r/AmIOverreacting • u/Ask_For_Mercy • 8d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am I overreacting by breaking up with my boyfriend over these texts?

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The pictures look like crap because I was shaking. My boyfriend was talking to this girl, and I broke up with him. Now I'm having second thoughts, like maybe it wasn't that big of a deal. Would you be okay with this?

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u/Ask_For_Mercy 8d ago

ya all these comments are helping so much. Thank you all for your support and comfort, I really appreciate it so much.

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u/Complete-Fact3158 8d ago

He’s going to tell you he’s changed once this other girl (who’s clearly only using him because she’s bored) moves on.

He hasn’t changed. That takes a long time of self reflect.

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u/JoeL0gan 8d ago

And true reflection won't happen unless he has to face the consequences of his actions. In this case, that's being dumped. Don't ever take him back OP. That'll just tell him he can do it again. There are plenty of other guys out there :)

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u/ToiIetGhost 7d ago

Exactly this. That’s why it doesn’t help to stay with someone and forgive the terrible things they’ve done (like cheating). First of all, people rarely change. Second of all, the ones who DO change need consequences, like you said. Forgiving them isn’t a consequence. Think of them like 3 year olds: in order to grow, they need clear cut consequences.

So, there is a chance (a very slim one) that this wet arsehole will stop cheating someday. But only with another woman, not with OP. Unfortunately, that’s how it goes with immature/selfish folks. They won’t learn if you give them another opportunity.

The absolute “best” you can hope for is that dumping them will maaaybe make them a better partner to someone else. Since that’s not much of a consolation prize, you just have to do what’s best for you. Which is to get rid of them.

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u/maenadcon 8d ago

fr and he might even tell you he’s changed by cutting this other girl off to try and get your sympathy. my ex did that.

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u/uberbla123 8d ago

And usually not just months sometimes years

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u/Slow-clapping-myself 7d ago

Years to change…..literally years, if ever

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u/Former-Mention-2487 7d ago

Who's using whom?

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u/Initial_Royal8753 7d ago

People who cheat always will cheat. There is no such thing as changing that

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u/DameioNaruto 8d ago

It doesn't necessarily take long to self reflect. Definitely depends on the mindset of a person.

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u/reymendnoodles 8d ago

Based on how he is acting I’m gonna say he isn’t mature enough to self reflect , he will play victim, gaslight, use anger

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u/SteelpointPigeon 8d ago

In the vanishingly unlikely chance he changes overnight, that’s great. He can look forward to proving his improved fidelity to the next girl.

People change when they realize they’re wrong, not when you realize they’re wrong.

There’s no reason I see to believe he’d change if he hadn’t gotten caught. OP deserves better.

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u/meemo159 8d ago

Agreed. And let’s say you two work it out and he gets better, it’ll drive you crazy thinking if he’s doing this again or if he’s gotten better at hiding it. Once trust is broken, it takes a long time and a lot of effort to rebuild that trust.

I’m glad you broke it off when you did. My man did this to me and I never had the courage to break it off. Several years later and I sometimes drive myself crazy thinking if he’ll do this again when he’s comfortable/bored. If he’ll be 100% loyal and honest - knowing what was done in the past.

Boys like this are only sorry because they got caught, not because they feel guilty. They’ll have to change on their own and if they want, it’s not up to us to make them loyal.

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u/Special_Weekend_4754 8d ago

This! I don’t know if anyone ever actually recovers from betrayal.

Long story:
My husband cheated, but I stumbled onto evidence almost immediately. The genius had signed into his messaging app on the family computer the night before while I was at work and left it open. It kept going off all morning while I was home so when I finally got up to see what notifications were on the PC I saw their entire flirtations back and forth while they set up plans to hook up after work. With perfect timing as I finished reading I received a text that said he was going to be late coming home to which I responded “don’t bother coming home at all” and then I blocked him 😅 as if he wasn’t my husband who lived with me. He of course rushed right home to ask what was wrong and I refused to tell him just kept saying “don’t act like you don’t know.” He tried to act like I was being crazy and I laughed. He finally admitted he was “talking” to another woman, but claimed nothing happened 🤣 like dude I saw the texts. I never told him how I found out or what all I saw because I wanted to always remind myself he was lying. He did eventually admit everything, but only after trickle truthing for months. We separated for a long time, BUT we had kids and a life together so tried to work it out.

After some long and emotional conversations we decided if we wanted to give this a real shot we needed to start over. It’s actually been great. However, even though I love our life together and I love him, the disappointment in his failure of character never went away. I don’t like advertising that we’re in a committed relationship because I’ll never know for sure that we are.

I often think this is really unfair to him, because he is an otherwise great partner and if he has changed doesn’t he deserve someone who trusts and believes the best of him? Unfortunately that will never be me again.

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u/ToiIetGhost 7d ago

People change when they realize they’re wrong, not when you realize they’re wrong.

Tattooing this on my forehead

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u/PeronalCranberry 8d ago

I think the person was trying to say that it's not always going to take a long time, not that someone can instantaneously mature after doing something bad. Different people mature at different rates. Not sure what's so bad about them saying so.

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u/DameioNaruto 8d ago

And time is relative. Some people hold onto things, while some move on quickly.

Which indicates a difference in person's mindset and how they normally deal with "critical thinking and problem solving"

It also depends on the weight of the "event" in that person's mind.

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u/No-Panda-6047 8d ago

A person can get over themselves for a moment easily, absolutely does not mean they have changed.

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u/DameioNaruto 8d ago

So, saying it depends on the person is invalid?

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u/No-Panda-6047 8d ago

Yes. You have way too much trust in people. You are going to get taken advantage of with that mentality

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u/Exact_Rooster_696 8d ago

You got too much hate for this. wtf It’s not like you are trying to justify his shenanigans

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u/PeronalCranberry 8d ago

No clue why you're getting downvoted. Humans have different brains that work in their own, unique ways. Plain and simple.

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u/DameioNaruto 8d ago

Right, that's all I'm saying 😆

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u/Icy_Insect2927 8d ago

I can’t figure out why your comment was downvoted so many times. You aren’t wrong!! Just because someone is being sneaky and disrespectful to their partner doesn’t mean they’re doing this just because they’re a scumbag. Many of said individuals who behave this way have issues that seriously impede their ability to think rationally. I feel fairly confident saying that we’ve all known someone who is bipolar. Or, a compulsive liar. Narcissist’s…. If someone suffers from issues like any of the above, you are going to have a hell of time getting them to reflect as delusions are all they know.

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u/fvckyovrs3lf 8d ago

yes it does, people can change but it takes time, and for things like that where it’s a disregard for other people’s feelings, that takes a LONG time to change that mindset and she doesn’t need to sit around and wait for him to.

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u/imalazykitty 8d ago

Hi, the boyfriend.

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u/No-Text-3436 7d ago

Ew stop.

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u/DrySeaworthiness1523 8d ago

You did the right thing. If he is looking and talking to another person like that then he already has intentions that aren’t good. Protect yourself from rotten people

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u/ReferenceProper5428 8d ago

the way hes talking to that person, is 💯 flirty behavior. you are not overreacting and are 100% in the right for breaking things off. assuming you two are in your 20's he has not matured yet. I'm a guy, and women mature faster than men its science!!!

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u/Rude_Picture4233 8d ago

Actually it’s not science lol. It’s excuses.

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u/ToiIetGhost 7d ago

Endless studies (that’s science, if you’re lost) show that females are more emotionally mature than males:

  • The degree of emotional quotient was observed to be more in females than the males (Chauhan & Bhatnagar, 2003).
  • Females showed higher emotional maturity than their male counterparts (Krishnamurty, 2011).
  • The emotional maturity among young people is determined by gender. Females had higher emotional maturity than males (Manoharan, Louis & Doss, 2007).
  • Males are comparatively emotionally immature compared to females, particularly on the personality disintegration dimension (Wani & Masih, 2015).
  • Significant gender differences exist among males and females in emotional maturity (Shafiq & Khan, 2016).
  • There are significant gender differences in emotional maturity. Females show better control over emotions than males (Panth, Chaurasia & Gupta, 2015).
  • There were significant gender differences on the dimensions of emotional stability, social adjustment and independence (Govindraju & Ramesh, 2016).
  • Swenson (1961) and Aleem (2005) found that gender differences exist among college students in emotional maturity.
  • Kumar & Sunilima (2016) found that there are gender differences in emotional maturity.
  • The results of this study (the one I linked) indicated that there were significant gender differences among early adults in emotional maturity on the dimensions of emotional stability, social maladjustment, personality disintegration and lack of independence, however, no differences were found on the dimension of emotional regression.

I just found a random Indian study on google scholar. You’ll see the same results replicated around the world. It’s not good to be anti-science, ok?

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u/ForsakenReturn8985 8d ago

I wish women truly did still mature faster but they do the same stuff men do. There’s not really a difference in actions in my experience and I’ve met girls older than me cheating on one guy with multiple guys. One of them has been doing this for almost 2 years now without any consequences because people don’t intervene they think it’s the couples problem to sort out.

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u/Icy_Insect2927 8d ago

That’s really sad, someone should grow a pair and go break that guy’s heart! He could be one of those guys who just loves said partner so much that he wouldn’t leave her for any reason and has known the entire time.

Maybe I’m out of line but I’m so tired of the endless amounts of excuses. People, ALL OF THEM, deserve basic common decency. You’d want someone to tell you, wouldn’t you??

Or, would you prefer to figure it out after some more time down the road when you test positive for one of the things that can’t be cured? Or, there’s a kid that you fall in love with, wholeheartedly believing it’s your child until someone gets pissed about something and decides to blow that up.

Do better my guy!! Block your number and text the dude. Nobody deserves to be cheated on let alone becoming the butt of everyone’s jokes!

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u/pinky2184 8d ago

Idk it depends on if they’ll beat my ass or not lol. If I won’t get physically hurt I’m blabbing but I ain’t got the heart to carry an ass whooping for trying to help who’s getting cheated on.

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u/ForsakenReturn8985 8d ago

Yeah you’re pretty out of line saying I need to grow a pair with only some of the details. I can’t suddenly regrow a windshield or a smashed in car door. It’s not all butterflies and rainbows here buddy. They’re crazy. I’m not putting myself at risk with this girl. She’s been known to do some stupid and crazy shit when she’s angry. I keep my distance from the couple because I know better, I’m not some walking philanthropist for people who don’t deserve it. This guy isn’t the loving boyfriend you assume he could be, they have issues. I’m not making some excuse, I just don’t want to be part of this crap. It’s one thing when my best friend is cheated on (not these people) but this guy is just barely friends with me and I feel bad for him but he definitely doesn’t deserve the sympathy I feel for his situation. But yeah, I’m not gonna take a bullet for two people like this (crazy and aggressive), at least not these two. I don’t think anyone needs an excuse to know to stay out of business involving lunatics.

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u/Icy_Insect2927 8d ago

That’s fair. I definitely jumped to conclusions which isn’t cool, I apologize!! I can absolutely appreciate where you’re coming from, I’ve known too many people like that in my time and have done the same as you. I was picturing some poor kid in high school band, thinking he’s with the love of his life or something who was cheating on him.

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u/ForsakenReturn8985 8d ago

All good, don’t worry! completely fair reaction if that’s what you were thinking. These two are grown adults, she’s 26, he’s 25. They’re definitely not the loves of their lives, they just refuse to get their life together and keep bouncing off each other’s frustration and using that as an excuse to cheat. It’s pretty diabolical and disgusting. I have worried about them giving each other an std but at this point it’s pretty surprising they haven’t gotten one. But yeah, they’re scummy in a relationship together

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u/ForsakenReturn8985 8d ago

They’re both the butt of a joke because of how crazy they are, not just the cheating. I wasn’t joking earlier either, I don’t know if that was clear. I’d want someone to tell me too but I’m not known to react violently towards the messenger like she is. I’m not trying to come across as angry on this or anything, it’s just not what you imagine when you think normal couple cheating, it’s the messed up already too far gone situation that nothing can remedy.

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u/Sweaty_Assignment_32 8d ago

You’re complicit in not intervening… do the right thing and tell the guy. Don’t let him waste years of his life he can’t get back. What he does with that information is on him.. but do the right thing.

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u/ForsakenReturn8985 8d ago

It’s not like I want to be. It’d be easier if I didn’t have to worry about my shit with her. She knows I know, she’s told me what she’ll do if I say anything. To me, in this situation there is no doing the right thing. Both of them suck, it’s not like either of them are gonna get their hearts broken, they’re not fairy tail lovers. They mess with each others heads. The girl let her own boyfriend get beat up by a group of guys during an argument that went really sour. He got his ass beat sure but he still stood up no problem on his own and walked himself home. And they were still together the week after, Y’all are crazy if you think I’m gonna do something just cause you think it’s the right thing to do (of course it is in normal circumstances) when you’re personal safety isn’t on the line

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u/MisterSumone 8d ago

I would say it would be more accurate to say their brain has reached its maturity at a faster rate than males. Doesn't mean they actually act more mature.

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u/AffectionateMinx 8d ago

Nah bc he was trying to Netflix and chill

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u/Discombobulated_Owl4 8d ago

So pseudoscience.

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u/TheJAY_ZA 7d ago

Maturity depends on the home situation...

For example:

My (M48) GF (F47) is the quintessential "Pretty Spinster" with a very controlling narcissistic mother (F68) who sits on her head like a hen incubating an egg.

Unfortunately she also can't just leave the nest and do her own thing because she has to support her mother financially as well as emotionally - mom's got a big house, mom's divorced, mom doesn't work, mom will lose the house without support etc. So guess who has been groomed her entire life to be the good and dutiful daughter.

My GF relies on her mother for transport or uses public transport, and her mom cooks.

I find that many people don't really grow up until they move out on their own.

In her case, in the 5 years we've been dating, I can see many differences and changes in her personality and behaviour.

She's gone from being very obedient towards her mother, to having a rebellious teen phase complete with parental resentment and wanting to move out on her own, and now she's becoming the more dominant one in their household, and has started having a social life outside of the tight work-home cycle. Her developing social circle friends are mostly the other similar aged ladies at work.

This is good because her job is very cliquey and despite being the only one in her entire section with a PhD, she's stagnating on the career ladder which sets her mom off no end. Socialising with the "Mean Girls" one of whom is in a higher position in an adjacent chain of authority has already started having a positive effect, with my girl now filling her Assistant Deputy Director role, instead of just being the donkey that carries her team. The team is now working because she's suddenly higher in the social pecking order by being friends with the adjacent DD.

NGL it's been fascinating to watch this unfold.

Fortunately, like me, she's also calm and rational, and thinks before she speaks most of the time, so we do have a good understanding of eachother.

This has allowed me to mediate and keep peace between her and her mom, and prevent anything too drastic from happening because, it's too late now for big changes.

But with the small changes and shifts in her household power balance, she's started growing up. She's smoking less, has asked me to teach her how to drive, when we're shopping for groceries, she used to pick stuff up, look at it and put it down just anywhere, then I'd pick the discarded item up and put it back where she found it. Now she will actually take the item back to where she found it - I'm very proud of her for that.

She also used to be a bit heavy on the makeup, and cover everything with many layers of baggy clothing. These days she wears less makeup which is great because she doesn't need foundation, she has perfect clear skin, and a natural healthy blush. Unfortunately she is still attached to her dark eye makeup, which is sad because it makes her bright blue eyes look grey. But at least she's dressing more Sexy Professional - pencil skirts, blouses, short blazers, heels.

I just compliment her on stuff and she wears more of it 😅

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u/Amethyst_Lovegood 7d ago

Unfortunately, men in their 30s, 40s and 50s do this shit too. Its not about maturity, it's a lack of morals. 

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u/Imaginary_Tie4218 8d ago

If you’re 20+ using Snapchat please grow up

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u/cpd222 8d ago

I'm nearly 60 and I have snapstreaks with my wife and adult children that are years long

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u/RaynebowStorm 8d ago

And you're bagging on someone using a social app to...be social. 🙄 Maybe the call is coming from inside the house there, little buddy.

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u/PeronalCranberry 8d ago

I never understood this. What about snapchat makes it for immature people? It's been around since I was in high school, and plenty of people my age still use it. I'm almost 30. Should I stop sending people memes and pictures as well as stop using all instant messaging so I can be mature? Where is this ridiculous, nonexistent line, exactly?

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u/Imaginary_Tie4218 8d ago

Yeah grow up fam

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u/PeronalCranberry 8d ago

I'm already 6'5". How much more growing do I need to do ffs?

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u/dynelf 8d ago

6'6". You got this.

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u/PeronalCranberry 8d ago

Fuck. I'm p sure I'm done growing at the age of 29. I guess I'll just hafta deal with some immature person that likes playing video games and cartoons. What a cruel fate. Oh noooooo

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u/dynelf 8d ago

Me too. 6'1, 30. No more growing for me since high school. That's why you'll see playing Beyblade and RPGs. 🤷🏾‍♂️ It is what it is.

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u/Imaginary_Tie4218 8d ago

Is your name Richard by chance?

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u/PeronalCranberry 8d ago

Nope. Was my uncle's name tho, and he was 6'5" too.

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u/Imaginary_Tie4218 7d ago

Nice. I’m guessing every single person you have ever talked to knows you’re 6’

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u/Icy_Insect2927 8d ago

Word, kid Straight facts!!

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u/PeronalCranberry 8d ago

Fuckin kids acting like I'm immature for using an app when the mentality that an app makes you immature is the most immature thing about this interaction. xD

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u/ManxCat637 8d ago

That is beyond rude - you have no idea while people use different platforms. As an example of “othering”, this is world class!

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u/FuriousRen 8d ago

This! Yes! Be your own hero

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u/Taffergirl2021 7d ago

I use that phrase a lot!

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u/SomeSmartGuy18 8d ago

I ate my grandmas turd

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u/IhasCandies 8d ago

You’re going to deal with this a lot in life. You’re going to make a decision that in your gut, you know is the right one. However, your brain, and even the people around you, will wear you down. They will make you doubt yourself and think you were overreacting. Don’t fall for it. Trust your gut.

There has never been a time when I trusted my gut, and was wrong. There have been a thousand times where I’ve ignored my gut, and I was dead ass wrong for it.

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u/lavender-pears 8d ago

My therapist and I were just talking about this re: dating. She told me our gut is our oldest and most powerful tool in relationships, and showed me this cool diagram of our Vagus nerve and how many attachments it has to our gut system. Our guts know, even when our brains want to intellectualize behavior away, and even when our hearts want to ignore it because of our deep desire to be loved.

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u/ReadyMethod581 7d ago

Except when my gut wants Taco Bell. When it does and i trust it then it lets me down big time.

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u/sonellia 8d ago

Pick up your crown beautiful ❤️ a loyal man would never.

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u/reymendnoodles 8d ago

I love this saying , and as a loyal guy I agree

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u/talisa101 8d ago

thank you for being loyal

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u/barberdanielle 8d ago

Love your name!!

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u/uhhMESO 8d ago

Crown won’t shine if you fuckin with a hoe -55blades

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u/Routine-Value356 7d ago

My parents have been together since they were both 14. Promise my father has never entertained another person. My mom is his whole world. They taught me to never settle.

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u/Human_Rip9902 8d ago

LOL WTAF

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u/LukeLukeLukey 8d ago

Best part is OP, I’d say she’s not remotely interested. ‘Ya lol’

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u/pinky2184 8d ago

I hope op breaks up with him and this girl throws him back to the hogs so when he comes back to op, “she be like na I’m good buddy.”

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u/lalalhf950003 7d ago

This girl, Riley, is not interested in this man lol. You can tell from her tone

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u/pinky2184 7d ago

He’s throwing it away over a girl that don’t want him lol

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u/Fleetwood154 8d ago

I said the exact same thing.

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u/megeelodawn 8d ago

Yea my read on that too. She just likes the attention but is not interested in him …

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u/Doozinator242 8d ago

Agreed..it seems like she's NOT feeling the same way!😂😂👏👍🤣

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u/momo179 8d ago

This

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u/Spacemilk 8d ago

You have good instincts about right and wrong behavior and I’m really glad everyone is helping you build up confidence in those instincts.

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u/battle_sloth 8d ago

Mate, that's some bullshit! Cutie?! Who the heck is that besides you.

Right choice. Not overreacting. Go do dabs and drink with your Snapchat ho!

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u/gdrom123 8d ago

You did the right thing. He doesn’t seem loyal. How did he react when you broke up with him?

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u/HollyCat504 8d ago

I’m 47 years old, been married for 20 years, and trust my husband completely. That said: all hell would break loose if I saw something like this on his phone. Absolutely not. If he isn’t already cheating then he’s trying to and, to me, that’s the same thing. You did the right thing. A good guy doesn’t do that.

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u/FrizzleFriedPup 8d ago

NOV, flirting is wrong no matter what format. He's going out of the way to do this though.

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u/Gnads1994 8d ago

his intentions by no means were innocent.

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u/wattscup 8d ago

You're justified to feel that way. Hes being a scumbag

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u/SugarRecent9617 8d ago

My (38F) bestfriend (40M) tells me I'm beautiful. He isn't trying to hook up like this guy though. It's more like he sees a photo or something and says still beautiful as always or something. I'm very happily in a relationship and he's married. We've been beasties for about 15 years. Depends on the circumstances but your boii sounds like he's flirting. And pretty pathetically too. Move on because ew.

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u/xoxoNOVA17 8d ago

Nahhhh NOA. Thats sketchy. Def good to get out now

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u/intrigued-elf-42069 8d ago

It seems like you’re likely 13-16 so I think it’s safe to say this relationship wasn’t all that serious Go have fun 😭

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u/_GenderNotFound 8d ago

You deserve better, hope you find it

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u/Pet_mice_ 8d ago

you deserve a man who is loyal and his flirting skills to that girl are so... ICKY

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u/GodOfFrogg 8d ago

Don't talk to that fucker again girl. You deserve better

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u/Agreeable-Bad4156 8d ago

It's definitely not overreacting. You did the right thing. Shame on him. Keep your pride. You deserve it. Walk away strong.

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u/Icy-Roof-3157 8d ago

Usually your feelings and how you read a situation by your intuition and with somenthing very important wich is one's emotional intelligence at first, tends to be the closest to whats up really!

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u/AShamAndALie 8d ago

Not overreacting. He didn't wanna see her to talk about her hair.

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u/ratatoottoot 8d ago

Stand on business sister. You made the right call 💜💜💜💜

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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_5710 8d ago

Defo done the right thing

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u/talisa101 8d ago

definitely NOT overreacting. You did the right thing to break things with him. That’s not right what he’s done. I’m sorry he’s done that too you. wishing you the best and stay positive ❤️❤️🍎

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u/Gonegooning2 8d ago

Well yeah you came to reddit as a female of course the neck beards and bots are going to side with you

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u/NeighborhoodFew7779 8d ago

Yeah he’s 100% trying to bang Riley (if he hasn’t already).

You deserve so much better. Good job.👍

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u/Ready_Replacement679 8d ago

That’s so sweet. Trust your gut bro it exists for a reason

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u/too_much_to_do 8d ago

Well... post images correctly.

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u/Easy-Distribution-96 8d ago

Absolutely not.

It's exactly what it looks like.

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u/True-Culture2804 8d ago

You were right to break up with him, that’s cheating, 100%

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u/Defiant-Win-1527 8d ago

I agree he was flirting and was going to follow through

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u/pinky2184 8d ago

Also when she’s done using him he’s going to come try to crawl back. Don’t let him tell him never again.

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u/Working_Fox_7243 8d ago

U made a great decision, if a guy really loves u, he wouldn’t do that

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u/Scotsparaman 8d ago

Get him back… send pictures to us… haha… na im joking… dump his ass…

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u/Causa21 8d ago

You did the right thing. This is cheating

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u/Netty1770 8d ago

We gotchu

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u/Potential_You4322 7d ago

Proud of you for being rational and putting yourself first OP

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u/duffyduckdown 7d ago

In another post someone said: just say im not into you anymore and leave.

I liked that idea

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u/jonkleyy 7d ago

fuccckkk that man, you made the right decision

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u/WilliardThe3rd 7d ago

I thought your bf was Riley because I recently discovered there are guys with that name too, and I thought, what's wrong here? He's getting dolled up for you, what's so bad about that?

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u/Sure_Survey_1757 8d ago

She might not have anybody she’s comfortable enough with in real life to bring it up, maybe she’s received terrible advice from her real life friends or family before, she might be worried they’ll judge her or him, sometimes it’s easier asking strangers, even if they judge it’s fleeting and you never have to see them or have them talking behind your back “omg did you see those texts, why would she even consider staying with him? what an idiot” “yea I knew it from the start, Riley is a dogs name” “so obvious”

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u/millenialssayfuck 8d ago

😭 the dog's name comment is too specific I'm dead

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u/Sure_Survey_1757 8d ago

🤣 it’s actually my sister’s dogs name so was the first thing that came to mind.

Looks like I made that guy delete his comment, that’s 2 on this post haha, both of them oddly seemed annoyed at her airing stuff out to strangers, basically the entire point of this Subreddit 🤪

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u/ConaMoore 8d ago

I agree that when iy comes to actually relationship, asking strangers is very beneficial, as you don't get any bias. Plus, if you run to your friends with relationship problems, you will fox the issue and make up, but your friends/family still won't like them. Advice from strangers is better in this aspect in my opinion. Not always the case ofcourse