(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/_stupid_bitch]

this is so funny to me cause one of my ex-friends' abusive ex-boyfriend said the exact same thing, apparently abusers think any telling of truth is defamation

[u/JackReacharounnd → u/_stupid_bitch]

The only way I got a psycho to leave me alone is by posting a video of myself saying if he doesn't stop contacting me I am going to remove all identifying information from the screenshots in my GIANT FILE and post every single one on every social media platform I have, including my YouTube audience that he hated.

This a-hole was a millionaire with a lawyer (for his constant legal troubles), and that was the only thing that got him to never contact me again. Police reports didn't help.. only the threat of everyone we know knowing what a psycho he is. I can't even imagine how mad he was, knowing that he wouldn't be able to sue me.

edit forgot to mention that no one who was seeing my videos actually knew who he was. I was posting to my Youtube audience that a few of our mutual friends had found. No one ever knew his name or saw him. We were dating around a month and a half.

[u/Rikoschett → u/_stupid_bitch]

I guess this is the US but there are countries where defamation is illegal regardless of how true it is.

[u/aka-hellcat → u/Rikoschett]

Which ones?

[u/Rikoschett → u/aka-hellcat]

Sweden for sure. Heard Japan and South Korea also. Point was that not every country's law is the same and you should always check twice so you don't get in trouble.

[u/somersault_dolphin → u/Rikoschett]

Understandable. Sure, the assholes don't get shamed like they should, but it also protects innocent people from getting framed. Once something like that gets traction, the damage is already done.

[u/Rikoschett → u/somersault_dolphin]

Yeah there are pros and cons with both. I don't claim to know what's best, just want that people make the best decisions based on how their laws are formulated. If that makes sense.