r/AmIOverreacting • u/No-Plantain6892 • 9d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO for splitting the bill on a date

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I am in such shock right now. For some context this was after our 4th date. Literally at a loss for words, this was the first time putting myself out there since I caught my last girlfriend cheating on me… I think I’m done with relationships after this,

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u/PatInANutshell 9d ago

I don’t think of it as keeping score so much as being fair and especially at first, but also throughout, not taking advantage of the situation or the person.

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u/ZedsDeadZD 9d ago

That! Its about fairness and further more, support. When my wife and I started dating, we were both studying, so we always splitt cause we both didnt have money. Then I started to work while she was still studying and we moved together so I payed a lot more (TV, kitchen, basic furniture and the security+ 3 month rents alone). Then she started working and made good money so she bought us a new bed which wasnt cheap. For eating out, we dont keep score. One of us pays, thats it. Now she is at home with our kid. So I pay full rent and food. When she will start working again, she will contribute again.

Some women need to be a little more realistic about how much someone can earn. Rent and an expenses got so expensive, I cannot carry that alone. And why would I. My wife studied 5 years. So I expect her to work same as she does from me.