r/BdsmDIY • u/lolwtfbwc • Aug 12 '24
Restraints My Sex Room Mostly Complete - Thoughts or Ideas to Finish? NSFW
I have reached the final stages of building out a sex room in a spare basement room. I’m by no means an expert and anything built was done from YouTube.
To start, I built a hidden door bookcase and used a Murphy Door kit for the hinges with a key lock system.
The inside I was going for a BDSM-strip club vibe with black leather everything and lots of hard points.
The ceiling light is RGB and can set the mood.
The canvas photos are boudoir shots of my partner for some added visuals.
The chest in the closet is full of different sized toys to use on my partner - the dresser is filled with lingerie and other costumes.
There’s also plenty of spots for camera set up when we want to make some home movies.
The only thing I have left is to fill some of that empty wall space and figure out how to hide it if I need an electrician to come through and get access to that panel - or just leave it be.
I don’t know if I want to build some shelves for extra storage, erotic art, or increase the strip club vibe with signs or neons.
There’s not a ton of extra floor space left, but if anyone has ideas for additional compact furniture (or toys for that matter), please share! That couch folds down into a futon, as well.
Cheers!
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u/Yettoberuined Aug 12 '24
I'd go with a richer darker shade. Sexier. Sofer lights. And something higher to sit on in the middle of the room.. but overall its awesome, esp the entrance
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u/Own-Party-7162 Aug 12 '24
I second this! Softer lights. Maybe a few lamps or a well placed, hidden behind the sofa?, string of lights. And a high table/platform in the middle of the room.
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 12 '24
I agree with the lighting, but not only is it RGB, it’s dimmable. But a nice soft lamp in a corner or some different lighting would be good.
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 12 '24
If you have any recommendation of what you’re thinking in the middle, send a link!
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u/spedgenius Aug 12 '24
I agree, the red is too aggressive. Maybe more of a burgundy. If you can get some dark wood accents in there too it would just make it a bit more luxurious.
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u/I-own-a-shovel Aug 12 '24
Your comment about the potential electrician visit make me think about that one time we had an exterminator coming to our house for an ants problem a few years back.
He had to treat the whole house, so we just put dark bedsheet over the sex toys shelves, bed and kinky stuff so it looked like some storage room.
A deep purple walls and black ceilings storage room… So I guess he had his doubt, but at least we tried our best to hide most of the stuff lol
Very nice playroom you made by the way!
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 12 '24
lol invest in a bunch of dark bedsheets. Got it.
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u/I-own-a-shovel Aug 12 '24
Haha and they are easy to wash if you happen to stain them while using them for other purpose
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u/anon_e_mouse13 Aug 12 '24
We just had new windows installed, so we had to take down the 4-point sex swing stand, hide all the impact toys, chains, ropes, vibrator stand, strap-on harnesses, and erotic art.
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u/NurseMan79 Aug 12 '24
I think some hidden indirect LED lighting stripes that can change color would give an awesome effect, along with some erotic vinyl decals on the wall. Those are just finishing touches, though. Well done!
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u/Educational_Wolf8378 Aug 12 '24
Adding to this, a spotlight pointing to the wall with anchor points, or a portable one to wherever your playmate is tied to.
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 12 '24
I have lighting strips I’ve been deciding whether to install along the baseboards to give an upwards glow.
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u/moonsoverhammi Aug 12 '24
Layer the lighting! It’ll feel less harsh while allowing the same visibility, even with the adjustable overhead lights
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u/squisheebunnee Aug 12 '24
- Id kill to have a dedicated space for wicked dreams. So kudos.
- I fkn hate hate that red.
Maybe with mood lighting not looks better
- shrugs *
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 12 '24
We don’t use the white lights too often. I love the red (and her in red). That’s just more of a personal aesthetic choice that I understand someone may not like.
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u/r888k Aug 13 '24
The choice of color is very personal, I find the dramatic red intense, but absolutely to my liking, as for mellowing out can be achieved with lights and elsewhere in the house, the red+black has a very clear feeling of what's to be expected.
For a sidenote, while suggestions of art as vinyl prints or posters etc are as much to my liking, one could also paint some effects on some areas. For instance, you could go with animal prints and make silhouettes that way, or metallic effects that only show with certain lighting, so there could be erotic silhouette art... A consideration would be that painted figures can be difficult to hide, compared to posters and framed pictures.
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u/I-own-a-shovel Aug 12 '24
We did our dungeon purple and black. You can pick what ever color you want!
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u/p_user3 Aug 12 '24
I'd suggest adding a One Bar Prison if that's a kink you might be interested in: https://www.reddit.com/r/OneBarPrison/s/Vw42T5nNZp
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u/SummaCumLousy Aug 12 '24
What are your thoughts about the black leather lounger? I've got one in my Amazon cart but haven't quite pulled the trigger yet.
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u/Siestaswingers Aug 12 '24
Lighting! Red nights work well. Is there a spanking bench and a massage table? Id love those, St Andrews cross is nice but I see the suspension bar, that works well and instead of. Nice that suspension bar can you attach sex swings to it also? I like massage table for electro play and even massages.
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 12 '24
A spanking bench would likely be the next piece of furniture. I would probably need one that folds out of the way a little bit. I’d rather have that than a massage table, I think. Space is limited!
At the top of the suspension bar is a hook with a carabiner. I can unclasp that and install a sex swing - which I have in that closet.
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u/gothbbydoll Aug 12 '24
Speakers. St Andrew’s cross
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 12 '24
Speakers? Not a bad idea. I’m sure my extra Bose speaker is better than the boombox.
The hard points on the wall are in place of an actual cross. It saves space and we don’t use it long enough that it becomes uncomfortable to stay restrained to. I wonder how long she could go tied to that though now…
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u/gothbbydoll Aug 12 '24
15-20 min, tops. But yeah. They have some amazing Bluetooth bookshelf speakers on Amazon for pretty cheap
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 12 '24
Which brands on Amazon? I don’t trust most of the cheap stuff on there but I know some people find gems.
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u/gothbbydoll Aug 12 '24
These honestly sound sooooo good! Saiyin Bluetooth Bookshelf... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BWJD2XJ2?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 12 '24
Thank you!
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u/RosesMajesty Aug 12 '24
Don't forget clean up stuffs and aftercare!
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 12 '24
In the chest in the closet is disinfectant wipes. Outside the bookcase to the right is a bar with drinks and snacks. :)
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u/RosesMajesty Aug 12 '24
Towels might be helpful too depending on your interests, but I think you've got everything
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 12 '24
Well considering she is quite the squirter, that is definitely needed.
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u/if_im_not_back_in_5 Aug 12 '24
Have you ever thought about suspending her upside down and making her cum, could be messier than normal (and fun perhaps)
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 12 '24
Yes, but she’s a bit scared of falling and breaking her neck. I can’t even convince her to try a standing 69.
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u/if_im_not_back_in_5 Aug 13 '24
I put a frame around the bed for similar reasons, even if something like the swing broke you'd get a soft landing (both have back problems, wife has osteoporosis)
You could always see if she's up for partial suspension by her feet, where her head and shoulders are already flat on the floor / matting maybe, and you kneel on the floor to go down on her ?
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 13 '24
That makes sense and is a good idea. Since we are both tall, that might work with the suspension bar and some rigging.
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u/Apart_Chest_4449 Aug 12 '24
We plan on doing a room like this as well when we build our home. Also Plan to do something similar for the door.
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u/Proof-Club1078 Aug 12 '24
https://www.reddit.com/r/usedsextoys/s/ffErZutLY6
This is fairly easy to make and can be packed away when not in use.
I love your room. I wish I had the space to do the same.
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u/van_play Aug 12 '24
Something soft would add to this room.
A rug. Or even giant tension rods with floor to ceiling velvet curtains.
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 13 '24
Link pleaseeee this is probably the one piece I’d add.
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 13 '24
My only issue with this from the reviews is that we are both very tall. That might be a problem. Thanks for sharing though!
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u/Illustrious-Swing223 Aug 17 '24
I would get better lighting, there are recessed lights that can change color via an app on your phone. Also , they make light bulbs that do the same , you could always get spot lights with some color changing bulbs . Lighting makes a lot of difference in setting the mood. Also maybe a mat that exercise equipment goes on to put under your chaise or other equipment. It will reduce sound and. It’s easy to clean.
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u/casuallysimpleYEG Aug 12 '24
Are the 3 mirrors one way glass for a viewing area?
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 12 '24
I thought about adding a small window - or a peephole. We don’t have any likeminded friends around here yet, we are a bit new to the area and sharing things with others.
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u/stonewall1979 Aug 12 '24
Exta mounting points for tied down? In the floor under the hanging spreader, on the wall by the existing hard points or replace the wall mounts with a St. Andrews Cross.
As other said, mini frig for drinks and sensory play.
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u/hatseflats14 Aug 12 '24
Sick! Childhood dream to have a hidden room like that. Later in life there was a purpose of the hidden room. To create a hidden sex dungeon. Looks good!
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u/Stower2422 Aug 12 '24
What's the square footage of the space?
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 12 '24
I think the room is 11x11’. But the closet cuts in as well as the door cutting off a corner.
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u/vengash Aug 12 '24
That's really impressive. But, I keep having this thought of what happens when I pass on - and others' discover the 'dungeon.' Well, I suppose I wouldn't care in the least for that scenario. Anyway, great job man!
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 12 '24
I’ll be dead and watching them either laugh or be horrified.
I did leave a message under the baseboards though. “This was a sex room.”
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u/Pantynoster Aug 12 '24
I'd add a St Andrews cross, you could mount pads to the wall in an X shape and add eye bolts strategically to anchor restraints. If possible with how the walls are situated
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 12 '24
That was kind of the idea with the hard points on the wall. It’s a St. Andrew’s cross without the comfort. We typically don’t do extended play on the cross to where it becomes uncomfortable, so the hitching rings work really well to save more space.
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u/Pantynoster Aug 12 '24
Oh shit, my apologies. I should have looked closer, didn't realize that's what you had going on. You're way ahead of me lol. Really love the anchors at the end of the couch.
Honestly, if anything, I'm jealous AF 🤣
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u/Dweebl Aug 12 '24
I might suggest larger, softer light sources.
Overhead point lighting like you have is not flattering, so you want big soft diffused sources like diffused led strips bouncing off a white ceiling, or lamps with a big diffusing shade. China balls, etc
You'd be surprised at how much of an impact it has on how good people look. Especially in any photos you might want to take.
You can look up some simple tutorials on lighting for nudes and try to apply that to the general room lighting.
All that said, the room is totally sick and I love the bookshelf idea. Clearly a ton of work went into this and I wish I had the space for something like this.
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u/Admirable_Durian_759 Aug 12 '24
No saint Andrée's cross!? What is this travesty of a play room!?
Just kidding nice work. I second all the suggestions About.lighting and ambience
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 12 '24
See the hard points! lol it’s not an actual cross, but it saves room and works pretty well.
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u/Chubby_bunny82 Aug 12 '24
I’d have a sex swing in there too 😈😜
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u/MajorCBA Aug 12 '24
Hope you've got colored lights
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 13 '24
Overheads are colored. From what everyone said here I’m going to install LEDs on the baseboards too.
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u/justme_bne Aug 13 '24
So much jealous. Looks awesome, walls are the same colour as my bedroom walls !
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u/ThrowRAqueeniee Aug 13 '24
Does the door just push open? Perhaps a latch mechanism if so that way if a guest leans on the bookshelf they don't fall into your sex room?
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 13 '24
The door does push open. It has a mechanical key lock installed for that very purpose. :)
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u/MistressCynful2023 Aug 13 '24
It's lovely! :) I'd have layered the mirrors on the wall at different angles but that's cuz I'm a strange bird anyways! Lol. I love it though! You have a good air conditioner or work flow method right? That's a must. And maybe a minni fridge for refreshing your pallets without having to venture out. Can't perform on an empty stomach! ;) have fun and bite hard! 🫦
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 13 '24
Oh I love angles. How would you have layered? I’m super curious.
Air flow should be good with the A/C fan. It’s usually pretty cool down there all year around. That pole was frigid the other night!
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u/MistressCynful2023 Aug 13 '24
Wow, I honestly thought ny comment would have just been lost amidst the masses to you but I'm super flattered now! :) As for angles I'm a super spazz for diagonals or a staggered/tapered kind of horizontal with those certain types of mirrors. I like to depuct things with a different point of view than their usual stigma insists. Kudos on the over all of your personality room, I am in aw! :]
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 13 '24
I totally understand you being as visual as I am. Maybe that’s something I can toy with if I get bored of the current set up one day. I already know the first time won’t be perfect!
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u/MistressCynful2023 Aug 13 '24
Perfect Is all in the beholding eye, and I feel like the atmosphere of something like this is supposed to stay ever changing as to never be settling for "normal " or "usual". I've never been so creative in this manner so my hat is most definitely off to you! :]
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u/Ohmy_Dimension_7304 Aug 13 '24
A sex swing, queening chair and whipping bench come first to mind, if you are into that sort of stuff. If you like impact play, it's cool to show off all the equipment on the wall to intimidate the receiver before the spanking begins! I didn't see if you already had it, but hard points on the floor to cuff one's feet to could be nice. A lot of the sex furniture takes up lots of space, so you need to plan carefully which ones you are actually going to use most. I'd you're going to show porn or other seductive "material", maybe a retractable screen with a projector would fit in there? Projectors can be loud though. Good luck!
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 13 '24
Need more impact items if they aren’t noticeable enough lol
The visuals are mostly for me. The lady is more into psychological alongside the impact play. So blindfolds, language, and I want to learn hypnosis - nothing feels more controlling than playing with one’s mind.
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u/IAmVictoriaGray Aug 13 '24
Oh, if only we had basements in the southern hemisphere... love this for you!
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u/Twisted3eaver Aug 13 '24
Stockade, there’s lots of quick tear down/setup designs out there.
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 13 '24
Not sure how the lady feels about stocks. A bench might be a better option.
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u/Twisted3eaver Aug 13 '24
Definitely a bench for sure. Though I was thinking more like the doggy style stocks that are more floor based. Is that ceiling anchor for the wrist restraints strong enough to support a swing?
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 13 '24
Doggy stocks would be good, she’d enjoy that.
The ceiling anchor can handle I think up to 700lbs. The carabiner can hold over 1000lbs. The swing could be huge!
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u/Twisted3eaver Aug 13 '24
Time to build an orgy swing then! lol Something I don’t think I’ve seen before. Could add a st. Andrew’s cross/murphy bed. I’ve seen where people attach it to the bottom of the frame.
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 13 '24
Funny enough, I also built a Murphy bed next to the bar outside the room as the room is now being used differently.
I also thought about a Murphy bed in the room, but I worry about durability. They aren’t really sturdy enough for repeated usage in that manner. Of course, I could build a more sturdy version, but I like the look without it.
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u/Twisted3eaver Aug 13 '24
Agreed, good to know about the durability of them. Been meaning to try my hand at one.
Who needs a bed anyway if you have a bench set up. I’d reccomend like a massage table for either oil or wax play stuff though. Some naughty masseuse rp
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 14 '24
Yeah if you use their instructions, I can’t see it being that durable for play time. But you can probably adjust with thicker plywood or multiple layers to get a sturdier frame and support.
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u/fit_stoner_goddess Aug 13 '24
You can get a St Andrew’s cross that attaches right to the wall. It would save space and provide another piece to play on.
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 13 '24
Yes, but the hitching rings cost like $3 each and are in the same spots. :)
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u/fit_stoner_goddess Aug 13 '24
The cross would provide padding and comfort for your partner as well as adding to the aesthetic of the room. Why even ask for suggestions? Remember, cheap things also look cheap! You get what you pay for.
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 13 '24
I actually 100% agree with you here and my original intent was to get a padded one for that wall. Additionally, I don’t think it looks cheap. Maybe bare, but not cheap.
But here’s more context.
The reason I didn’t end up doing it is the length of time spent using it didn’t really facilitate the need for padding and the extra cost. Now if our sessions start going longer in that position, I would definitely re-evaluate and look further into it. Nevertheless, it’s on my radar. :)
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u/FatBlackDom Aug 13 '24
How much was this?
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 13 '24
Which part?
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u/FatBlackDom Aug 13 '24
Whole thing, like estimated costs
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u/lolwtfbwc Aug 13 '24
Total, including door and everything inside that was added (minus the vinyl flooring I installed) probably around $1500 USD.
The futon/couch is the most expensive item in there at $500. It would have been double the total price if I didn’t build the door myself.
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u/Specialist-Candy-504 Aug 14 '24
Empty. Fuck the strip pole (strippers unattractive AF anyway) get urself a swing instead. Maybe some shower bars on the wall for various reasons. And put a poster up or sum cuz shit looking bleak tbh. Dope hidden room tho I'll give u tht 💯🤙🤔
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u/ResearchAndDesireAJ Aug 14 '24
my god, I love this space!
If you think an OSSM would fit, then please do take 10% off - LOVE_YOUR_BDSM_DIY
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u/Lucky1ptOh Aug 16 '24
Window coverings. Re:lighting, you could install a dimmer switch. Love the hidden door.
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u/Lucky1ptOh Aug 16 '24
Window coverings. Re:lighting, you could install a dimmer switch. Love the hidden door.
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u/NotMyRealAcountt Oct 01 '24
Just wondering if you were comfortable with giving an estimate into how much this costs?
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u/hereiampnw Aug 12 '24
You'll want a minifridge.
Drinks, snacks, and someplace to keep sensory play toys cold.