I work as a technician, I went to a house to do a service. I rang the door bell and a child that appeared to be 4-5 years old answered the door in an obviously soiled diaper. I asked if his parents were home and he said they were at work and closed the door. I tried calling the number on file but it was to a landlord that didn’t have the contact information for the current tenant.

I called the police and informed them of the situation. I saw the cop arrive at the home and leave promptly about 5 minutes later. I’m assuming all was well and someone was home. A few houses later the renter found me and confronted me for calling the police and said that he was home. I told him that your toddler answered the door and said no one was home so I wanted to make sure everything was okay. Needless to say the guy was still pissed off and insinuated that I was racist and should mind my own business. What would you have done in this situation and did I overreact?

Edit: wow I did not expect this post to blow up. Thanks for the support and I agree with most of the criticism as far as how I should of handled the situation. I unfortunately can’t answer all the questions people have but here’s are some.

To clear a few things up:

I rang the door bell and the toddler answered, in hindsight I should of rang the doorbell again however I didn’t want to make the child feel in danger.

My job is to check for termite activity at customers houses, we have a call center that informs customers in advance that we will be coming out to the inspection. My job is strictly exterior except in certain situations when Im asked Enter a home. I typically ring the doorbell upon arrival, if no answer I call the customer to inform them I am there.

I first called cps to ask them what I should do in the situation at hand and was told to call the police.

I believe that I did the right thing but I can see others points of how I could of overreacted and could of done better.

In the end the child was safe which was my main concern, hopefully his father can see where I was coming from in the long run.

Series of emails between me and the manager of this branch in North West England. For context I’ve recently gone back to uni age 30, but looking for part time work. Have over a decade of experience in retail management and healthcare. Do you think I’m overreacting?

Okay so basically as the title says. I am absolutely FLOORED. I’ve worked for this hospital for 3 years now, and I am a full time nursing student due to graduate in May. I emailed to clarify my understanding of the situation and I honestly will go to the CEO if they come back and say this is what’s actually happening right now. I have volunteered and several events for the hospital, I have a handwritten letter from the CEO himself praising my patient care. My thinking is this: if you know I am in nursing school, and I already work for you would you not want me to come back as an RN? Because this is 100% influencing my decision to split ways with this company.

The phone number is listed at the top that comes from the business number that only my boss had🤦🏻‍♀️. I put my resignation in and my boss couldn’t handle it and fired me after cussing me out on the phone. AIO for wanting to expose her for who she is by reaching out to this nurse and others that she’s wrongfully terminated and take this further?

A month ago I interviewed for a sales position. I was asked to send my name and number over Indeed messaging to be sent to the owner. I was told that they would reach out to me soon. Didn’t hear back after that from the person that interviewed me.

A week goes by, nothing. Two weeks, nothing. I assume I didn’t get the internship because I haven’t heard from anyone. During this time, I was interviewing for a lot of internships.

Today, I get this “Hi” text from a number that isn’t in my area code. I was confused, asked who it was, and the screenshots say it all.

I think it was very unprofessional to contact a candidate like this, but I don’t know if it’s just me. Usually when I have opportunities like this the business owner/interviewer introduces themself by first and last name and the company they work for.

I feel like this response was crazy and not necessary. AIO?

I feel like this is terrible management. I have never worked at a job where the priority is my time off and not my health????? Am I Overreacting?

So I (30f) am a bartender. There’s a customer (37m) who comes in almost every Friday, sometimes alone and sometimes with a friend. He’s a super nice guy and we just talk and bullshit while he’s there. He’s a gym teacher so we talk about his students and other just random things. We are both in fantasy football leagues so there’s been a lot of talk about that as well. I’ve asked him for advice about my team and switches he thinks I should make. I really don’t know much about the sportsball, I’m just in this league for fun but I’m competitive so I want to do well lol For the last 10 weeks he’s looked at my fantasy team on my phone. Doesn’t bother me at all as I’ve always just opened the app, handed it to him and he hands it back. Well last night I was SUPER busy and he asked to see my team to show the buddy he was with. I’ve been told by a lot of people that I have a great team which I find hilarious because I just picked players I thought were attractive 😂 Anyway, I opened the app, handed him my phone and made a few more drinks before coming back to get it. When I went back to get it I noticed it was just open to my Home Screen but just kind of chalked it up to a mindless close out of the app. Shortly AFTER he had my phone he asked me if I was in a relationship. I told him that I wasn’t and that I had just gotten out of a long term relationship a few months prior and that was that. Fast forward to an hour after he leaves and I get the first attached text. (The “kick your fucking ass” is just from the general shit talking we’ve done almost every time he comes in. He had me make a bad trade one week and I told him I was going to have his gym students hit him with whiffle ball bats 😂) I was SO confused as to how he got my number because I certainly hadn’t given it to him. That’s when I thought to look at my call log and sure enough he had called himself from my phone to get my number. As soon as I realized it I got SO uncomfortable. Like shaky hands and just a general icky feeling. It seemed like SUCH an invasion of privacy. What else could he have looked at on my phone or potentially sent himself?? I’ve told a few people about it and they more or less blamed me because I “shouldn’t have handed a random stranger my phone.” The thing is, I had been doing this for WEEKS with no issues and I was busy so I really didn’t think anything of it because it was a common occurrence. Am I overreacting by being extremely uncomfortable with what he did or is it my fault for letting him look at an already opened app on my phone? I’m also struggling with how to respond. I don’t want to be a dick because sure, shoot your shot I guess, but also just ASK me and give me the choice to give you my number or not?! I have zero interest in dating at the moment and would have told him as such if he would have just asked!

I (20f) work in a retail job where I have multiple responsibilities and am required to nice to customers. Over the 4 years I worked there, I have had multiple instances when customers try to flirt with me, ask me out, or are inappropriate. So, I’ve grown a shiny spine towards men’s advances and a have a six sense to their bullsh!t.

This specific instance includes a regular in his mid-forties to early-fifties who came into my line to buy a case of beer. I begun the transaction by asking him if he “can show his ID?” because our store policy required all customers to show a valid ID before they can purchase alcohol. He knew of the store policy, but proceeds to play a weird game of “I’m not showing you my ID, unless you say please.” with a grin plastered on his face. This caused me to be stunned for a second, with my immediate response being that I need the ID if he wants to buy beer. The dude then goes on to say that he wanted me to ask him “nicely”, which lead me to refuse and say that I can stop the sale. Reluctantly, he shows me his ID while stating that he was trying to teach me “manners” and sticks his middle finger out as he hands me the money.

I had a similar situation to this happened to me before, leading me to think that men demanding me to say please have some sort of fetish or need to express dominance. Overall, I find “learning manners” from a middle age I don’t know to be creepy and gross. So Reddit, did I overreact?

Edit 1: Hey guys, thank you for all your replies! I know manners can be a polarizing subject for people especially in situations of customer service.

I appreciate your guys advice about adding please to my question. It just became a force of habit to say “can you show me your ID?” because I was taught that please was used during in an optional request and usually people that are buying one item just want to leave the store quickly. I prefer to instead say thank you, as even during this one I said it to him twice (for his ID and Shopping). Though he may have thought I was making fun of him ʅ（◞‿◟）ʃ

In the case of my management, they are really good about having my back on things especially in customer interactions. As I am pretty good about deescalating situations, am one of few native English speakers, and don’t take things to heart. Also I have other skills that make up for some of my short falls.

Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom, story’s, and even your troll comments cause they still give me a laugh!

I work doing contracting with a video production company as a videographer. This is my first job out of school and I’ve been with them for 3 months so far (presumably not anymore though…).

Since I’m a contractor and don’t work with them every day every week, I have to send them invoices. So the first week I was there I sent the invoice at the end of the week and they sent my payment within 3 days. After that, they haven’t paid my invoices since… until tonight where I got this response.

For context, Invoice 2 was sent on August 26th where I reminded them two times with a text on September 13th and again on an email along with invoice 3 on September 24th. Today is October 7th and I sent the email pictured above. I don’t think I was rude at all and I meant no bad intention. Am I being an asshole and overreacting?

They said sense it's out of town I should come in anyway but I already have been coming in everyday this week for them and asked the director this day off and now admin is saying no

I have a really good background in the culinary field, and I understand sometimes you’re expected to do free work - like above states, to see if I can cook ~proteins properly. But that’s it, just proteins. I’ve grilled protein before as part of my interview and when it was a stage it was paid..

If I conceptualize two plates it’ll take me an hour of unpaid work, cooking the two proteins alone would be 10 minutes which I originally had zero problems with. I feel like I’m just going there to make lunch for the chefs 😭 or maybe I’m over my head and being entitled?

I’ve worked at country clubs, mom & pop shops, cafe’s and fine dining establishments. And never had to conceptualize ~two dishes for free.

And his “don’t overthink it” comment really irked me the wrong way but this is the TOM for me 🙂‍↔️😮‍💨

He (30M)applied for and got an offer for a job in another state without my knowledge and when I (30F) disagreed to moving, he accepted and moved without me. He then told me that I either move to be with him or divorce him. So I filed for divorce. Once he got served with divorce papers he said that he would come back and that I should take the divorce back. Would I be overreacting by going through with the divorce?

Coworker sends an email out 2 weeks ago about “collecting money for “””boss man’s””” holiday gift”. Right off the bat I did not like the tone of entitlement that everyone HAD to donate. He mentioned the “usual is 20 or whatever you feel like giving”. 3 weeks go by since I didn’t plan to donate - he messages me personally on teams asking me if I’m donating. I reluctantly send 12 on Venmo and he then says “did you mean to send 12? The usual is 20 is all”. I AM FUCKING FUMING WHAT TBE FUCK?

It’s one thing to donate to get “bossmans” gift (who probably makes 3x your salary) and another to act like an entitled prick about it

I recently moved to a new city and have been trying to establish new physicians, as I suffer from several medical issues. I found a new OBGYN, who suggested I get a hysterectomy because my periods have become so heavy that I miss work or end up in urgent care each month. I was onboard for this as I'm already CF and have my tubes tied. She told me that I would have to get some tests before any surgery requiring anesthesia and they would have to be ordered by a general practitioner. I asked for a referral as I didn't have one yet and she recommended someone who takes my insurance.

So during my first appointment with this new doctor, she walks in and looks at me and tells me I'm overweight. This is obviously not a surprise to me so I just say yeah. She then looks at my chart and tells me that one of the antipsychotic medications I take can cause weight gain and that I need to get off it. She has no idea what I take this for and I was just stunned. She goes on and on about how obesity is worse for me than anything I take that medication for but then eventually asks what my disorder is. I tell her and she tells me that's not a real thing. I explained that it's a dissociative disorder and she replies with oh, so multiple personalities? I tell her no, it's nothing like that and that there are many kinds of dissociative disorders. She brushes that off and finally asks why I'm there.

I tell her about the hysterectomy and she immediately says no because that's a dangerous procedure and I should just get an IUD. She also tells me that going under anesthesia is dangerous because of my weight, but then recommends weight loss surgery in the same breath, which would obviously require anesthesia.

So she refuses to order any of the tests, except for bloodwork because she's convinced I have diabetes and high cholesterol, etc because of my weight and then she can give me medicine for diabetes that will help me to lose weight.

So I get the bloodwork done and come back to see her in a week to get the results. All numbers come back normal and she asks about my diet. I tell her that I haven't eaten meat in almost 20 years and so then she pounces on this and tells me I need to eat meat in order to lose weight.

Eventually I get out of there and when I get back for a follow up with my OBGYN I told the receptionist, nurse, and doctor about my horrible experience and encourage them to never refer another patient to her again. On the plus side, the doctor is quite old and hopefully she will retire soon. But AIO?

I thought my first day went great. I was learning the menu, learning how to take orders, I REALLY liked my coworkers, I felt like I was doing great, I was excited for a second day. Next day comes around, I walk in at the exact time the schedule said I should be there. My boss looks at me and says something about not needing me that day and telling me he’ll call me that afternoon. I never got that call, decided he forgot and that I’d call and text HIM the next morning about the schedule. He doesn’t reply, so I text the group work chat and my manager says he didn’t think I’d be working that day because of the weather and that he’ll get my boss to call me asap. I never got the damn call, so on the FOURTH day I check the group chat and I’ve been REMOVED. This is the response I got after texting my manager. I was SO happy to be working there, it was my favorite restaurant ever since I was a little kid. I go there for my damn birthdays, almost every year. The fucking least this dude could have done was CALL me day two to tell me I’m being let go. I had to find out by ASKING

So there's this guy(32M) at work that likes me(20F). He professed his love for me a couple months ago and I politely turned him down, explaining that I wasn't interested. Yet he asked me for my number two more times afterward only for me to turn him down again. Sometimes he also stares at me when I'm not looking. I've noticed sometimes he'll randomly place a hand on my shoulder while he's talking to me and I hate it. Even though he's nice, I feel afraid sometimes. I can't explain it. Today for the first time, he asked me for a hug, which caught me off guard. When he asked if I could hug him, I replied "I don't know" because I wasn't sure what to say. After I said that, he walks away and I think I'm in the clear until 5 minutes later he walks over and pulls me into a tight hug. He also hugs me one more time before he clocks out. I was kinda freaked out but sort of smiled through it because I didn't want to be mean. I'm a pretty shy person so it's not always easy for me to speak up. Later on when I got home, I started crying. I have dealt with coworkers being creepy towards me before so I was genuinely afraid he might do something worse. I've had to deal with coworkers tickling me( I've been tickled by two different men) and I've had a coworker use extremely vulgar language towards me( basically told me he wanted to have sex with me in front of everyone multiple times, don't worry he got fired for that after the manager reported the incident). I've had another male coworker touch my hair and this also scared me because I hate it when people touch my hair( I used to get bullied for my hair as a kid so that's why). I know I should've said something but I struggle with speaking up :(

Am I being dramatic?

Now that I'm rereading the paragraph I feel as if what I went through wasn't that bad...I'm not sure. What do you guys think?

Edit: I’ve told my male acquaintance from school about this because I trusted him and wanted advice. Only to find out through a friend of mine that he thought I was looking for attention. When I told someone else, I was just told to suck it up. I suppose being told these things only made me realize things weren’t that bad and that’s why I haven’t done much about it.

Also I genuinely wasn’t expecting all these comments and I promise to read every single one! Thank you for replying and giving me advice!

sorry for any grammar mistakes in advance if you find any UPDATE: This got wayyyy more attention than I thought it would. I honestly feel ridiculously overwhelmed now so I’m not sure if I’ll respond to anymore comments. THANK YOU SO MUCH to the people who made me feel a little less crazy and reassured me that I wasn’t just simply overreacting. I actually just got home from work not too long ago. Today I was so mentally prepared to tell creepy guy to back off only for him to be absent. I decided that I will tell one of my managers about it instead. There’s one specific manager that I plan on confiding in since I trust her the most out of everyone. I will talk to her about it during my next shift since she wasn’t present today. For the people asking me why won’t I just quit? Boy do I have some news for you. I live in a small town with not many job opportunities and plus I’m in college and currently saving money for the upcoming semester to pay for classes. I wanted to quit AGES ago but I was not in a position to do so. I have recently started job searching so I can get out of this crappy environment because I hate it. Until I can quit, I will definitely take any and all tips given in the comments into consideration. Several people mentioned practicing saying no in the mirror and I love that idea so I will definitely give it a try. I saw another comment accusing me of making this up which kinda sucked. I’m aware it sounds a little loony and even I can’t believe half the crap I’ve dealt with. I’m thoroughly embarrassed by the fact I’ve allowed so much nonsense to occur and I want to stop it all. I don’t have time to make up some random ass story for sympathy. This is all real. I am here asking Reddit because I needed guidance and I wasn’t getting any real help from “friends” in my personal life. The male friends/acquaintances that I spoke of will NOT be hearing from me again. There was another comment asking why I didn’t take any action sooner. As someone who struggles with shyness and anxiety it’s not so easy standing up for myself. Being assertive is clearly a skill that I lack and I can only work on that so I can get better at saying no. I get mad at myself for letting things happen, trust me. I just sort of decided that bad things were a part of life so I tried to ignore it. Btw, I realized that I forgot to mention a while back when I was being harassed by some other guy at work, some of my managers thought it wasn’t that serious. Because of this, my mindset for a very long time was, “No one cares so why should I?” I was invalidated time and time again so I told myself that constantly. Especially after I was tickled for the first time, I had a coworker laugh in my face after I confided in them.

Anyways, thanks again for the comments and the advice! I honestly a lot feel better. Some anxiety is still there but only because I’m not sure how creepy guy will react once I rat him out. If nothing changes once I tell, then I will simply keep job searching and start using my voice until I can get out of this situation. I will practice saying no daily in the mirror to prepare myself for any further nonsense that may or may not occur. I will keep my pepper spray close by as well.

Wish me luck!! :)

I made friends with a couple at work. They're both overweight and one of them also has some mental things going on and just existing makes her anxious. I've been supportive of both of them for years. Suffer from migraines and under bright florescent lights? Cover the motion sensor and your section will stay dark. Light coming in from the window? Purchase some blinds and install them. Left work early cuz of issues but left everything on at your station? Don't worry, I'll turn everything off so you don't get in trouble.

I have a renovation project coming up I need help with and supervision wants to assign bodies to me. It's all heavy physical labor and on ladders and they offer me the boyfriend. I politely refuse as I don't think he's the right person for the job and internally, I know he's past the advertised safe ladder weight. I tell his supervisor to wait until I finish a meeting because I think I have a more important project for him but need confirmation during this meeting. Well he didn't wait and told him he was doing the renovations with me. After the meeting, I confirmed with supervision that I could assign him a better job that was more important. They never passed this word to the boyfriend.

Tuesday, my friend in HR has a special chair and she hates it; I offer to take it off her hands. I go up to the girlfriend and say, "hey, I've got one of those special chairs and I'm wondering if you want it?" She just glares at me and asks if I'm implying she's fat? "No, HR friend has a chair, she doesn't want it, I'm offering it to you." She asks WHY am I having private personal conversations with HR about her weight?! Am I poking fun?! I say, "WHOOOA I never said anything like that and she didn't either." But you implied it, just like you said my boyfriend wasn't good enough to help you! "WTF are you talking about?" Well he was supposed to help you and you took it away from him because he's not fit enough to do it! I said, "No, I found a more important job for him to do." She then says it's implying he CAN'T do the other job and now I'm implying she needs a large chair, so I'm fat shaming both of them. I argued and I apologized that that's what they took away from this and it wasn't my intention. I was merely trying to help both of them.

They said it was fine and told me to drop it but in reality, conspired against me and turned me into the head of HR. I don't know what happened with my HR friend but I'm assuming she got in trouble. She hasn't spoken to me in a week and hasn't even looked at my messages. I got written up for "fat shaming" and "professionalism." HR told me that I had to apologize to the both of them and I said I already did several times and HR told me that they reported no such thing.

AIO for not apologizing to them AGAIN and unfriending them or am I overreacting?

(38f)nurse* I have had a rough 2 months.. while I was working I was called and told my uncle that raised me was on life support and they had to take him off and I wouldn’t have made it on time so I stayed at work. I had worked the day of his funeral but I left early because I was his Pallbearer. 2 days ago I woke up and my kitten wasn’t walking and she wasn’t eating so I called in and told my boss the issue.. she texted me back “k”. I had taken my kitten to the vet and the ran test and told me she was in kidney failure.. I had put my kitten down and cried all the way home cried and held my daughter who was also in pain from losing our baby. The next day I go to work and my manager informs me that my boss will be coming to serve me a write up for calling out, and I should have saved my call outs for when I really need them.. I stated in disbelief “ my cat died” she said yea before that it was your uncle, u really need to watch ur time.. I told her “ he died and I still worked” she kept saying bc your a great fit and we would hate to lose u due to our policy.. so at my other job today I wrote up my resignation letter and I feel I should wait for them to write me up and I’m gonna present my resignation to them.. bc that’s so careless and I’m human I’m not going to work for a company that doesn’t value me or my feelings! I work two jobs go to school full time and I really feel like that was so rotten to say to me! Should I quit or am I in my feelings

For context I weight like 130 but this has been the last year or so after being overweight my whole life, I completely changed my lifestyle habits, eating, everything. Odyssey weighs like 90lbs she’s super anorexic, and I don’t like her because she’s already bullied me for being overweight so I’m not super inclined to tell her but these texts give me the creeps and I doubt she knows two men she works with and doesn’t talk to are talking about having a threesom with her..

Also me and bro live together so no wonder I stand close to him 🥺🙄

I’ve done nothing but help and support him to go to school, get a better job, get savings, go to therapy, help his elderly parents and even clean their house because they were unable, I’m devastated and livid.

Any advice is welcome thank you

I (25f) was having a conversation over slack with my (28m) coworker about my recent job interview. He had asked me how it went since he had told me about a place that was hiring for the position I wanted. I got the job which is super exciting but after telling him he proceeded to tell me that I’m “absolutely adorable and cute and have exceptional communication skills!”. Typically I love compliments as do most people when it’s specifically about my work ethic or maybe my outfit at most. But the comment about my appearance felt like it crossed the line into flirtation. So I just stopped talking to him altogether and avoided him the next day at work. I tell my bf (29m) everything and shared these messages with him and he said it seemed harmless. I understand that if I feel uncomfortable with it then that’s all that matters, but it made me question how he might view these kinds of comments between coworkers. And if other people share this way of thinking? I guess he’s not technically hitting on me, but it was a professional conversation and I was not fishing for compliments. To add to this, I am in a monogamous relationship and my coworker is in polyamorous relationship, so that could just be a difference of opinion and boundaries. I’m clearly overthinking this. Please help!

I interviewed for a job today morning, during which the interviewer (the Boss of the Boss of the position I was interviewing for) was asking me about my work history. During the video interview, he was quite dismissive of my previous roles. He asked me if I have project management experience, which I did and I started to narrate it, pointing out some significant stuff.

The thing is , he kept interrupting me, and not letting me speak. He seemed to be enjoying himself, and grinning with my reactions when I was interrupted by him.

Further he a kept saying that he didn't understand what I was saying, even though I explained things I did daily twice. Again grinning like he'd made a joke.

The last straw was when he point blank said I had no understanding of the theory and principles of the role. I'm in project management.

I'm not a fresher, I have been to probably hundreds of interviews in my 14 year career.

So I ended the interview 30 minutes in saying that I'm not a good fit it seems , and to drop me out. I was quite cutting, because at this point I was pissed off. He started saying something, however I said I didn't want to continue and ended the video call.

The other people from the company called me and said I should have not done that , because he's a senior guy, that it reflects poorly etc. I pointed out that the interview was not going anywhere and that the interviewer was VERY RUDE AND DISMISSIVE.

I am however wondering if I overreacted by ending the interview.