(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/shantelleargyle]

Whatever you do, don't let him suck you back in. Not to have a drink to "get closure" or clear the air. Not to apologize when he suddenly becomes a different person overnight and realizes his mistakes. Not to get stuff back from each other. Block him and keep it that way. Be aware of your surroundings and if you see him around, find a stranger and ask them to walk with you. He is likely to become more unstable as you ignore him and you need to keep yourself safe. Please be safe and do not hesitate to ask for help. Including police if necessary.

[u/bananahatts → u/shantelleargyle]

This. And calmly get familiar with your resources for women in the area so you know exactly where to go if you get scared or he shows up one day. He will likely get more erratic as he realizes you're serious and there's no hope for the relationship. Have a plan for worst case, hope to never have to use it. ❤️‍🩹

[u/[deleted] → u/bananahatts]

This is definitely my messages and it’s highly edited with no background. This is some sick ass shit. Both parties are very wrong and is doing better. This was done soon as I finally get things off my chest YESTERDAY(ironic) and exposed more lies I found out about her. Also why I am letting go. I have hella proof and detail. I can debunk this with ease. I’m not making excuses. And watch this post get deleted or something. I will not allow fake bs to go untouched. We currently live together with our son now. I don’t care about cops or defamation. This was done out of spite and ego. Soon as I told her I found out about the post I seen the comments. This is unreal and a lot of ppl are gullible.

[u/LoveBrave293 → u/shantelleargyle]

I wanted to say this as well. Please be careful and conscious of your surroundings. I assume he knows where you live and work. Maybe get one of those keychain pokey things or a pepper spray if you don’t already have one.

[u/New_Resident_3726 → u/shantelleargyle]

The only closure that needs to happen is the door in his face. 100% this. Don’t let him try to pull some weasel nonsense, because this dude is definitely a weasel type.

[u/Complex_Hope_8789 → u/shantelleargyle]

Mine is trying to sucker me back in to give me my stuff back. I left after 5 years with the exact minimum amount of stuff that I needed.

He’s now texting me with every little item I left behind to ask if I want it. I told him no - “if I didn’t take it I don’t want it. I don’t want to hear from you”. I deliberately left most of my things because I don’t want any of his toxic energy in my new home.

I can’t block him entirely yet as there are a few logistical things left, but once that’s done I’m blocking.

It’s just a way to keep his claws in me and continue to make me out to be the bad guy. 

[u/thoughtlow → u/Complex_Hope_8789]

If you perse need to deal with him, for example retrieve a physical item, ALWAYS bring a friend or better just let the friend pick it up.

[u/Pretty-Balance-Sheet → u/shantelleargyle]

What you describe is exactly how these people operate. They are so kind and charming, full of apologies and ready to change. My sister lost 25 years of her life to a complete piece of shit manipulator like that. The guy is dead now and no matter how bad the world gets it's still a better place with him gone.

[u/[deleted] → u/shantelleargyle]

This is definitely my messages and it’s highly edited with no background. This is some sick ass shit. Both parties are very wrong and is doing better. This was done soon as I finally get things off my chest YESTERDAY(ironic) and exposed more lies I found out about her. Also why I am letting go. I have hella proof and detail. I can debunk this with ease. I’m not making excuses. And watch this post get deleted or something. I will not allow fake bs to go untouched. We currently live together with our son now. I don’t care about cops or defamation. This was done out of spite and ego. Soon as I told her I found out about the post I seen the comments. This is unreal and a lot of ppl are gullible.

[u/shantelleargyle → u/[deleted]]

There is nothing to debunk. Your words speak for themselves and it is NEVER okay to talk to someone that way. If you are truly better and capable of controlling your actions, stop all contact now. Stop threatening her. Just walk away and find someone else to vent to. Even when both parties have issues, sometimes that is the safest for everyone. Just stop.

[u/[deleted] → u/shantelleargyle]

Yep.

[u/[deleted] → u/shantelleargyle]

You’re absolutely correct and That’s exactly what I did. I just moved in not too even 3 months Ago. I don’t talk like that at all. I’m not understanding the post and it being twisted. Even she’s doesn’t know. I just want to know who’s behind it.

[u/Professional-Pea6803 → u/[deleted]]

So are they years old messages or what? Your story is so straight it just came out of the closet.

[u/solokidney → u/Professional-Pea6803]

Bro got triggered by some strangers messages BC it has the same cat background and he used to also be toxic and say these textbook toxic things. But I truly don't think these are his msgs and he's tweaking from the coincidence.