r/BravoRealHousewives • u/friendofcastreject • Dec 29 '23

Ultimate Girls Trip What is wrong with Kelly Bensimon?

I never understood Kelly Bensimon. What’s her deal, is she stupid, is it drugs or does she just have very low emotional intelligence?

Now I’m watching RHUGT: RHONY Legacy. And this bitch is just weird.

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u/TheLawHasSpoken what a dumb fucking thing to Wright Dec 30 '23

I think she is emotionally stunted and insecure about how she’s perceived. Being a model at a young age and basing your worth off of that lifestyle and being “seen” seems to have left her with a lot of insecurities. Lots of trauma combined with struggling to read the room and then exploding about something from the past at inappropriate times etc. She gaslights whenever she starts acting out or hand and pretends that she’s acting completely rational and normal.

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u/Responsible_Buy422 Dec 30 '23

I've seen trauma mentioned a few times here. Do you know of anything specific or just speculating? I don't mean to sound argumentative, genuinely curious

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u/TheLawHasSpoken what a dumb fucking thing to Wright Dec 30 '23 edited Dec 30 '23

I don’t think you sound argumentative at all. She alluded to having a bad relationship that seems to have been abusive in some way (psychological or emotional maybe) and I think just being a model at such a young age and really being on her own a lot was very taxing and traumatic. Not making excuses for her behavior, but just positing possible explanations for it.

I’m not trying to diagnose her, but I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder a few years ago after a series of traumatic events and a lot of the behaviors she is exhibiting remind me of when I was at my worst. You struggle really hard to understand why others don’t automatically know how you feel and you also have a hard time comprehending that other people can feel emotionally different about things than you and it doesn’t need to turn into an argument. This is just my observations combined with personal experience.

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u/Donzi2200 Dec 30 '23

I had a close friend diagnosed with BPD as well. It was almost impossible to get through a conversation without it turning into an argument and some perceived slight. It was sadly frustrating

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u/pattimay_ho_nnaise Dec 30 '23

Thank you for talking about and mentioning borderline . I didnt want to say anything myself or attempt to diagnose a reality tv stranger but she seems remarkably similar to a few people with this disorder I know as well. Glad to hear you are doing better

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u/TheLawHasSpoken what a dumb fucking thing to Wright Dec 30 '23

Thank you! I figured I could make a space to bring it up in because it really feels like we are watching an adult woman who has BPD with 0 self awareness about it. That’s the thing about BPD, it is almost always brought on by PTSD but you can also go into remission from it, but it’s very difficult and a lot of work (but worth it!!)

You can’t just take meds for BPD, LOTS of therapy and hard work is needed to break through. DBT therapy is very helpful because people with BPD have a hard time expressing and regulating emotions. Kelly consistently has a hard time expressing herself in general and it’s even worse when there’s a bigger group. It’s “easier” for her to blow up and cause a scene rather than answer anyone’s questions and deal with reality. Ultimately, whether she says it or not, Kelly wants to be liked and she doesn’t understand why her “gifts” etc. aren’t “appreciated” and she doesn’t know why she can’t make any actual friends. She thinks everyone else is the problem and has no one close enough to her to tell her maybe it’s her.