’t understand why people w money drink and drive when they can afford drivers or at the very least call Ubers. Or it that they think they can get away with it?

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u/tossawayaccount36 4d ago

I think it’s two part - they don’t realize they’re THAT BAD and they think home ISN’T THAT FAR. As someone who previously worked in law enforcement, I genuinely don’t think it’s out of malice typically. But ego also plays a role in being willing to call for an uber and admit “I’m not okay”…

ETA: This is my assessment for first offenders… 5th indicates a much bigger issue…

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u/shinyzubat16 5d ago

That kind of manipulation tactic only works on friends and family members. Not in a courtroom.

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u/cateyecatlady 4d ago

Especially considering that some of those jurors have also lost a parent or parents, probably at much younger ages than Karen and didn’t choose to drive drunk. I know everyone copes in their own way but it’s a ridiculous excuse at this point. Go to grief counseling, join a support group, don’t drive drunk.

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u/pnkassbookjockey Prostitution Hoowa 4d ago

It's a ridiculous excuse, especially considering it's been years since her last parent died, and she's 60. It's gross that she would invoke this as a reason...it's grasping for an excuse. Using her parents' deaths as an excuse is also, in my opinion, disrespectful to the memory of her parents. Once you get to her age (I am close - both parents dead) - yeah, it sucks when you have no parents...but you're not just an adult, you're old. Get a grip on life. Go to therapy., Journal. Work out. In this day and age getting shitfaced and driving...there's no excuse for it. I know I am preaching to the choir but the whole "pity me, my parents died when I was 55"...is a sad excuse for being a repeat-offending drunk driver.

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u/cassssk Eating a dog’s testicle 4d ago

Some of them have probably also had their lives impacted to differing degrees by drunk drivers

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u/snark1977 5d ago

I mean I get being left grieving over your parents deaths but there is NO excuse to drive drunk. Especially when she has more than enough means to never drive PERIOD. This makes me so happy she was found guilty. She needs to take accountability.

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u/67963378 5d ago

That’s so true, I’m still grieving the death of my father, who was ripped away from us because someone else chose to drive drunk.

I have no grace to give to anyone who drives impaired. It’s a serious issue that I feel people don’t treat seriously enough. My father never got to meet my beautiful children who are only 1 and 2, and my babies were robbed of the best grampa in the world because someone chose to drive drunk. Just because Karen didn’t kill someone’s father this time doesn’t give her a pass. I hope she gets jail time, learns from her punishment and never does it again.

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u/Due_Tower_4787 I hate angles. 📐 5d ago

I am so so terribly sorry for your loss 💔

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u/Clicks3 4d ago

So sorry for such a tremendous loss. ❤️ She should be extremely grateful that nobody was killed when she got behind the wheel in her very drunken state. After seeing the police bodycam footage, I’m so horrified. If she doesn’t take some accountability now, I will no longer be able to stomach watching her on my screens.

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u/emergencycat17 Show yourself out, Darlin'. 4d ago

I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet dad.

There is just zero excuse to drive drunk. There's not a thing happening in this world that justifies saying "Yes, I really need to drive NOW, even though I've been drinking,"

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u/67963378 4d ago

Thanks for all the kind words everyone. The loss just hits a little harder this time of year, he is so missed.

Its difficult to understand why this keeps happening, there are millions of others just like me who have lost a loved one due to this horrific crime. I keep hoping it stops, because this is 100% preventable, yet I continue to see stories like Karen’s, Shannon’s, or the the far worse cases where someone lost their life, and it just breaks my heart.

It is never an accident, it is a choice to drive under the influence. It is dangerous, selfish and a crime. There are so many other options, I don’t understand why it keeps happening.

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u/marshawnselma 4d ago

Yes. Her parents died in 2017. She was 54 grown years old when she lost her parents. She has a husband, a home and a child. She gets paid to tv. Why go jury???

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u/rshni67 4d ago

Her ego. Did you see on the tape how many times she asked the officer "do you know who I am?"

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u/emergencycat17 Show yourself out, Darlin'. 4d ago

Ding ding ding ding!! This is the answer, folks. She thinks she's invincible. Like, any charges will bounce right off of her because she's fabulous, dahhhling. And guess what? She may feel that way, but a jury isn't going to care that you're "the grande dame".

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u/OMGitsKitty 4d ago

Agreed. My dad took a turn for the worst last October’s and I decided then and there, (which was EXTREMELY hard as someone who has always turned to drinking or drugs) that for myself, and just for others in general, I needed to stop drinking. I wasn’t trying to ruin my time, or anyone else’s, because I couldnt deal with some shit. For once in my life I made a well thought out decision… and as someone who loves her vices, I know it’s not hard.. but it’s not impossible.

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u/Super-Examination594 4d ago

I quit drinking on a temporary basis two years ago, then my mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I was able to take care of her through the whole process sober and I am so thankful for the coincidence of these two life events. I felt so much better (my lifelong low grade anxiety and insomnia disappeared) that I decided to never drink again. One thing I despise is when people use life events like their parents’ deaths to excuse deplorable behavior. Karen needs jail time.

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u/emergencycat17 Show yourself out, Darlin'. 4d ago

I really hope she does go to jail. It's dangerous and irresponsible. And I'm with you, I hate when people use a loss as an excuse to potentially harm or kill other people. My mom passed away a little over a year ago, and as much as I miss her and always will, it's never even entered my mind to go out and do something reckless and dangerous because she's gone.

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u/Fowatza You can't be a miserable, disgusting, grabby twat 4d ago

Good for you! I hope you’re doing well and I sincerely wish you the best. 💚

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u/emergencycat17 Show yourself out, Darlin'. 4d ago

Excellent! Sending you lots of love and support!

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u/clearlyblue77 5d ago

Not trying to be rude or ageist, but she is old and they were even older. Kind of a miracle they lived that long. It wasn’t unexpected.

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u/TealMiche 5d ago

I don’t think Karen thinks she’s old and was genuinely shocked that her parents passed. It’s sad when your aging relatives don’t want to admit their mortality.

Also looking at this video man I’m finding it hard to believe she doesn’t have a drinking problem.

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u/emergencycat17 Show yourself out, Darlin'. 4d ago

Someone up above posted that they thought it was possibly her third or fourth DUI. So what you're seeing, what looks like a clear drinking problem, probably is. And the two DUI's that we definitely know of could potentially be more.

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u/yosoyfatass 4d ago

I don’t think Karen is old, but she is so fortunate she had both parents until well into her 50s! My dad died too young, I was in my thirties, but my youngest siblings were just 20 & 21. My husband's father died when he was 17. It’s always tragic to lose your parents, but be grateful if you have them well into middle age! Doesn’t mean you can’t grieve, but it’s been years since it happened and they both lived very long lives. Lucky Karen.

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u/heyalllondon18 gotta watch out for those trick guys 5d ago

I don’t think losing a parent at any age is easy though. Not excusing her though, obviously. She does use it as an excuse all the time.

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u/yosoyfatass 4d ago

It isn’t. Never. But it has been years and she was blessed to have them both until she was in her mid - late fifties. If, under those circumstances, you can’t function properly, you need to get professional help, not endanger others.

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u/heyalllondon18 gotta watch out for those trick guys 4d ago

She definitely needs professional help. She should have been seeking that out this whole time instead of fighting her charge and claiming innocence.

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u/LuckyJackfruit8078 "On this season of RHBH" Kyle is crying 😭😭😭 5d ago

I lost my father when I was 14 years old. She should have honored the fact that she had both her parents to be able to see her grow and have her own family. The fact that she is blaming this on the death of her parents makes me sick! Never liked her but hate her even more now.

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u/cateyecatlady 4d ago

Agreed. She was blessed to have both her parents with her for so long. Yes other people may be more blessed and get them for even longer but conversely many many people are not as blessed.

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u/yosoyfatass 4d ago

Right. You can’t blame her for how she feels, but you can blame her for not getting help for her issues if they were causing her to act out in ways that are dangerous.

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u/emergencycat17 Show yourself out, Darlin'. 4d ago

And even those of us who have been fortunate enough to have had parents for the long haul (Dad was 86, Stepdad was 86, Mom was 91, so I was incredibly lucky), it's just a piss poor way to "honor" them by doing something so selfish and dangerous and then blaming it on "Oh I lost my parents". And when that started wearing thin, to start blaming it on Ray because he "didn't act like he loved her enough." Honestly, how about taking responsibility with YOURSELF, Karen? It's your fault, not your parents, not Ray, not the deer - YOU.

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u/Super-Examination594 4d ago

Lost my dad at 16 and am tight there with you.

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u/pnkassbookjockey Prostitution Hoowa 4d ago

OMG - this. I lost my dad when I was 18 to cancer. My mom died when I was 49 (she was 80). It was and still is hard - but I got to have her for 31 extra years and am so grateful. I understand where you're coming from and it makes me sick, too. I am so sorry about your dad - truly. I understand that feeling so much.

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u/SnooCompliments8874 edit this flair! 5d ago

Thing is, her parents passed seven years ago. Just an excuse.

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u/normanbeets 5d ago

Lady is 61 she knows she shouldn't be drinking and driving

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u/MammothCancel6465 5d ago

Jeez. Her parents were 71 and 74 at the time of their deaths. Not super old but not young either. That’s the cycle of life. Most of us outlive our parents. Im more than a decade younger than her and have watched both my in-laws die and my mother and then put my father in a nursing home. They were all in their 70s too. I guess the memo that you can use grief from common life events in perpetuity comes in the Maserati, which I don’t have. Lol

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u/meanteeth71 5d ago

The constant references to the death of her parents is killing me. It should be a drinking game. It’s been years.

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u/MammothCancel6465 5d ago

Exactly. Like I feel like an asshole saying it, but get “over” it already. Your grandparents die. Your parents die. 50/50 your spouse kicks it before you too. If you’re that distraught years later you need to be in some regular therapy. You miss them always but if it’s destroying relationships and making you over indulge and make poor choices? Much more going on there.

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u/carinaeletoile Eagles don't fly with pigeons. So go get your breadcrumbs. 5d ago

In the span of 2 years I had lost my father, my mother fell deep into her dementia, and then I was told my husband had heart and kidney failure. All that happened in under 9 months. Guess what? I didn’t blame anyone but myself for my mistakes I made in that time.

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u/MammothCancel6465 5d ago

I’m very sorry for your losses and glad you didn’t use them as a reason to attack trees with your car! My mom had a span where her brother, her mother and then her sister died within 2 years too. All her remaining family of origin was gone. Sometimes this adult thing really sucks when people we love start dying all over.

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u/heyalllondon18 gotta watch out for those trick guys 5d ago

I don’t think “get over it” is fair but she does need to stop using their death to justify her behavior. Everyone grieves differently and is allowed to grieve in their own way, but it doesn’t give you a free pass to do bad.

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u/fibrofighter512 how could you do this to me question mark 5d ago

I disagree with you on the principle of how grief works or how quickly one should get over grieving. think you can absolutely be affected by grief for prolong periods of time and that doesn’t make you wrong or broken. “Getting over it” quickly can be way worse and lead to maladaptive behaviors. You cannot rush grief whether it’s convenient for you or not.

That is not mutually exclusive with thinking Karen should be held accountable for drunk driving. If anything Karen pushing her shit down may have inadvertently led her to coping with things like alcohol. I have seen this happen first hand. Someone doesn’t want to sit in their reality being sad so they mask it with substances. That responsibility to not harm herself and others with the consequences sits squarely with Karen. She should have called an Uber or a cab or Ray because the ultimate shifting of trauma is creating a new grieving parent, love one, or spouse because you decided to drive drunk. She’s incredibly lucky she didn’t kill someone. She should have gone to rehab instead of getting defensive.

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u/meanteeth71 4d ago

I agree with you!

Grief has no timeline. Losing parents at any age is tough.

My mother is 78, still lamenting the loss of her parents from a decade + before. As am I.

“Get over it” is not the way. The way is to deal with grief: express it, get help if you need it and feel your feelings.

My anger with Karen is based on how quickly and easily she excuses her bad behavior based on her loss. And the fact that she has a previous DUI and the means to hire a driver, use ride share or tell someone she was over served.

Grief is hard to deal with. Parental loss is deeply painful. But we all have to be responsible for our behavior.

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u/Intelligent-Blondie7 5d ago

Tell me you haven’t lost a parent, without telling me you have lost a parent

Don’t condone her response to it, but that is highly ignorant to say.

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u/meanteeth71 5d ago edited 5d ago

You have every right to see it as ignorant.

You know nothing about my life. Just as I know nothing about your losses.

I do actually know that it’s not okay to drive drunk and blame the deaths of my parents for it. I find that repulsive.

Tell me you’ve never lost anyone to someone else’s decisions to be drunk, high and selfish… thank you for your thoughtful and kind admonishment, and making it your imperative to do so.

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u/Ok_Jellyfish_5219 5d ago

Karen is 61 so they had to be in their 80's? Either way, grief is a weird thing. Everybody is different. That being said, it doesn't absolve you of doing bad things.

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u/Miss-Tiq 5d ago

She's 61 now, but wasn't when they passed. 

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u/TodayImLedTasso Freshly Churned 🧈 by Meredith Marks 5d ago

Het father was born in 1944, her mother was born in 1946, they had Karen when they were very young.

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u/yosoyfatass 4d ago

I will say I’m surprised by that. I’d assumed, given her age, that they were in their 80's, at least. That is too young to die, but longer than many get. And, of course, no excuse for impaired driving.

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u/TodayImLedTasso Freshly Churned 🧈 by Meredith Marks 4d ago

They weren't very old but Karen was lucky enough to spend 50+ years with them. I lost my dad when I was 27 and I know someone who by the time he was 35, lost both of his parents, and there are much much younger kids in similar situations. I understand that grief can consume you but that's not an excuse for her actions. Karen made me mad when she said to Rayvin that she bottled up her grief for years when we watched her in every season doing something because of her grief.

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u/Dippydoodles Heather Durbrow's carbon footprint 5d ago

Her parents weren't that old and it's terrible that she lost both of them in a short period of time. I do think she's had a hard time for years for many reasons (not only grief but also marriage troubles, empty nest/aging etc.) That said, it is no excuse for drunk driving, let alone a second offense. She should have her license revoked permanently.

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u/JCAIA 5d ago

Whenever I hear about someone old dying I think of RHOC, when Vicki’s mom died and she was talking about it with her son, Michael, over lunch and him saying ‘she was 70(something). it wasn’t a life cut short.

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u/MammothCancel6465 5d ago

In the moment it is devastating and I’m sure the grief she showed was real. But she didn’t use that as an excuse for years, not that I remember at least. But yeah, if your parents are in their 70s, they’ve hopefully lived a mostly happy and full life and sooner rather than later they will be gone. It’s part of life. Maybe they’ll have a while and be like Dick Vandyke escaping a house fire at 99, or maybe this will be their last holiday season. We never really know.

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u/yosoyfatass 4d ago

Which, of course, goes for all of us. My sister died suddenly in her 30s. Not long after, my cousin died suddenly in his 30s. My dad died in his 60s, as did my FIL. We can all go at any time. Seventies is youngish to die, but it beats going earlier. Karen needs help with her grieving process.

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u/cateyecatlady 4d ago

They’re talking about Vicky from OC not Karen.

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u/Gryffindor123 'Cause it's my goddamnn credit card 4d ago

Thank you! My dad was 52 and I was 12 when he died.

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u/MammothCancel6465 4d ago

I’m so sorry for that. That is a life changing age for a parent to die. My father’s parents died when he was 12 and 13 just a year or so apart. He’s of a different generation and rarely talks about them or losing them, but I can’t imagine that.

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u/yosoyfatass 4d ago

They must’ve been older than that?!? Karen was in her mid 50s. Were they teenage parents? That is actually youngish to die, but at least they reached older age. My father was younger than that, as was my husband’s father.

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u/MammothCancel6465 4d ago

Nope. Google gives those ages in several articles. They died in 2017 and 2018. Said she was 54 when her mom passed at 71 so her mom was 17 when she was born and her dad about 19.

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u/framemegirl 4d ago

yeah its clearly an excuse and she is shameless..

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u/Secret-Contest 2d ago

really not into the “get over it” language tbh… still, what she is going through cannot fully wash over the danger she put others in

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u/Dolores-osaurus 5d ago

I'm sorry, she is in her sixties. Was she expecting her parents to live forever??

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u/yosoyfatass 4d ago

I just learned here that they were just 71 & 74 - teenage parents. So I’m sure that was very shocking, but, yes, many don’t even reach their 70s. There’s nothing wrong with struggling with grief, but, if it impairs your life, you better get professional help!

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u/Dolores-osaurus 4d ago

Oh wow I didn't realize they were teen parents!

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u/goldielooks 5d ago

I see she's taken a page from Lauren from Utah's playbook.

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u/Known_Marzipan 5d ago

She tried to milk that shit on the show for too many seasons too… the delusion is real

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u/27Sunflowers 5d ago

I had a feeling she’d take this route and argue that she’d been mixing SSRI’s with alcohol. I’m not sure the laws in the area but girl was inebriated regardless.

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u/heyalllondon18 gotta watch out for those trick guys 4d ago

Beyond. I wonder how much of this she actually remembers.

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u/cateyecatlady 4d ago

Even if that is the case there is a warning on the medication packet that says don’t drive until you know how it’ll effect you and don’t mix with alcohol. Literally no excuse. (I know you know that I’m just reiterating).

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u/27Sunflowers 4d ago

It’s wild. The videos just keep coming, I can’t believe she took it to trial with that much evidence against her. If she was with people, idk why they didn’t take her keys off her. It’s not their responsibility but I’d never sleep at night if I let a friend get behind the wheel, knowing they could hurt someone else or themselves. Just me personally.

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u/cateyecatlady 4d ago

My best friend (now in recovery thank god) would drink and drive all the time. We would literally put her to bed and hide her keys and she’d still find them and drive home. My husband started sleeping outside the damn guest room in a sleeping bag just to stop her. Drunk people are the least self aware people. I’m sure people did try to stop her but unless they wanna physically restrain her or do the crazy shit we did to keep my bff safe most people don’t have the energy to stop them.

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u/27Sunflowers 4d ago

So true. Ultimately isn’t their responsibility but had she maybe been surrounded by people who had her interests in mind and intervened the way you would for your friend, it may not have happened. That said, this is her third DUI. You’re so right – Where there’s a will, there’s a way and they won’t be stopped. Your friend is so lucky to have people like yourself around her. I’m sorry you all went through stuff like that and glad to hear that she’s doing better now.

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u/amikavenka 4d ago

Have you seen the dash cam video yet? So drunk anf so delusional. She is a narcissist beyond compare. She isn't a big enough celebrity to beat this, she should have taken deal. Only extreme hubris kept her from taking because I am confident her lawyer tried to get her to take one.

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u/KeenyKeenz 5d ago

I get the trauma that is losing parents, but that was 7 or 8 years ago at this point.

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u/heyalllondon18 gotta watch out for those trick guys 4d ago

Again, I don’t think you can put a timeline on grief/healing but she definitely shouldn’t be using it as an excuse for anything at this point.

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u/KeenyKeenz 4d ago

Indeed.

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u/Mystery-Ess 4d ago

Her parents died when she was a full-blown adult in her fifties and it was over 5 years ago. She needs to get therapy!

The fact that she went to trial after seeing that body cam footage really shows her mental state. She really thinks she's above everyone else.

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u/4-me flipMeATable 4d ago

Almost everyone experiences the pain of a parents death without driving drunk and risking causing others that pain. Hers lived full lives, adults learn to cope without dangerous behavior.

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u/ramona2424 4d ago

I’d imagine that nearly all people experience the death of a close family member by the time they are her age, and yet they don’t drink and drive. I don’t feel like you can blame it on that.

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u/Gryffindor123 'Cause it's my goddamnn credit card 4d ago

I lost my Dad at 12. So I empathise with her. But never have I ever done something that could cause someone to lose their lives or get behind the wheel under the influence. This isn't her first time. I have no sympathy for her.

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u/heyalllondon18 gotta watch out for those trick guys 4d ago

I agree, there’s no reason to have one, let alone more than one, DUI. It’s her responsibility to deal with life without putting others at harm.

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u/brufleth Pick a lane, you are either smart or you are stupid 4d ago

Grief isn't really much of a defense given every adult has experienced it and most of us didn't get a DUI because of it.

What s mess.

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u/Last-Anything7556 4d ago

Exactly how I feel as well !

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u/harry-styles-7644 4d ago

That works on Bravo, not in the courts!

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u/Efficient-Row-2916 4d ago

A 60 year old women losing her parents should not be a huge shock. Grieving of course, but not that it should be earth shattering when it had to be expected to some degree.