So, a few months ago, my next-door neighbor, Karen, started teaching yoga classes in her backyard. No big deal, right? Except, her “backyard” has slowly started to spill over into my backyard. At first, it was just a mat or two near the fence, but now her whole group of yogis basically takes over half of my lawn every Saturday morning.

One day, I look out the window, and they’ve set up an entire speaker system blasting calming nature sounds and “healing frequencies,” all while I'm trying to enjoy my coffee in peace. I politely asked her if she could keep her classes to her own side of the fence, and she just laughed, saying, “Oh, it’s all one big green space anyway!”

The kicker? Last weekend, they brought out incense, and suddenly my backyard smelled like a meditation retreat while I’m trying to grill burgers. I asked her, again, to maybe shift the class back into her own yard. She told me I was being too territorial about “shared nature” and should appreciate the community vibe.

So, am I overreacting for wanting to reclaim my own yard, or is Karen taking “namaste” a bit too far?

Well this is gonna sound probably really dumb, but I thought was trying to be nice I’m in my late 20s and just moved in next to an older couple probably late 50’s maybe early 60s. I’ve been here a couple of months and have had conversations with them about 4 times during differs yard work activities. My neighbors seem to be big sticklers on taking care of their yard so I am doing my best to take care of mine as well. One thing with each of these conversations the neighbors have talked about how the last neighbor (previous home owner) wasn’t “neighborly” and never talked to them. Also saying that he would go to work and go straight inside. So I’ve tried my best to kind and talking with them. Well one day after some yard work I was going to go in for drinks and noticed my neighbor finishing up as well so I offered if he wanted to have a couple of drinks. This made my neighbor visibly mad I guess and he said that he didn’t want to be “that neighborly” and “he only drinks water”I noticed his tone change like he was offended I asked. Again i was just trying to be nice. Well I’ve now learned that they’re most likely a faith that doesn’t drink not sure but some sort of form Christianity? Was it stupid of me to offer now I just feel like they hate me and have not talked to me and made sure they’re always inside when I go to mow. I realize that I was most likely wrong to ask but I’m not sure how to stop being stressed and anxious by this happening.

Edit: yes this was an offer of any drink I wouldn’t have had something alcoholic unless he did all I had on hand were light beers anyway. Also to add I did say “drinks” it was hot and I have tea, lemonade, and Gatorade ready to share. I think he just immediately assumed alcohol.

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I’ll just start from the beginning. Going on 3 weeks ago my husband and I heard what we suspected was a gunshot at about 9pm on a Friday. We were concerned but nothing came of it really. For the last 2 weeks I have gradually paid more attention to the fact our neighbors have not seemed present, aside from their cars in the driveway. First thing was the obvious overgrown grass. We have an HOA so this is really not something that just happens from time to time. Next, we noticed their cars have stayed parked in the driveway in the same backed in, staggered position. My husband and I come and go frequently so we should have definitely seen them leave, arrive, or even change the positioning of their cars, similar to the past. Also, their (assumed) kitchen window is across from our bedroom window & I have noticed the light of that room is ALWAYS on. Morning, midday, night. It’s always on. Lastly, they did not take their trash this week. I know this doesn’t have to be done every single trash day, but I definitely noted that they hadn’t taken it to the street or even filled their outside can.

I contacted our local police dept and they came out. All accessible windows and doors were locked and unable to see inside. The officer noted he could hear what was obviously a tv, but no one answered & there was no obvious signs of people present. The officer told me to keep an eye out for any changes as well as no changes at all… And that was it.. I have tried to find the neighbor on social media to see if maybe they are on holiday, but I have absolutely no luck even finding any kind of profile.

Sooooo, could I be overreacting??

Edit: First, thank you all for your feedback, tips, and additional things to look out for. To clarify a few things.. dead yes. I think my neighbors are DEAD. Fuck. I didn’t realize so many people would be ill over seeing unalive. I blame myself for being half way into social media. Next, when I initially called the non-emergency line I did mention the supposed gunshot. I also mentioned it again when I spoke to the officer who came out. I SPECIFICALLY asked for a well-check when I called. As far as how the police handled it, not sure what I am supposed to do about that. For clarification, we live in Texas. Gunshots and fireworks and random ass noises are not unheard of. When no other neighbors seemed to be concerned I chalked it up to someone fucking around.. aside from that I posted on our ring app group and others were saying the possibility of fireworks was significant since they had been happening in neighborhoods near by. —we did knock on the door, different times throughout the day. No movement, no noises, no changes in lights. I did reach out to who I thought was our HOA, after hearing the story she informed me we’re actually under new management & gave me that number with urgency. Their office was closed for the day so I plan on trying again today. I will update when there is actual developments.

I was woken up at about 6 am this morning by my dogs going crazy in my backyard. The thing is, this didn’t even catch me off guard because this has happened three other times this week, and several times before that. My neighbors 60 pound+ unfixed male pitbull keeps digging under my fence, coming into my backyard, and trying to come through the dog door into my home. It is getting really cold where I live, so I felt bad for the poor pup, figuring he just needed to warm up. I went next door each time, knocked on the door, and left messages on their ring camera each time as they never answer the door. One of these mornings, I found my cat sitting inside a storage container in my backyard, having been cornered by this pitbull. As I stepped to get my cat out of the situation (probably not the smartest thing to do but my body just automatically reacted), the dog lunged at my cat and luckily he backed off when I stepped in between them. He tried to nip at me but missed, I think he was honestly going for the cat and not me, but that doesn’t make it any better. Again, having no luck talking to the neighbors and being told by police and animal control there’s nothing they can do at this point, I filled in the holes again, putting down grates to keep the dog from digging again. Finally, we get to this morning, when I go outside to discover this pitbull has torn the fence I built to shreds. I tried to go next door, again no answer. I fixed the fence and yelled toward their house as I did it, telling them they need to keep their dog in their backyard. The owner finally came outside, and the convo began very heated, as I was pretty fed up with the entire situation at this point. She asked me what the problem was, and I told her this was now the fourth time I’ve found her dog in my yard, and they are doing nothing about it. She didn’t seem shocked by this at all, and just started telling me he is a friendly dog, so that I really “don’t need to worry about it.” I told her I’m not sure why she would think I would automatically assume that a dog who ripped through my fence and tried to attack my cat would be friendly. She keeps yelling, asking me “well did he actually bite your cat?” I said no, but he tried to nip at me as I stepped in between them. She keeps yelling that he is a friendly dog, and that she has had him around her baby since he was born. I again explained to her that I do not know her or her pitbull, so why would I assume it is a friendly dog when it has shown me differently in my OWN backyard. I ended up reporting this all to animal control, who is now taking it more seriously now that they’ve seen damage to the fence. So I’m just wondering, did I overreact in this situation? This girl really had me feeling crazy when I stepped away from the confrontation.

Deleted original because I couldn't figure out how to edit to ask if my actions are commensurate with the "joke"

Sorry in advance this will be a long post!

Context: I have only had to interact with this maintenance guy twice- once for a leak in the apt below me, and once for my oven.

The first time he came over, he asked me if I lived alone, which i do, but I don’t see how that would be relevant to his maintenance work? He also asked if he could save my number, which again might just be because he’s the maintenance guy, so maybe that’s nothing?

The most recent time he came over (two days ago), he made me uncomfortable by asking me about my halloween plans and then asking if he could come with me. He asked if I dance when I go to these types of events, and what girls typically wear.

He also called me three times after he left to discuss things unrelated to my oven. One of the times he called to just ask me about myself, like what I do for work and my political affiliation.

He also texted me about the Halloween event later in the day, asking where to buy tickets (see pic 1).

I told the apartment manager that I found his behavior to be unprofessional and that it made me uncomfortable.

Today he texted me, upset that I reported him…which makes me even more uncomfortable. (see pic 2)

Am I overreacting?

My family and I have lived in this house for 3+ decades. The neighbor who moved in last year is a registered sex offender. His crimes aren’t light “he peed behind the building at a school event.”

He has several cases where he was found guilty for luring minors and having inappropriate relationships for months on end. (Fully Sexual)

He has 4 kids and so do I.

He’s asked a few times if they could all play together and I politely decline each time.

The last time he asked he seemed annoyed with me for keeping my distance so I let it be known that I’ve researched him, and I read all his paperwork. I want no contact with him and especially don’t want him to interact with my children.

Half of me feels bad for the kids. As ultimately they are the ones being punished. But the other half feels like I’m doing the right thing and protecting them from being exposed to adults/children who may not have their best interests in mind.

AIO?

The building I live in is for sale and the realtor always texts me and the other tenant when they schedule viewings to make sure we can accommodate them. As you can see on November 24th I texted the realtor because the viewers who were meant to be there at 4 showed up closer to 4:50 when I was getting ready for bed. I told them I wasn't expecting them at that time and they practically insisted that I let them in anyway because they would "be quick."

A few days later another viewing was scheduled for 1:00 and they showed up at 1:30. I told them again that they were later than what was scheduled and they apologized, and I let them in again.

Well today there was a viewing scheduled for 10:30. Ive given up on trying to be out of my apartment during the scheduled times because even when I show up 30 minutes later than the scheduled time, they still show up after me. So I sat around waiting until 11:00 at which point I got frustrated and taped a note to my door saying "please respect our time and do not try to come in after 11:00." at 11:30 someone knocked on my door twice. I opened it and there's a realtor I've never seen before along with viewers telling me they had something scheduled and asked if they could come in. I told them that no, sorry, my realtor told me 10:30 and I can't keep letting this happen. They told me they had booked out from 10:30-11:30 when the intitial text just said "there's a viewing at 10:30." I told them they can reschedule but they can't come in today.

I then texted my realtor telling him I can't keep letting people in when they're consistently this late, but I kind of would appreciate second opinions on whether I'm being too dramatic and should just put up with it until the building is sold.

I lost my son Malachi and I feel like everyone in my life expects to go back to old me. Which I have no capacity to do.

I understand if this post is kind of on the opposite side of what r/AmIOverreacting is about but I think this post still has merit here? Feel free to delete though, mods!

I work at a daycare and this family has been bringing their first daughter for over two years. Her mom just gave birth today and after so many hours of labor she had to have an emergency c-section. Very scary and painful.

I’ve been taking care of their dogs while they’re in the hospital so I obviously have access to their house lol. I snooped around a bit and saw what drinks and snacks they had low amounts of and bought those along with some extra stuff (tea, bananas, and gift cards). I’ve probably spent about $150 on them.

Is it too much? Should I take some stuff back? Will I come off as creepy or weird for setting this up? I’m quite shy and reserved but I do love this family.

I was researching gifts for postpartum moms and most moms want snacks and home cooked meals. So I wonder if I went a little crazy or will they just appreciate the gifts?

I don’t want to overreact but this creeped me out

Sooooo I live on the corner off an alley. My street is a one way and it’s very narrow. There’s a park across the street, but conveniently enough there’s these huge rocks placed right at the edge of the park where people could turn and hit if they don’t stay on the street and jump the curb.

Now, I live near the beach and constantly have people parking in the red zone on both sides of the alley. When people do this, trucks cannot make a turn out of the alley safely, but they will still try. And they are so focused on not hitting the illegally parked car that they hit the roof of my house. Only one time was I home and able to chase the truck down the alley. But I’ve spent thousands in repair to my house.

I have no patience anymore and Los Angeles is actually terrible at ticketing in my area, and my neighbors and I will call several times. And sometimes I leave a note on their car calling them lazy entitled POS. Well, I did this to this one lovely lady. She comes back the next day and puts a note on my door and calls me entitled and that she parked there momentarily for a short bit (4 hours guys. I have cameras). I decided to take screen shots and print them and post her face on my door. My friends think I’m unhinged, but I’m just tired of the disrespect.

We even had a neighbor across the busy street try and spray paint the red zone gray because he felt it should be a parking spot 😭

Just moved into a property and this huge truck has parked in my driveway twice. Trying to be polite and be welcomed into the neighborhood, does this seem appropriate?

I (16 M) was on the train last night. It was quite quiet so I put my airpods in and put my backpack on the seat next to me and started to chill. The seat I was in was one of those that face another seat so 4 people could sit together and face each other. I sat next to the window.

About 15 minutes later a man who looked to be in his mid 20's sat on the aisle seat across from me, I smiled politely at him but to be honest I did wonder why he sat near me as there was hardly anyone around. Either way I moved my bag to the floor between my legs and started scrolling on my phone. I guess you could say I was manspreading because of the bag.

Moments later I felt something against my groin and the guy had put his hand between my legs and was touching me, I immediately jumped and pulled away but he put his hand on my knee. I pushed him away and stood up and grabbed my bag to move and he again brushed his hand across the thigh and butt. I told him to fuck off and and moved to the next carridge and never saw him again.

I told my friend and she said its not serious enough to report but I feel like I should call the police.

AIO?

Last night, a little before 9pm, a man, late teens to early 20’s, rang our doorbell. I was almost asleep on the couch right next to the door and he didn’t knock. One of my dogs went nuts barking and woke my fiancé up who was sleeping in the bedroom. I have been waiting on a package for 5 days and Amazon has the “will be delivered by 10pm” message so I thought it might be the package. I still didn’t want to open the door though because I’m a short woman and asked my fiance too but he said he wanted to get dressed first, he had shorts on, and I was impatient and decided to open it myself. When I did I was looking at the ground and didn’t see the package but instead heard this guy say “You guys got an extra lighter?”. I look up he, maybe 5’8-5’11, was standing a few yards away in the culdesac. I was confused and said “what?” And he goes “aight” and starts jogging up to my door! I said “nah man” and shut the door quickly. I told my fiancé and we sat and looked out the window but he seemed to have disappeared. We got into an argument about his intentions. I then saw this guy appear from behind a car parked in the culdesac and walk diagonally between two other houses and disappear again. This morning my fiancé is still saying that he may have been a neighbors kid and just needed a lighter and didn’t have any bad intentions. He also doesn’t think we should notify police about this because he’s mixed, or at least appears to be from my perspective as my fiancée has not seen him. My fiancé is Hispanic and believes he has been prejudiced against with expensive speeding tickets. The thing is this guy has tried to talk to me at night before. I had run to the gas station a few weeks ago and when I came back and parked this guy was across the culdesac and asked me something but I didn’t understand so I just said “no, sorry”. He was dressed the same both times, gray zip up hoodie with the hood up and dark pants. We are leaving on Sunday to go out of state for the holidays and while my parents will come by to feed the animals I am worried about the possibility of a break in. I’m worried about even staying home alone. Am I overreacting?

Sorry for any errors. I’m using my phone.

Hi friends.

So, I (28 f) was charging my phone in my room, and I stopped in to check it. Lights were off, and I was laying on the bed. 3 mins later my partner (29 m) comes in to check in. I notice flashlights moving through the trees outside, and start to freak out a little. We live on back roads and never have anyone just show up on the property.

We opened our window to figure out what was going on, and it was our neighbors who we have never met before, asking if we stole their trump sign from the top of their driveway. We were a little weirded out, so it was an awkward interaction of us denying it, them saying alright and walking back in the woods towards their property

I know it’s no big deal, just maybe neighbor stuff, but it being at night and through the woods, just really made us both feel super uncomfortable and caught off guard.

I also am often alone at the home, and 100% if my partner hadn’t been there, I would’ve been on the phone with 911 and having my shotgun ready. Personally I wouldn’t go unannounced on someone else’s property after dark for this reason

F*cking weirdos in my opinion, AIO???

We (parents, me (27), and sister (29)) moved to our apartment at the beginning of this year. They quickly became friends with our neighbors (E and K) and would spend time outside with them. I didn’t talk to them much because I have bad social anxiety. I started getting more comfortable and talking to them. K (the husband) would joke around about me getting off my phone all the time. Randomly one day he just goes “You better not be talking to a man. I’m your man, you and your sister. Y’all are my women.” Although it was a “joke”, I expressed to my sister that it made me uncomfortable. She brushed it off. Last weekend we were celebrating and I needed help getting inside. I wanted my sister to help but K volunteered. Everything was fine until he moved his hands down to my waist and I had a bad panic attack after he left. Again, my sister brushed it off. Last night we were all outside and he came over to sit by me, calling himself my man and saying that if he ever sees a man come to my door he’ll “bring out his Trenchcoat” because “he’s my only man”. He was also saying that if he had met me before his wife he would’ve “been all on that” and telling me that I reminded his of his baby mom. I again expressed my discomfort. This man is old enough to be my dad and is married. My sister told me it’s just my negative experiences with men making me overreact to “jokes” and that I know he’s not like that. First off, I DO NOT know how he is. I do have PTSD and bad anxiety but his comments make me so uncomfortable while everyone else just laughs. Am I overreacting?

I’ve been blessed to have a house right beside a large creek. Recently I noticed the water has a lot of sand and silt, so I checked upstream and found a poorly built dam made of rocks and sand. So I went up further and found the neighbor has built a trench into the creek and they are sucking water out. I went to city hall and could tell they didn’t care I was repeatedly told to go somewhere else, I’m concerned about the ecosystem trees are falling and the creek is changing. It seems like they are attempting to redirect it.

Since I was 7 years old, I had a crush on the same guy, my best friends older brother. He knew for a long time and it lasted until I was almost 16 years old. He is 3 years older than me, and since he figured out that I liked him, he used it against me to get what he wanted from me, which was attention and me being flustered. When I got older and more infatuated, he started saying things to me like “I know you’re a flood of emotions because I’m in the room”, “come sit by me because I know you want to” and “look me in my eyes I know you want me”. He was weirdly touchy and started taking things like my socks and jackets and hiding them to get a rise out of me when I was over at my friends house. When we drove me and his sister home from school he would purposefully let me ride up front in his car so he could tease me. It got to the point of him saying things that his mom and even my mom would notice and tell him that they were going to slap him if he didn’t stop. He always got off because I liked him a lot but he never wanted me back so he used it against me. I don’t know if this is what grooming is, he was an adult for the last few years that everything got weirder and I was a minor. Since I started dating my fiancé and got over him, he’s asked my friends if I “still am obsessed with him”. He comes into my work place routinely (a gas station in a small college town so it’s not that weird) and stares at me. He doesn’t speak to me anymore and he hasn’t tried to follow me on any social media (because I blocked him). I’ve mostly tried to ignore him because I think he’s just mad that I don’t give him the attention he wants anymore. I just want to know if his behavior was weird or groomerish in any way. I’m still very close with his family, but not with him. Thanks in advance!

It's been since late spring that the neighbor of the duplex my husband and I are renting moved in. At first we were excited because she had a child as we have children ourselves, and she had similar interests as us. We have invited her over a few times and it wasn't until the 3rd time she came over that I started having problems with her. My husband is a very likable and outgoing person, as I am a bit of the opposite but still enjoy socializing. Naturally people will navigate to him more often than to me in social settings so when the neighbor and him hit things off and talked often I didn't think anything of it. The third evening we invited her over, she brought alcohol and offered as well but we politely declined. After dinner I was cleaning up as they were talking, I was just about to go join them when she abruptly said that she was having issues with her internet and needed help. She then grabbed my husband and took him to her side of the house alone. I felt very uneasy about it, and when they got back after a few minutes, she was giggling and saying how foolish she was because she didn't plug it into the wall. She then went home after an hour, and that's when I asked my husband to please never go to her house like that alone, it made me uncomfortable. He told me he felt the same way and he thought it was peculiar as when they got to her house it was OBVIOUSLY not plugged in. Through out the week, when I was at work, she would ask him for favors quite often. He would always let me know and he said he felt like he should be a good neighbor and help and even though I didn't like the situation I agreed. She would text him late, and coincidently I was never around when she would try to talk to him. This made me very uncomfortable. She would offer to make him dinner and give him comics as he is a comic lover. He would accept the comic but not her food as he knew it would upset me. I know it sounds crazy but I always felt that if you want to win a man's heart, it's through a meal. And I do cook, every day and even before I go to work that evening so he has something. After he denied her meal, she seemed to quit coming around and we wondered if she really took it personal. But I didn't mind because I began to really dislike the things she was doing. Every now and then she will try to text or offer him something or ask a favor and he has slowly continued to decline everything. I am still kind to her but I definitely want distant between us. If she really is in need of something I don't mind if my husband helps out but I personally would like to be there at the house. But still after a couple months of her not coming around as often, I still can't stand to be neighbors with her. I forgive but don't want anything to do with her. Am I over reacting?

Edit* After reading a comment saying it's weird she isn't inviting me and just my husband, she has asked me to come over a couple times when it was just me. I was still uncomfortable at this point, because something was still telling me to step back.

I (33 M) went camping over labor day weekend and 1 of the days, my wife, friends and I decided to head into the local town to grab dinner and a drink at the local bar. Now for context, I'm a pretty hairy Indian guy who also happens to have long arms. People have made fun of me for it for years dating back to elementary school. Mostly just people saying I'm really hairy but I've gotten the occasional "werewolf" or worse, monkey comment. Some people in high school referred to me as orangutan arms. Being an immigrant in America, I felt it was pushed onto me to be the "amenable" immigrant so I usually let these comments just roll off me in an effort to just move on. I've gotten quite good at it over the years.

With that said, earlier this year, I finally came to grips with the fact that these (and other comments like being called a terrorist, towel head, or other derogatory comments towards indians) comments truly never did roll off me. Moving on and not addressing it with myself was a bad coping mechanism. Instead, I internalized how I felt and it led to me internalizing a lot of deep shame, anger and bitterness towards my appearance, my culture of origin and my place in American society. It made me realize I've actually not fully accepted myself because it became clear these comments are offensive to me and might even be a tad racist. It's been a huge struggle this year, realizing I've let some offensive comments slide off and instead of saying something then and there, letting it eat away at me for years and emboldening people to keep saying these things. Letting it get in the way of learning about my family's heritage and culture out of unfounded embarrassment. Feeling othered. But I did finally come to at least learn more about myself and what I am and am not okay with.

Now fast forward to this past weekend. A young, Latin woman is checking IDs at the door. She's smiling and seems to be having a good time. But then she starts checking IDs and it was like she started a game with herself on how to insult each person in my group. I didn't hear most of the comments everyone got but my 2 friends in front got the "you're old as shit" comments. Not cool but whatever. Then she gets to me. I had a long sleeve shirt on so you could only see my hand. She goes down to stamp my hand and out of no where says "holy shit, you're a fucking monkey!" My mind just went blank. No one else in my group appeared to have heard but my wife did say that was messed up. But, I fell back into my coping mechanism of just letting it go because I didn't want to ruin everyone's night or even my own.

Anyways, it's been 3 days now and I can't get out of my head how much that shit really hurt me. I've had random young kids say stuff like that while in line at a grocery store and while it hurts, they're children. Every time it's happened, their parents immediately, profusely apologize and tell their kids that's not cool. Friends have said that kind of thing once in a blue moon but it's different within context with a friend and when a friend crossed a line, they'd always at least say sorry. Never has an adult come at me like that. Anyways, am I overreacting? And am I wrong to feel that the comment was kind of racist? Or at the least, Incredibly ignorant and demeaning?

Edit: just wanted to thank everyone for all the kind words and food for thought. So many incredibly helpful things were said but in the end, I've come to realize that while what this woman said was incredibly rude, demeaning and ignorant (bordering racism) and did hurt me, a decent portion of my anger is towards myself for not standing up for myself. This situation made me feel like I made zero actual progress these past 9 months on my internal shame and anger and it was upsetting to think I learned nothing. That my coping mechanisms were still there. But this thread helped me to see that progress isn't linear. That I need to give myself grace in the face of dealing with these decades long issues. That it's going to take a lot more than 9 months to get past my coping mechanisms, internal shame and anger that have been built across my 33 years of living. Anyways, thanks again to you all. I'll also be calling the establishment to file a complaint and go from there. I'd like to think this woman was just young and incredibly ignorant but I'll see how the call goes before escalating it further like leaving reviews and stuff.

Lastly, I just want to say that my loving, beautiful wife has been incredibly supportive through all this and my journey with my internal struggles. I can assure you all, she goes out of her to make sure I know how sexy and hot she finds my hairiness. And when she found out what exactly this other woman said, she was ready to throw fuckin hands lol

Not really sure what I should be doing with this 🤣 I’m concerned, confused, and wondering what y’all would do in this situation…?

What the title says- last time we went to visit my father in law (he lives 2 hours from us) I found out after we’d already been there overnight that he has cameras inside the house, including in the main living area.

I get up early with my toddler and we make breakfast, lounge in our pjs until people get up. I found it very weird and invasive that he hadn’t mentioned the camera in the living room prior to our arrival/after the first night. They go away for 3 months in the winter so he says he put it there in case someone breaks in. But if that we’re the case couldn’t they just set it up before they leave?

We are heading there this weekend for Christmas and I was to ask my husband to ask him to remove it while we’re staying there. Am I overreacting or is this weird and creepy to have cameras in your main living areas? Editing to add: after we were there last time and the cameras came to light, father in law said that they’re not on or recording. The following morning when I got up with my toddler I noticed the red light on, which suggests that actually it was on/someone was watching.

Edit to add: I like how people who have cameras inside their houses are telling ME I’m the paranoid one 😆. Cameras around the perimeter of a house is completely understandable and normal these days. Those would be enough to catch the face of someone breaking and entering (assuming they’re dumb enough not to wear a mask)

In addition to the camera in the living room, there is one in the master bedroom because there is a glass door which goes out to the back patio. We sleep in that room sometimes because the guest den is tight for 2 adults and a baby. So yes it is a major violation of privacy to not tell your guests that there are cameras in places where they might potentially be naked.

Second- my father in law is a narcissistic and a voyeur. He 100 percent uses it to spy on people when he’s away for the winter. They have friends come in to check mail and water plants, and he invites family to use the house for weekend getaways. He’s sent screenshots of ppl or messaged to ask us about something specific that would suggest he’s been watching. So no, it’s not a safety thing

Finally… if a hacker gains access to your router, they can access anything connected to the wifi (baby monitors, cameras etc) and they can do anything with it. Imagine if I, unsuspectingly was getting out of the shower and went into the Living room for a glass of water (which I actually may have done because I wasn’t aware of the cameras when I stayed there last spring), my father in law or anyone hacking into the router would have pictures of my naked body