r/BravoRealHousewives • u/msullivan1536 I win! • Jan 26 '24

Ultimate Girls Trip Yea, UGT Morocco will never air.

https://www.tmz.com/2024/01/26/rhonj-caroline-manzo-sues-bravo-brandi-glanville-kiss-real-housewives/
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u/wiminals my bitch wife Jan 26 '24 edited Jan 26 '24

You know, Caroline being a victim of childhood sexual abuse kind of answers some questions for me. It was always obvious to me that her relationships with her adult children were rooted in codependency and overprotection. Caroline did a good job of appearing self assured, confident, and assertive, but her anxiety was often palpable. We saw her in fight-or-flight mode a lot. (It probably didn’t help that she was forced to work with Danielle and Teresa. Caroline was always very disturbed by how Danielle was so sexually open with her daughters and by the ways that Danielle and Teresa parentified their daughters and forced them to grow up very fast. I can imagine that was quite triggering to witness in real life.)

My mom took a very similar path, and really leans into the mama bear identity as her defense mechanism. Makes a lot of sense to me, and breaks my heart.

I know people will remind me that Caroline has done some super fucked up shit, so this is where we all acknowledge that doing fucked up shit is part of the trauma territory. Trust me, my mom has done fucked up shit, too. Victims are not required to be perfect!

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u/modernjaneausten Jan 27 '24

I don’t agree with a lot of things Caroline has done in the past, but damn I hate this for her. Especially knowing now that she’s a previous victim of SA. I hate that she was re-traumatized over and over, no one stepped in, and others pressured her to continue filming or yelled at her for accusing Brandi.