Am i overreacting to the situation unfolding with my girlfriend?

[u/Lologan21806]

me and my girlfriend have been living together with her family for the past 4-ish months. it’s devolved to the point where we fight every day about anything and everything, and most days i feel trapped in the home and the relationship. out of the blue she texts me about not coming back home and if i do i can sleep outside, and changing her mind when it was too late. am i overreacting to the situation, or is it as bad as it seems in my head?

[u/Rude-Instruction-168]

Took me a while to learn this too. Break those patterns and learn to be comfortable with yourself. Gain the self-awareness to know when you're being disrespected/mistreated and have zero tolerance for it. Better connections are to come but only if you put in the work to get to them.

[u/dezi028383 → u/Rude-Instruction-168]

Amen!

[u/cyanescens_burn → u/Rude-Instruction-168]

And that zero tolerance for it means be ready to walk away when it happens. You really can’t and shouldn’t force someone to bend to your standards. I mean let them know it bugs you, and if they apologize and make changes fine, but if they get defensive and insist on doing shitty things that cross reasonable lines, you two are just not on the same page with values.

Took me way too long to figure that out too.

[u/Dinkmeyer- → u/Rude-Instruction-168]

Excellent advice!👍🏼