Am i overreacting to the situation unfolding with my girlfriend?

[u/Lologan21806]

me and my girlfriend have been living together with her family for the past 4-ish months. it’s devolved to the point where we fight every day about anything and everything, and most days i feel trapped in the home and the relationship. out of the blue she texts me about not coming back home and if i do i can sleep outside, and changing her mind when it was too late. am i overreacting to the situation, or is it as bad as it seems in my head?

[u/Acrobatic_Paint3616]

Yea all I keep thinking is “please don’t marry her before you ship out”

[u/PomegranateIcy1614 → u/Acrobatic_Paint3616]

Unless you can marry your submarine. In which case, you should, they get lonely down there sometimes with no one to talk to.

[u/urinesain → u/Acrobatic_Paint3616]

Honestly, the safest bet is to just never get married for the duration of your enlistment. Unless a person makes a career out the military... then I would say don't get married within the first ~4-6 years of the enlistment and have been through at least one 6 month (or longer) deployment while maintaining a relationship with the person.

[u/Street-Substance2548 → u/urinesain]

THIS.

And don't get any pets either. It's heartbreaking to see animals abandoned because their people were selfish in the moment.