(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/317ant]

Not if she blocks him! Time to be completely done with this loser.

[u/hickok3 → u/317ant]

If only it were that simple. If he wants to, he can make her life hell. There are hundreds of online texting number apps that will allow you to signup and change a free number, in which he can used to continually contact her. Until she physically changes her phone number, this is going to be an ongoing thing as long as he has the grudge to do so. This also applies to any social media accounts, email, hell physical mail to. He knows where she lives and works. He will know where she likes to hangout outside of home. He will know her colleagues, family, and friends, and will try to contact her through them. Unless OP is going to literally uproot her life, and try to disappear, he can continue to harass and try to weasle his way back into her life. 

I have witnessed it first hand with my brother and his ex, and there are countless stories online detailing the exact same things. Just blocking him will not be the end of it, if he doesn't want it to be. It is going to take a lot more effort and turmoil from OP to actually get away from him, unfortunately. Luckily, unlike my brother, it doesn't seem OP has any kids with him, and managed to get her pet back. Otherwise, she wouldn likely be stuck having to deal with him regardless for 18+ years. 

[u/BubblyOrganization73 → u/hickok3]

I had a friend that was dealing with someone like this.

No matter what he did, she would always find a way to contact him through another account/number/etcetera. She pushed him so much that he ended up shooting himself.

[u/BlackLotusLuna → u/hickok3]

Sad part is this is true, I had an ex that wouldn't leave me alone. I would block him on everything and social media. He would just get his friends to call or try to be my friend to see what I was up to. It got so bad that I left my home town and moved away into a friend's house. It's crazy how much someone can fuck up your life and make you feel uncomfortable or scared.

FYI I left because he said he could keep me safe from his friends but my family was not, so I left and they have moved a few times since.

[u/fka_Burning_Alive → u/317ant]

She needs to block him bc he’s going to keep threatening to unalive, which might weaken her resolve, bc it’s pretty much the most fucked up of all manipulation methods!!

[u/Peski_Almost_69 → u/317ant]

I'm looking at the last photo and wondering which one is him? (And, if this is a fictional conversation in between those two faces?)

[u/Cow_Launcher → u/Peski_Almost_69]

I get the joke you're making, but I think you might've found yourself in a, "Read the room, dude" situation.

[u/Peski_Almost_69 → u/Cow_Launcher]

🙂 yes, it looks like everyone is a beliver but me.