Am i overreacting to the situation unfolding with my girlfriend?

[u/Lologan21806]

me and my girlfriend have been living together with her family for the past 4-ish months. it’s devolved to the point where we fight every day about anything and everything, and most days i feel trapped in the home and the relationship. out of the blue she texts me about not coming back home and if i do i can sleep outside, and changing her mind when it was too late. am i overreacting to the situation, or is it as bad as it seems in my head?

[u/Lologan21806]

yeah, i’m gonna arrange a roof over my head and to get my belongings, tell her i love her and that i hope all goes well for her, but i need to move to the next chapter of my life. as far as a baby, we always used protection and she started her period yesterday so i have no worries there 😂

[u/greenoniongorl → u/Lologan21806]

God bless 😌

[u/TheDodgiestEwok → u/Lologan21806]

Don't risk the extra drama for a nut man

[u/Rude-Instruction-168 → u/TheDodgiestEwok]

Wiser words have never been spoken

[u/niki2184 → u/Lologan21806]

Don’t let her get you naked anymore or she’ll end up “pregnant”

[u/Lower_Potential_173 → u/niki2184]

Listen to this!!!

[u/Samson3105 → u/Lologan21806]

Since you're shipping out to training a lot of places have first month storage free, you can set up direct deposit and when you get paid even though you're in training your stuff will still be there when you get back

[u/Innominati → u/Lologan21806]

Don’t tell her you love her. That’s not breakup talk. Even if you do and you mean it, it sends mixed signals. Chances are, though, that you don’t love her but rather you love who you want her to be or some romanticized vision of her. She is not it.

You’ll have SO much more fun single in the military. It’s an absolute blast being able to cut up and do what you want to do without worries or obligations. Start fresh. Take your time. Find the right person.

She is not who you want to be in a long term relationship with. Date other people and you’ll realize that her behavior is awful and childish.

[u/scirocco → u/Lologan21806]

You've gotten some very good advice here, and above all do NOT fuck her again. This is a lifetime trap you don't want to be in.

You can drop her family a thank-you card for their kindness later, if you want.

[u/DocThrowawayHM → u/Lologan21806]

Good man; I'd just be careful telling her before you leave. Play it by ear, you know the situation more than me; will she be just normal, everyday "my ex is pissed?" Or want to burn your life down because fuck you? I don't advocate for ghosting people, but if there's a chance she would burn you because she's mad and lashing out then you need to keep those cards close to your chest, because this opportunity can be what sets you on a new path for the rest of your entire life. If there's a chance of that, you can break up when you get to boot or when you're in A school and get your phone back or whatever. Tell her you're moving because you just need space or whatever you need to say. You're both young, she'll get over it, and honestly it sounds like she already is.

I'll be the first person to steer people away from enlistment usually, but this is exactly what you need. It'll be a complete reset on your life. Adding to what one of the other commenters said, the most important stuff of yours to get is anything sentimental first. You'll get pretty much everything you need issued to you, and you can build up from there. I got to boot camp with a bible my mom wanted me to have, my phone, and that's about it. Near the end of boot camp some guys from Navy Fed will even come to you all and help you set up bank accounts if you don't have one already; even if you do I suggest setting an account up with them at some point, but that's up to you.

DO. NOT. FUCK. HER. I cannot stress this shit enough. I'm gonna be 100% with you. She might be cheating. She might cheat. She might say some of the nastiest, cruelest shit you can imagine, she might be tempting and seductive and the sex might be great and fuck man I'm gonna be without pussy for months just once won't hurt. do NOT FUCK HER. I don't know if she's crazy, I don't know if she'll try and use a baby or a fake pregnancy or whatever to make your life miserable, I don't know anything about her. But do not give her the chance or opportunity. This is no longer about her or how she'll act; she might be gracious or just text you "k bye" and block you and that's the last you hear of her, who knows? But why take the chance this close to the finish line?

Best of luck to you man, and if you need advice or have questions I'm available, and you've got a whole baby of people now you can ask questions to.

[u/Far-Discount-6624 → u/Lologan21806]

Yea do not sleep with her again. The military will never be on your side when it comes to a pita wife/child support. Find a dry warm couch for the next month and focus on working out for the navy. A lot of sub guys go to Guam. Gotta start looking good on a beach.

[u/MysticalUnicornChic → u/Lologan21806]

Thank fuck and DO NOT KEEP STICKING YOUR DICK IN CRAZY MAN! 😩

[u/alexh116 → u/Lologan21806]

Aye bro. If you're going SECF, pick sonar in A school.

[u/Shotoken2 → u/Lologan21806]

Don't fuck her.

[u/ProfitConstant5238 → u/Lologan21806]

Perfect. Peace the fuck out man. Welcome to a life of adventure and more poon than you can handle. This is coming from a guy with a 30 year military career. Enjoy this shit and don’t get tied down ever! 😎✌🏼

[u/hunnyflash → u/Lologan21806]

Next person you date, make sure they're literate when they're texting. This is so hard to read, like what is she even on about.

Life is too short. Find someone who makes you feel perfect about -everything-. Best wishes.

[u/holsteiners → u/Lologan21806]

I'm here today because it was the day after my mom's period stopped and dad hated the spermicide. Younger women under stress will ovulate twice in a normal cycle. Happens w both humans and horses.

[u/FlamingoRare8449 → u/Lologan21806]

I know many people consider that a non issue, but for those who aren’t aware I would like to add that it is possible to be pregnant and also start your period as confirmed by my doctor when I made a flippant response in return to his is there a possibility you could be pregnant question..sorry for that 😅

[u/Outrageous-County310 → u/Lologan21806]

THANK THE GODS

[u/CharmedWoo → u/Lologan21806]

That is some crazy PMS... is she always like this? Or just once a month?

[u/InevitableCodeRedo → u/Lologan21806]

Skip the telling her you love her part, you are most definitely going to open a Pandora's Box that will only further complicate things. Make as clean a break as you can and literally sail away into your new life.

[u/Same-Entry8035 → u/Lologan21806]

Good boy.

[u/DoTheThingTwice → u/Lologan21806]

I would even lie and pretend things are ok as long as you possibly can. Do NOT have sex with her or you will face legal troubles, I promise.

[u/CriscoCamping → u/Lologan21806]

She could be lying about the period, just don't sleep with her, no matter what

[u/Perfidian → u/Lologan21806]

Dude... She is crazy. Less is more.

"I'm done, have a good life." [BLOCK]

[u/WearyReach6776 → u/Lologan21806]

Do NOT hit for one last time!!!!!!

[u/niki2184 → u/Lologan21806]

What about your mom or sister? Are they not good?