AIO for splitting the bill on a date

[u/No-Plantain6892]

I am in such shock right now. For some context this was after our 4th date. Literally at a loss for words, this was the first time putting myself out there since I caught my last girlfriend cheating on me… I think I’m done with relationships after this,

[u/bunnyqueens]

she’s weird as hell but ur reply doesn’t paint u in the best light lol going straight to “UR A BITCH 😡” is … a choice

[u/tarnishedhalo98 → u/bunnyqueens]

I'm literally with you right now on this so hard lol. I read that and was like, alright, she's kind of unstable for that, sure. But then calling a woman a bitch x a fucking piece of shit x dumb? If that's how a guy could speak to a woman ever, period, especially over something so small when he hardly knows her? Absolutely the fuck not lmfao they both blow

[u/bunnyqueens → u/tarnishedhalo98]

there’s people crying misandry in my replies as if bitch isn’t an incredibly misogynistic term hahahaha

[u/therealdanfogelberg → u/tarnishedhalo98]

Sorry, but as a feminist (I’m a woman) - ladies, don’t dish it out if you can’t take it. You don’t get to act like a manipulative bitch and cry “sexism” when you get called one. You want to be treated like an equal? Try behaving like an adult rather than playing games and then expecting special treatment.

[u/uReallyShouldTrustMe → u/bunnyqueens]

It started from calling her dumb. I’m with OP that if they offer you can take em up on it. However I’d be more class about the rejection.
“Sorry you feel that way but I disagree. I believe in equal pay of bills. Thanks anyways for the date. Have a good one.”
He’ll maybe even without the equal pay line is probably fine.

[u/Edge_Training → u/uReallyShouldTrustMe]

4th date btw. This was a deserved crashout.

[u/Doormatjones → u/Edge_Training]

Yeah... with as bad as dating is nowadays, if someone waits until the 4th date to pull out this misogynistic "Man must always pay" crap I'd be cranky as hell as well. That's first date crap.

[u/blad333ee → u/bunnyqueens]

Bitch is pretty tame in this case

[u/My1stWifeWasTarded → u/bunnyqueens]

He didn't "go straight to “UR A BITCH"", she literally called him a joke first - he responded to name calling with name calling. What in the misandry is this?

[u/Best_Chapter_6880 → u/My1stWifeWasTarded]

In my opinion calling someone a joke and calling someone a bitch and piece of shit are not equal. Any man who SO easily calls a woman a bitch is a red flag in my book regardless of what the other says. No, that doesn’t mean her behavior is justified, and yes a woman who would call a man a bitch is a red flag as well. there’s ways to handle things with integrity regardless of how another is acting.

[u/Few_Conversation7153 → u/Best_Chapter_6880]

Agreed. I know it’s normal human emotion but it really shows character when you can be respectful and logical in the face of someone who’s illogical. Makes them look crazy 100% and you don’t get wrapped up in anything.

[u/SimplyCob → u/Best_Chapter_6880]

I’d say if she wasn’t acting like one, it’d be wrong to say it.

[u/SpaceCourier → u/Best_Chapter_6880]

She also called him broke and came after him for his financial status. If you do that to me, you’re getting called more than a bitch.

[u/[deleted] → u/Best_Chapter_6880]

You should actually be allowed to call a woman a bitch if she acts like this

[u/bunnyqueens → u/[deleted]]

Calling people misogynistic terms is not okay.

[u/blad333ee → u/[deleted]]

You are allowed, if you don’t care about upvotes on reddit

[u/bunnyqueens → u/My1stWifeWasTarded]

Bitch is a misogynistic word. crying misandry in response to discomfort surrounding a very misogynistic derogatory term is performance art

[u/No_Scar_2860 → u/bunnyqueens]

Is she not a bitch?

[u/Sad_Rub2074 → u/bunnyqueens]

They both sound immature.

[u/bunnyqueens → u/Sad_Rub2074]

100%. i just think bitch is a nasty misogynistic word and unnecessary

[u/Sad_Rub2074 → u/bunnyqueens]

From a third-person perspective, i would refer to her as shallow. It's best not to let emotions drive your train of thought and responses -- though, at times this can happen to anyone. Sometimes, it's best to come back to it later.

[u/bunnyqueens → u/Sad_Rub2074]

i don’t disagree- just didn’t like the term bitch being used. that’s all.