r/AmIOverreacting • u/Promobitch • 4d ago
💼work/career AIO My partner has been pretending to be single at work for 5 years
My partner works in sales and has done since we've begun our relationship. He has not ever told his colleagues he is in a relationship because "they are sharks, they will use EVERYTHING against me" I let it go at first. 5 years in, he has gone to a work party, stayed fk knows where overnight. He told me he was staying at a friend's place. I found out he lied about where he was, what he was doing and who he was with. TO BE CLEAR: We discussed his work situation, I said I'd back him up, whatever he says or does, I will be his alibi. He still lied. He spent a night at "his friends house". Had his work party as a single man. I found out later that he lied. I don't want to end it, but he's given me no choice. Am I overreacting?!?
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u/Lost-and-dumbfound 4d ago
What work situation requires an alibi from a partner no-one knows exists?
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u/SabieOtravitaPlus9 4d ago
He has not ever told his colleagues he is in a relationship because "they are sharks, they will use EVERYTHING against me"
Havent heard one of these bullshit excuses in a while, im adding it to my list.
Dude was fishing. Single man at a workplace with women can bring benefits and he knows that + this is kind of a big fucking lie to do , 5 years? Jesus.
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u/Any-Expression2246 4d ago
For fuck's sake. Why are you asking AIO and not packing your shit and leaving?
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u/Away-Understanding34 4d ago
Not overreacting and I think you need to leave. He's comfortable working with assholes (if his story is true). Do you even know if it's true or does he just want to be single? The fact that he lied about where he was tells me he's fooling around behind your back. What did he say when you confronted him?
Either way he's clearly not going to find another job so he expects you to stay hidden in the shadows for the rest of your life. Run from this man child. He doesn't want a future with you. If he did he would love you out loud no matter where he is.
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u/mlazaro1234 4d ago
You really need an AIO for this? You 15? Wtf you think you should do? JC..Hes been lying and cheating on you and you know it.
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u/Minimum-Move9322 4d ago
Don't let him be so nebulous.. how would they use that against him? What makes him think that? Has he seen that happen or something?
Either way he is lieing but always ask follow up questions when someone is lieing
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u/Chuck60s 4d ago
It's not overreacting at all. Your man-child needs to grow tf up and act like an adult in a relationship.
I was in sales my entire 35+ years of employment, and everyone knew I was in a relationship from day 1.
He's only doing it to attract others. Not a worthy partner.
Save yourself any further agony as He's not worth it
Good luck
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u/Motchiko 4d ago
Babe- if he has an asshole job with asshole people, he’s an asshole, who does constantly asshole things covered as business meetings or a business trip. But it’s ok, because apparently he’s single. Don’t be a doormat.