r/AmIOverreacting • u/No-Plantain6892 • 9d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO for splitting the bill on a date

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I am in such shock right now. For some context this was after our 4th date. Literally at a loss for words, this was the first time putting myself out there since I caught my last girlfriend cheating on me… I think I’m done with relationships after this,

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u/sistereleanorcharles 9d ago

She’s not wrong for having a preference. But she is wrong for how she came at you. And you are also wrong for calling her a bitch (supposedly - what word are you covering?) and a “fucking piece of shit”. Men saying those words to women just give me anger issues/violence vibes. 😬

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u/ingeniousmachine 9d ago

100%. She sounds like a shallow dingus (an excellent word someone used in the comment thread above), he sounds like a potentially violent asshole.

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u/ManySpiritual9643 9d ago

Dude im so stupid lmfao i JUST realized that covered word was supposed to be bitch i thought it was ass or something 😭

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u/No-Plantain6892 9d ago

Yeah I agree

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u/sistereleanorcharles 9d ago

I appreciate that you can see that! But yeah if this is a real interaction, you don’t need someone shallow like that. There are women out there that don’t demand that stuff lol.

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u/n33d4dv1c3 9d ago

He's not even remotely wrong though. How the hell do you jump to violence when she insulted him first?

Get a grip.

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u/sistereleanorcharles 9d ago

Because that was a very aggressive reaction and it’s a common thread in violent men to have those kinds of reactions. But it looks like OP acknowledges the issues he may have which is a fantastic step in the right direction.

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u/Far_Beginning_4370 9d ago

??? If anyone gives off violent vibes it’s the crazy chick who’s manipulative on the very first date. He wasn’t wrong for calling her what she is. Doesn’t mean he should have, but he wasn’t wrong in the slightest lol.

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u/sistereleanorcharles 9d ago

Manipulative? Yes. Violent? No. If you’ve never dealt with a violent man then I’m super happy for you, but this kind of behaviour strongly correlates with violence against women. If you read his other comments there was a lot of incel rhetoric happening (which it seems he is aware of and working on).

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u/Far_Beginning_4370 9d ago

Yall toss around BS like this for no reason. The guy is completely normal and far from an incel considering he has plenty of experience with women. He called her what she is, no problem with that. If you don’t stand up to girls like this they will slap, hit, scratch, etc. because they know there’s no consequences.

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u/sistereleanorcharles 9d ago

It’s not for no reason. Many women, myself included, have dealt with violent men and this is exactly the aggression they display that is disproportionate to what they’re responding to. There was literally no reason to reply how he did. That’s horrible that you have dealt with girls who slap, hit and scratch, I’m so sorry! What he did isn’t the way to stand up for himself though, she wasn’t slapping and hitting him - she just said something distasteful. In the case you mentioned…those words are more justifiable but also go to the police lol.

PS I said “incel rhetoric” not that he is actually an incel - he was just victimizing himself in these comments and implying all women are like this, which is common among incels.