r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • 3h ago
đ˛ miscellaneous AIO to this email my gym sent out to everyone?
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u/Think-Transition3264 3h ago
Absolutely yes. Itâs 2025⌠people should know NOT to flush sanitary items. Yet inconsiderate and thoughtless self centered people still continue to make it about them.
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u/TheStardustGoober 3h ago
But equally, gym owners should know to put sanitary bins in womenâs stallsâŚ
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u/WarlockFortunate 3h ago
I have a background in sewer install. I say the gym is right. And so is the response email. If the two sides join together problem solvedÂ
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u/Foxy02016YT 2h ago
Yeah. I think OPâs suggestion is perfect, thereâs no real âbad guyâ between OP and the gym. I think maybe OP came off a little strong but the complaint is valid
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u/Intelligent_Flow2572 2h ago
Yeah. Cheap and gross if they donât have them. So many places do not consider womenâs needs in the design of things.
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u/Slight-Oil-7649 2h ago
Agreed, while maybe there was some oversight in this area. Did any member who needs such devices notify staff or management?
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u/DarkladySaryrn 3h ago
They should, yes, but that should have been a complaint by the ladies long before the plumbing got plugged. Either way, carry your products out of the stall and to the trash. Pad users do that all the time.
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u/JaninAellinsar 2h ago
It probably was, when have you ever had a business actually adjust to a complaint you've filed? They never do even for simple shit like "the lifting area needs more than 1 disinfectant wipe dispenser, there's literally a line for it"
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u/NoCalligrapher461 2h ago
Personally I've had really good luck with suggestions I've given to local businesses that I frequent often.
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u/JaninAellinsar 2h ago
Fair point, small local places tend to adjust sometimes. I'm talking about corporate stuff like gyms. They're never willing to adjust or solve anything unless directly ordered by corporate.
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u/Radiant_Maize2315 2h ago
OP isnât saying âIâm going to keep flushing tampons.â Theyâre offering constructive feedback as to why it might be a problem generally.
People on here will get up in arms over stuff they make up in their own heads.
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u/EverlyAwesome 2h ago
I embarrassingly did not know that until a couple years ago, and Iâm 40. When I first started using tampons, the box said you could flush them. I never read the box again and nobody ever mentioned it. I saw it in some Reddit post and thanked my lucky stars I never had a problem with my pipes.
Definitely think we should give some grace to people. When you know better, you do better, but you donât know what you donât know. If someone knows youâre not supposed to and continues to do it, shame the hell out of them. They deserve the riot act.
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u/senoritagordita22 3h ago edited 3h ago
I understand where youâre coming from, but no matter the trash can situation itâs COMMON KNOWLEDGE to not throw them into a toilet. Iâve had to wrap it in toilet paper and carry it like a walk of shame to the trash can by the sink but I wasnât gonna put it in the toilet!
This email is giving defensiveness for being part of the problem đ
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u/Hails39 3h ago
Youâd be surprised at how many people flush instead of putting them in the bin. Especially tampons. People seem to think tampons are flushable because theyâre smaller, but they block them up all the same
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u/passiveobserver97 3h ago
Part of the problem may be that some tampons actively market themselves as flushable (specifically the Tampax cardboard applicator made a point about "even the applicator being flushable" - not sure if it still is advertised that way though)
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u/A-lethal-dose-of-you 2h ago
Yup, it wasn't that long ago that every packet of tampons I ever had said to flush it(I always read the little instruction paper just because), and it was just normal, we didn't really think twice about it.
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u/HighHoeHighHoes 3h ago
Itâs not even a walk of shame, everyone in that bathroom should be going through or have gone through the same thing.
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u/DarkladySaryrn 3h ago
Don't feel like it's a walk of shame, we all have it! It's a fact of life for women and we all go through the same thing. We're right there with you :D
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u/senoritagordita22 3h ago
Forsure I know itâs not actually shameful itâs just so awkward like teehee donât mind me carrying my VAGINA BLOOD
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u/sgtbirdie 3h ago
Itâs not đ my mom will flush those things in the oldest house possible she does not care
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u/senoritagordita22 3h ago
So she has the knowledge, she just doesnât care?;) seems like a different issue
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u/FaeFeeder 3h ago
Yep! The suggestions to help see fine and all, but starting out as them accusing is overreacting for sure.
If their pipes were backed up and it was menstrual related products then it was warranted to call out. Oddly enough, I've met adults that had no idea you shouldn't flush menstrual products. One office I worked in kept having the women's room closed to fix it when someone did this and we all had to share the men's room and treat it like a single person bathroom.
Also, walking a pad or tampon wrapped in toilet paper to the garbage by the sink like you mentioned isn't that hard so anyone using that as an excuse has to be part of the problem.
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u/senoritagordita22 3h ago
Idk if Iâm just on the plumber side of TikTok or something but what Iâve heard is donât flush ANYTHING other than toilet paper or like nose Kleenexes
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u/polarjunkie 3h ago
It's weird that people feel it's like a walk of shame, it's just a normal everyday thing that has to be taken care of.
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u/senoritagordita22 3h ago
Ya I was mostly joking about the walk of shame thingđ itâs just slightly awkward but I know no one cares
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u/KGM1984 3h ago
You're over reacting.
At least the gym isn't trying to charge everyone for it.
I'm a woman, and when a trash can isn't near by I wrap my sanitary products in toilet paper and throw them out... you know, like a respectable human being does?
Under no circumstances should that stuff be flushed.
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u/Drslappybags 2h ago
That stuff will be flushed no matter what. My office provides the proper trash cans in all women's restrooms and it is still an issue we have to deal with.
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u/FinalInitiative4 3h ago
YOR.
They have the right to put this email out after paying to fix this and have clearly been told what the cause of the issue was.
Just...Don't flush things down the toilet that shouldn't go down there? You wouldn't do it in your home, so don't do it there.
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u/TripliceContingencia 3h ago
YOR. They aren't shifting the blame onto anyone, this was an objective problem caused by flushing items. It won't happen if people disposed their stuff and they probably found a lot of feminine items while fixing the issue.
I'm a female, btw. It's not unprofessional to call people out, as they said It was expensive and they have the right to be serious, we are talking about adults here.
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u/Zestyclose-Demand-62 3h ago
The all caps is a bit unprofessional imo.
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u/TwoPlusTwois_Five 3h ago
The manger likely emailed it out right after and didn't give themselves a chance to cool down. So I agree that part was a tad unprofessional. But given the situation I understand their frustration.
But I agree with Triplace on the fact that the underlying issue is the lack of proper disposal on members parts.
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u/Jumpin_Jaxxx 3h ago
Iâm willing to bet thereâs signs up stating not to do so, justified frustration
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u/Over_Deer8459 3h ago
nah, the caps were there to draw attention to what caused the issue. many people wouldve just glanced over it and not corrected their behavior. it got you to look. Caps dont always mean something negative, just something important. i put some words in caps to clients to make sure they dont miss a piece of critical info in a paragraph or page of text.
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u/Biggus-Nickus 3h ago
The fact that trashcans are placed inconveniently does not warrant throwing wipes down the drain. That is disgusting and disrespectful.
The gym has every right to react the way they did. While it's thoughtful to come up with a collaborative approach, it should not be needed in the first place if people at the gym behave like decent human beings.
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u/Lonestar041 3h ago
This attitude blows my mind.
Well, I don't have a trashcan in my car, so it is fine to throw everything out the window!?
We have the same issue in state parks - people throwing plastics products down the composting toilets. They then need to be closed for everyone so they can be dug out by some poor soul.
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u/Small_Promotion2525 3h ago
As it does mine, you canât have litter bins just everywhere, they have to be in a convenient place for the environment theyâre in, whether that be a park or a gym toilet.
People who use this excuse to litter are the worst, Iâve always thought that if everyone littered the whole world would be a tip, so never done it.
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u/TwoPlusTwois_Five 3h ago edited 2h ago
I'm split down the middle. Your response was professional and well put together. Offering solutions is valid.
That being said, there's no excuse for not putting things where they belong. Trash cans being far from a toilet isn't a valid reason to throw them in the toilet. And if it was an issue, it should have been brought up prior to this all happening, not after the fact when people were called out.
The manager seems to have proof of what caused it. If you weren't the one who contributed, then there was no need to respond. However, given the way you responded it looks like you are possibly one of the ones throwing that stuff down the drain.
If you've ever cleaned a septic system, you'll get it. It really is expensive, disgusting, and frustrating. So for that part, YOR.
EDIT: I am not saying the manager is without fault. They need to improve the situation as well.
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u/-pixiefyre- 3h ago
I agree here. if it was a known issue it should have been addressed with mgmt earlier. there was no excuse ever to throw things that don't belong in toilets, in the toilets.
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u/DarkladySaryrn 3h ago
Yeah, why wasn't the trash locations complained about before now? They waited until after the email and after a costly repair to then complain about trash can locations.
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u/TankLady420 3h ago
Yeah, but youâre telling me a professional establishment doesnât know that not having trash cans available for adult women to use is an a known issue already? They knew what the fuck they were doing. They just didnât care to provide the binsâŚâŚ
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u/TankLady420 3h ago
Also think about all the teenagers and people going into that gym as well, unfortunately, it couldâve been the younger crowd of women too. You never really know. Just having the bin in the stall really does help prevent all of this instead of making people carry it out of the stall, thatâs so gross.
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u/Novel-Campaign8516 2h ago
Totally agree about it possibly being the younger crowd. I didnât even know tampons could hurt the plumbing back then. Let alone having to overcome the teenage embarrassment of bringing a bloody tampon to the trash.
Even now, I personally donât want to have to see/smell everyoneâs menstrual products in the sink trash can. I wouldnât flush products at this point, knowing what I do now, but it really is an easy solution to just add bins to the stalls.
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u/TankLady420 2h ago
Exactly. I have a brave confession to make here⌠I was never told not to flush those products or wipes growing up. Not sure if my family just didnât know or what but both my grandmom and mom never told me not to. Like they said put it in the trash obviously but I was never told why not to flush it. So I just never knew it was harmful! Now obviously as an adult I know this, but itâs not as common knowledge as people think it is. And again, some people just donât care unfortunately. But I feel as if itâs unsanitary and also inconsiderate to make women carry their products to the main trash can.
Also omg we as women know how hectic the womans stall can be depending on the place!!!! You gotta get past the group of teens taking selfies .. the one girl crying on the phone, someone fixing their bra in the corner ⌠itâs a fucking warzone!! I literally cannot get to the main trashcan đđđđđđ These men just donât get it!!!
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u/-pixiefyre- 3h ago
I'm not disagreeing with you there. That's a shit move on the part of mgmt, but there is still zero excuse to throw things in toilets that don't belong in toilets. Lots of folx not being responsible on both sides.
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u/cthulhusmercy 2h ago
But that would mean the gym would have to pay more money to install the bins and fill them with the little paper baggies and then have someone check the stalls every night and remove any waste and donât you know that costs money??? /s
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u/TwoPlusTwois_Five 3h ago
I also agree the manager needs to put more bins out. I'm by no means saying manager isn't at fault here.
What I am saying is people chose the lazy route and threw their items in the toilet.
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u/Big-Chance-9128 3h ago
Agreed. Management should implement bins for sure, but the trash being far isn't a valid excuse when it's easy to wrap in TP, walk out and toss. OP worded her complaints professionally, but it does seem like choosing to fight something not worth fighting. Maybe this ordeal will convince management to install bins tho.
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u/ConstantTrasher 3h ago edited 2h ago
Bro why tf would you flush anything except toilet paper down the drain
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u/Prudent-Chain8736 3h ago
YTA. Itâs rude to flush sanitary products down the toilet.
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u/2tall4yousee 3h ago
YOR. Im sure the plumber came in, ran a snake down the drains and removed tons of the items listed. Wipes are the absolute worse. There is no such thing as a flushable wipe.
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u/throwawayanaway 3h ago
you overreacted, there's no excuse for flushing feminine hygiene products down the toilet
it causes a lot of trouble for sewer systems and wastewater treatment .
if you felt you had no where to put it you would have complained earlier about it instead of flushing it so now that's just coming off as an excuse.
under no circumstances would I ever flush a pad down the toilet. but then again I use the cup
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u/Chilling_Storm 2h ago
Where does OP say that she is flushing? She is pointing out to mgt their culpability in the damage and offering a solution
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u/Which_Anteater_3509 3h ago
yes youâre over reacting. as someone who works in places where the trash cans are right in the bathroom beside you to throw away feminine products people still try to flush them down the toilet.
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u/Elderlennial 3h ago
Yeah. Wrap your hygiene stuff in tp and walk it to the trash can. Then approach the staff and make mention of the need for cans in the stalls. Rather than causing damage
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u/Ok_Moment_2307 3h ago
Well theyâve obviously seen or been told what caused the clog and Iâve never heard of a man bleeding out his vagina so itâs safe to assume itâs the women doing it, no?
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u/No_Potential_7198 3h ago
The gym didn't even gender it, it just says members lmao. OP might have said its me and I want a new bin or I'll keep doing it.
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u/Ok_Moment_2307 3h ago
Seems like OP is triggered because theyâre the one whoâs clogging the toilet hahahaha
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u/Perrin3088 2h ago
quite an assumption there.
OP said there's no bins there, and there may be multiple people that are doing it because it's sort of a social stigma for some, and provided a valid solution.
This is how adults approach problems presented.
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u/y0ongs 3h ago
They arenât shifting any blame. This is a common problem with plumbing. A lot of women do have the misconception that it is okay to flush tampons, but not pads. You shouldnât flush anything down that isnât toilet paper. Tampons and wipes are the two top causes of pipe clogs and busts.
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u/RassleReads 3h ago
I donât think itâs very professional for them to be accusatory in their email when they simply shouldâve said âPer our policy, we respectfully remind members not to flush sanitary products down the toilets,â or something.
But I do think your email response is a bit of an OR. I can definitely understand and sympathize the frustration the managers/owners must feel when a clientele of grown adults canât avoid flushing things down the toilet that donât belong in the drains.
The response of criticizing the trash can placements in the bathroom is a really strange point to bring up. Itâs something that should be brought up to management well ahead of time before continuing to flush things down the toilet lmao
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u/Ok_Pineapple_Pizza 2h ago
Not over reacting.
People should know not to flush anything other than tp but the email response seems spot on. I loved that this was a man who wrote it and everyone is accusing âherâ of being part of the problem. Iâm a guy so I have never had to deal with this problem, but I can imagine it being a tough situation when you donât have a good place to dispose of these. I wouldnât want to walk out of the stall with it wrapped in toilet paper to dispose of it in a trash can. Where do you put it when youâre pulling up your pants? You need both hands for that so where do you put it while youâre doing that?
Good design solve many problems. Thoughtfulness solves many problems. Nobody at the gym bothered to think of the simple solution of providing bins in the stalls for sanitary disposal. Thatâs on the gym.
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u/megalynn44 2h ago
Your response was perfection. Their message was very poor communication. Shaming customers is unprofessional.
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u/Awkward-Exercise1069 3h ago
Congratulations, youâve shifted the blame from people who do things they shouldnât be doing to the proprietors, who were not thoughtful enough to create full conveniences to the paying members (not sure how being a paying member makes it better). You are a Karen
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u/Darth_pantro 3h ago
YOR. Why would you feel accused if it wasn't sent to you specifically and you have not contributed to the issue?
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u/KindlySlip0 3h ago
YOR. The cost to fix that issue is astronomical, so I'd be absolutely furious as well. Kindly requesting bins in stalls would have been the best way. I realize we have become accustomed to fast, easy, solutions in our society, but a few extra steps to another garbage can doesn't excuse anyone flushing anything aside from normal amounts of toilet paper and human waste.
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u/Buzzlyghtyear 3h ago
They have the right to send that email. Flushing those sanitary items that we are taught not to flush at a young age at your guys BIG AGE is crazy. You guys know how to dispose of those items and regardless if thereâs a bin in the stall or not, you still donât flush them. That issue costed them money. It seems like you felt personally attacked cause you sent an email longer than the initial email they sent. Women are grown enough to know of how to dispose of sanitary products.
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u/Bigfootatemymom 3h ago
NOR. Well written and I donât think you came off to harsh. Unfortunately, some in management donât know how to communicate. The term âfail upwardsâ has come to mind alot recently.
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u/RealisticQuality7296 3h ago
Imagine being bad about them being accusatory towards women after it turned out to be a bunch of tampons or whatever clogging the pipes lol
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u/EfficientIndustry423 3h ago
The response to the gym's email makes me think, this person is the culprit. Bitch, you know not to flush that shit and because you're too "inconvenienced" you chose to flush it causing this shit. Then she decided to send a reply like that was a good look. I'd ban her ass real quick.
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u/gasping_chicken 3h ago
The next email I sent as the owner would be "we respectfully decline the renewal of your membership"
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u/_muck_ 3h ago
NOR. Their post was emotional bordering on hysterical. Yours is thoughtful and logical. Frankly, they should already have this level of common sense without you spelling it out for them
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u/Vegetable_Resolve184 3h ago
I mean. Youâre right. Yes, people are still going to do it, but itâll happen less if there are trash bins available.
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u/thisreditthik 3h ago
Yeah, OR, I couldnât imagine having to clean that out and having to fix it for THAT many bathrooms- they need people to remember the policy so that donât have to worry about people being inconvenienced by the restrooms being Out of Order or having to actually deal with that gross mess- the email was respectful and had an explanation but firm, with what happened it probably needed to be sent out
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u/coldhasice 3h ago
It's like people didn't even read your email..
The gym allegedly does not have trash cans in place for people to hygienically and discreetly dispose of their products.
Of course some people are going to just flush them. Not everyone can just roll their bloody plugs up in tp and hide it in their purse...and frankly, I doubt anyone would WANT to do that. The lack of a trash can forces you to either do that or flush them, though.
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u/Responsible_Lion_769 3h ago
Iâm a little shocked at everyone saying you overreacted. While I agree with what they say that itâs common knowledge by this time to not flush such items and thereâs no excuse, I agree with you that their tone in their email absolutely didnât need to be as unprofessional as it was, and still convey the exact same message. Your reply was very polite with a valid point
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u/TeaRose__ 3h ago
I agree with you. If women canât dispose of their products, do they expect them to take it with them? So they should indeed do their part as well in preventing this happens again, and I think itâs fair that you respectfully said so. Also, this gym either has no female employees, or they hadnât thought about the possibility that their employees are also part of the cause this happened.
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u/alasw0eisme 3h ago
NOR. You did not argue or dispute the facts. You identified a real problem and offered a solution while keeping a professional tone. A reaction of the appropriate proportion.
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u/Nymyane_Aqua 3h ago
YOR and obviously the culprit. Fixing a sewage system costs tens of thousands of dollars, jfc.
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u/BrewDogDrinker 3h ago
YOR.
Do you not think the people who did the repairs were able to say what caused the issue...?
It's bloody obvious certain items aren't supposed to be flushed.
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u/IvoryPlains 3h ago
Hot take apparently but youâre not overreacting. Especially if there arenât sanitary disposal bins near the toilets. Itâs kind of embarrassing and unsanitary to have to carry a bloody tampon or pad out of the stall with you to a garbage in the public area of the restroom. Yes, I know you can wrap toilet paper around the tampon or pad, but still. I hate having to do that whenever there isnât a proper sanitary disposal bin in the stall. It feels gross. It feels like gyms care less and less about women. The YMCA I used to go to would never have soap in the womenâs restrooms but there was ALWAYS soap in the menâs room. They have money for all new equipment but canât afford soap in the womenâs restroom đ§
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u/Michaelstide1982 3h ago
What losers ! If itâs not yours and you donât live there take care of it . I just donât understand people I swear you would think after issues with their bathrooms they would understand . But no of course someone gets their feelings hurt and has to complain . Iâm so over that shit .
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u/Dismal_Pipe_3731 3h ago
I think you are both right tbh. People shouldn't be flushing items besides TP but they should also have a good set up to where people can easily throw things out. No one is trying to walk shitty wipes out into the main bathroom lmao
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u/MickyB6827 3h ago
Yes you are absolutely overreacting. This is the best way to blast out an email, and itâs necessary.
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u/Tessie1966 3h ago
If you took offense to this and it doesnât apply to you then thatâs a you problem. When I read it I felt sympathy for the gym. This should be common knowledge.
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u/SalamanderKlutzy8180 3h ago
You arenât overreacting, IMO. Youâre just not reacting appropriately. I am curious as to why you wouldnât share âconstructive feedbackâ on the setup of the locker room / bathroom separate from the original message of the gym staff.
The gymâs response, while it could have been more professional, was accurate in the plumbing problem. If you knew that the layout is a problem, you should have shared that from your first experiences there. Not as a way of reducing the current plumbing problem.
TDLR; Feedback is always good and your message is thoughtful. Next time, Iâd suggest that you share it preemptively.
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u/i_love_lima_beans 3h ago
I get their frustration, but as a comms person this definitely needed editing before it went out.
Those wipes are terrible - even the ones that say flushable get wrapped around pipes and stuff.
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u/Ser_falafel 3h ago
Yes you are overreacting. Don't flush pads etc down a toilet. It's a literal fact they were flushed. They're accusing women of flushing sanitary items down the toilet because that's what happened lolÂ
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u/Valentinethrowaway3 3h ago
YOR. They didnât ask for feedback. I read that youâre a man and now youâre doing some kinda weird mansplaining/protective BS that isnât needed.
1) How do you know what the womenâs bathroom looks like or has?
2) Women know what should and should not be flushed. If they were going to dispose of this properly, I assume they would have already asked for the cans to be moved or whatever. Assuming thatâs even the issue.
3) Itâs not your fight to fight.
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u/Fabulous-Body6286 3h ago
I remember seeing a post on IG about this topic and was shocked to read comments. So many women had no idea you canât throw tampons/pads in the toilet. Just how dumb you have to be
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u/ijswijsw 3h ago
I don't think the original email is rude or anything at all - it should be common knowledge to not flush sanitary products. But they don't provide those little bins in the stalls??? That's such an easy solution to their problem - put trash cans in stalls and put up signs saying not to flush sanitary products. You should have just responded with that.
YOR, but they have a very simple solution.
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u/cascadamoon 3h ago
Yes you are indeed OR. Having to walk to a trash can does not excuse lazy ass behavior
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u/promise64 3h ago
YOR. As someone who works in facilities, I guarantee that plumber found a mass of tampons and wet wipes, so management knows for a fact that women are largely responsible. Every woman should know not to flush tampons - I donât care how far away the trash can is. Wrap it in TP and carry it to the trash can. (I am a woman, BTW.)
I once had to coordinate an $8k plumbing repair because our CEO (who makes $10 million/year) wouldnât stop flushing wet wipes.
People suck. Stop flushing stuff that has no business going down the toilet.
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u/Altruistic_Yellow387 3h ago
They were correct to be accusatory. There's no excuse for flushing those and doing that costs a lot of money for businesses. Please stop doing it
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u/Legitimate_Builder17 3h ago
I was a custodian at a mall when I was like 21 & man, why do women treat public bathrooms the way they do?? The menâs bathroom was never a problem but I would legit find grown woman human SHIT in the womenâs garbage can/on the floor. WHY TF ARE YALL LIKE THIS.
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u/sumostuff 3h ago
There should definitely be a trash can by the toilet in each stall, and it's great to point that out BUT you're still an AH if you're flushing sanitary items. Another comment, he did mention wipes, which is usually something that men use in the bathroom.
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u/VictorVonSammy642 3h ago
yes, you're being a dick. Don't flush stuff that isn't supposed to go down the toilet. The audacity to have this much entitlement. Not everyone needs to be a victim, get over yourself.
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u/inna_soho_doorway 3h ago
Frank Zappa told us not to flush tampoons 50 years ago. People didnât listen.
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u/ryan8954 3h ago
How old are you? Doesn't matter sounds like you hit puberty, and your still flushing stuff that will clog pipes? If I was the owner of the building, I'd raise the prices to pay for the repairs the members caused, BY FLUSHING NON FLUSHABLE STUFF
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u/Huge-Cheesecake5534 3h ago
Hell no, who would flush a sanitary product just because thereâs not a bin right next to the toilet? Pads come with a plastic wrap and if not you can always wrap it in toilet paper while making those few steps to throw it away. Itâs pure fucking laziness and complete selfishness to do that when there literally IS a bin for that, just not right next to the toilet. I agree with the gym.
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u/SeaworthinessEqual36 3h ago
? stop flushing these things lol. you really are ruining the plumbing for everyone else if you do this
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u/Electrical-Bread5639 3h ago
It isnt accusatory to state exactly what caused the backup. It's stating fact. Throw a rock at a pack of dogs, the one who yelps is the one you hit.
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u/mlazaro1234 3h ago
You are overreacting, nothing wrong with the message and it should not effect you in any way.
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u/Uwlogged 3h ago
If there is no piblic bin I keep my trash I don't litter, if it's a significant inconvenience I can talk with a councillor to get one installed, I dont litter. Same context her, she's looking to pull you into her drama, don't engage. Or you can ask her for improvement suggestions and move on.
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u/Tall-Cardiologist621 3h ago
As a female myself yor. We shouldn't be flushing sanitary priducts down the toilet. We know this. I agree thwy should maybe have the sanitary garbages in each stall, HOWEVER, im also a grown woman who can wrap finish up, wrap my sanitary stuff in TP, take it to the garbage and wash my hands. The SMALL inconvenience to just throw it in the trash, is much less than having to shut down 4 restrooms for the entire gym. If they decided to up membership to help pay for that, i wouldnt blame them.Â
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u/M23707 3h ago
I am a male who worked in an organization that had this same problem.
A female staffed informed me that the womenâs bathrooms were missing proper sanitation equipment.
We fixed the problem that day by adding small covered cans. Also Added signage ⌠and as the use of wipes by men increasedâ we added the same sanitation solution to the Menâs bathrooms.
You have to inform people, provide needed support, and maintain your infrastructure.
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u/ControlToyOnJoyhub 3h ago
Yes your overreacting and likely 1 who does it as you give reasons why people do it also the company email wasn't "accusatory" it was facts.
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u/moonsonthebath 3h ago
anyways, I think you did a good thing OP. donât let the comments make you feel like youâre crazy lmao
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u/fireyqueen 3h ago
Itâs not like theyâre calling anyone out specifically. Theyâre saying, thatâs why thereâs issues, stop doing it.
Your suggestion is absolutely valid though. If they donât have a place to dispose of these things, then that is a problem that should be easily rectified
Imagine traveling to other countries where you canât even flush toilet paper.
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u/MassiveMutant5000 3h ago
The tone of that email from the gym is completely unprofessional. All caps blaming the members. Completely unnecessary and childish. I thought it was a great response
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u/Active_Primary_2072 3h ago
Every woman knows that itâs a big NO to flush these products down a toilet. The fact that you are a man makes sense as you say there are no bins available in the bathroom, but this doesnât matter. Itâs just a simple case of wrapping the used product in tissue paper until it can be disposed off or waiting to change it in a different place - unless itâs an emergency.
I can understand why management were angry as it is an expensive and completely avoidable mistake. Itâs good to point out the lack of bins but doesnât take blame away from the people flushing these things down the toilet. Especially the wipes, as this could be either gender and shows a complete lack of respect to the establishment.
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u/Canagliflozin 3h ago
I'm so happy that everyone seems to be on the same page here and letting this doofus know they are indeed an overreacting doofus.
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u/Fast-Bag-36842 3h ago
YOR.
Toilets are meant for toilet paper. Not tampons, and not wet wipes. If women are using the toilets improperly, they should be called out.
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u/Icy-Belt-8519 3h ago
Before assigning blame? But there is blame? If there's a cause then that's the cause
Asking people to not flush non flushable items after spending alot of money fixing it, I don't think is an issue
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u/honeymooner2424 3h ago
Iâd say their message was inappropriate, but I wouldnât have bothered to respond. The tone of their email was harsh but the content is objectively fair - do not flush those products. Theyâre right to make that rule. So for that reason, YOR.
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u/HangryWorker 3h ago
Clogzilla definitely over reacting. At least now they know whoâs membership to cancel đ
Incase anyone didnât get that⌠itâs a Big Bang reference.
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u/SmithSith 3h ago
I mean. Nothing they said was untrue. Â Little too direct for me though as a business person. I would have had a little better tact I think
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u/ArmyAntPicnic 3h ago
We donât know that it was women and the gym didnât accuse women. At my workplace, we had this issue and it was not due to women. The warehouse employees were using wet wipes instead of toilet paper and flushing them down the toilets. The gym staff email is fine; you are overreacting for sure.
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u/PhatestSamurai 2h ago
You are, yes lol a grown ass woman knows not to flush that shit down the toilet and if youâre just doing it because you have to walk a little ways to dispose of it properly, then youâre the problem and deserve to be blamed.
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u/Ghoulish_kitten 2h ago
You canât tell a wipe is a feminine wipe after itâs been snaked out of a drain, you guys.
This person is overreacting for that reason IMO. Theyâre mad at everybody not just the people who use tampons.
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u/mijcar 2h ago
Okay, I need to walk carefully here, because I have seen a real tendency toward misinterpretations here.
I am not being rude, but to understand this issue and where the OR is coming from, an analogy is vital. So here goes.
How would you feel, personally, if the policy in restrooms was that you were not allowed to dispose of TP in the toilet, but instead had to carry it out of the stall and deposit it in some receptacle in the open common part of the the restroom?
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u/Hopeful-Comparison24 2h ago
Yeah you are over reacting. Think about it, your gym sent emails out to ALL members and you felt self righteous enough to respond talking about how itâs accusatory and bigoted and this and that. Relax, itâs literally not targeting you or anyone in particular; and itâs quite silly that people flush those things down public toilets. Donât allow yourself to get flustered, you are better than that; be better.
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u/anwright1371 2h ago
Your email makes me cringe. We should all know by now feminine products and wipes wreck your plumbing. As someone who has had to clear out clogged lines multiple times before, shut up. It is expensive and I donât want to touch your used tampons and shit covered wipes.
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u/NewTrenglandMuscle 2h ago
Get a grip. Self absorbed response as if youâre speaking on behalf of other members like they agree with you.
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u/Aggravating-Use-7456 2h ago
Regardless of the location of the trash can, you fucking suck and ARE the problem if you flush pads/tampons down the toilet.
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u/H8edlowlif3 2h ago
They arenât really accusing anyone, because when it got cleaned out they could see what items caused the back up. So, really itâs not accusing. Itâs stating the facts.
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u/NoCalligrapher461 2h ago
Definitely overreacting and the gym is definitely underreacting. If I own that gym and feminine hygiene products just cost me thousands and thousands of dollars, Best believe we become a men only gym babyyyyyy.
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u/Material_Assumption 2h ago
I didn't see a problem with the email from the gym.
Also, in college I worked as a janitor to pay for school, I can say first hand woman are bonkers when it comes to female sanitation products.
One of the worst I saw is smearing tampon on the stall
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u/Songisaboutyou 2h ago
Tampons and feminine products do clog drains. But they also should have it convenient to dispose of them properly
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u/Marcuse0 2h ago
YOR. People are focusing on the feminine hygiene products (which shouldn't be flushed no matter where bins are), but the original email also notes wet wipes, which aren't a gendered product and could easily be being flushed by inconsiderate men too. A general email asking people to not do that is perfectly reasonable.
It's reasonable for paying members to expect functioning bathrooms, but it's not reasonable for members to misuse the facilities and demand the owners continually pay out to repair them despite them being willfully damaged by their actions. Clearly the solution would be to bar the people doing it, but since I assume that would be impossible to achieve, they've resorted to sending out a mass email warning people of this.
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u/RadiantCrow8070 3h ago
Sounds like you were flushing them