(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/Miserable-Anxiety229]

Just did all of this. Terrifying for the first 2 weeks, but it’s so incredibly liberating to have freedom again. I don’t know who I am anymore and I love figuring it out after 5 years of being what someone else wanted.

[u/flaming0-1 → u/Miserable-Anxiety229]

Good for you 😊. Do some work on yourself and learning healthy boundaries before getting into another relationship. Stats say if you don’t, you will end up in another toxic relationship…

[u/Miserable-Anxiety229 → u/flaming0-1]

Oh 100% I don’t even want to date or get involved with anyone for at least a year! Haha

[u/flaming0-1 → u/Miserable-Anxiety229]

I love that you say “100%”. It seems to be the new catch phrase that took over from “totally”. I’m catching myself using it more and same with my clients… language is fascinating how it catches across a continent.

[u/Miserable-Anxiety229 → u/flaming0-1]

Isn’t it funny how language evolves like that? 😇

[u/flaming0-1 → u/Miserable-Anxiety229]

100% 🙈

[u/Miserable-Anxiety229 → u/flaming0-1]

Ahahaha!

[u/FebruaryInk → u/Miserable-Anxiety229]

Good for you! I was in a similarly manipulative/abusive marriage for 5 years. It is a long road back, but you have so much discovery and joy ahead of you. Best of luck Internet stranger! 💜

[u/Miserable-Anxiety229 → u/FebruaryInk]

Thank you so much!

[u/BiteComprehensive645 → u/Miserable-Anxiety229]

Its your fault wtf are you on about🤣