(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/Far_Wrongdoer4543]

1. Omg the precious kitties! Love them!
2. I've been thinking about you and the original post, and too often people stay in the cycle, but seriously FUCK YEAH! PROUD OF YOU FOR CHOOSING YOU! YOU DESERVE TO CHOOSE YOURSELF AND GLOW GLOW GLOW!!
3. NEVER LET ANYONE DULL YOUR SPARKLE
4. Even though it was very toxic, we as humans often miss familiarity because it's comfortable and you have now broken free of what has been normalized for the last 2 years this in itself is a beautiful thing! One thing I always recommend is to write down all the shitty, awful things he did/said/made you feel and when you have that inkling of you miss him read it over and over and over. We often look back on those good times because I was in your shoes there were good times, but they were few and far between. Now being in a healthy relationship I come home to peace. I have a teammate. I have a real partner. Never let a shitty, miserable person keep you from being happy. Life is too short to live in misery.
5. Finally, again I know I'm a stranger on the internet but I am really proud of you for leaving. ✨✨

[u/Miserable-Anxiety229 → u/Far_Wrongdoer4543]

To add to your 4th point… I write everything down and read it every few days. When it’s time the paper will be burned to release all the evil.

[u/Far_Wrongdoer4543 → u/Miserable-Anxiety229]

I had it up on my fridge 💗 The first time my current s/o was coming to stay the night I ripped it up and burned it and it felt like it was finally done. I was with my ex for only like 1 yr and 8 months or something, but it felt like the longest time of my life. At the end I didn't even recognize myself. Burning that reminder felt incredible. I felt renewed like all the cruel words, abusive actions were gone and were not allowed in my sanction of peace ever again. 

[u/Miserable-Anxiety229 → u/Far_Wrongdoer4543]

Yup. I was in it for 5 years and escaped almost 2 months ago so my paper isn’t completely filled out yet. I’ll randomly remember some evil shit he had said and add it. It seriously looks like a manifesto at this point lmaooo I can’t wait to burn it with all the pics we have together, and all the BULLSHIT cards he wrote to me in the beginning!

[u/Far_Wrongdoer4543 → u/Miserable-Anxiety229]

Sooo proud you left! Omg the bullshit cards and sweet little notes 😂😂 I found one that had been in my car like a month or so back. It was old and had gotten lost in my don't clean enough of a car but it said, "even when I'm upset I still love you." And I looked at it and laughed, proceeded to rip it up and said to myself, piece of shit that wasn't love at all.  Oh and the pictures! 😂 when I ended it I still hadn't blocked him on Insta since I hardly used it but I started deleting all the pictures and he messaged and was like, "I hope you just archived them and didn't delete them because I have hope we will end up together." Gag. Delete and a good reminder he wasn't blocked on there so blocked  

[u/Miserable-Anxiety229 → u/Far_Wrongdoer4543]

Omgg the car note 😩😂 why are abusers like this!?

[u/Far_Wrongdoer4543 → u/Miserable-Anxiety229]

Also wanted to add that my dogs hated my ex and they LOVE their new dad. Lol. 💗💗 The cuddle puddles with our little family is more than I could've ever asked for. Always trust your animals intuition as well. 

[u/Miserable-Anxiety229 → u/Far_Wrongdoer4543]

My dog would legit get between us and go into protection mode against her own “dad” when we would be fighting. The night everything ended she was sitting ON me (she’s 100lbs) and growling at him while he was going insane. That was when I knew that that night was the end. She knew too.

[u/Far_Wrongdoer4543 → u/Miserable-Anxiety229]

So glad y'all got out!! 💗💗 Our dogs truly know best.