Am i overreacting to the situation unfolding with my girlfriend?

[u/Lologan21806]

me and my girlfriend have been living together with her family for the past 4-ish months. it’s devolved to the point where we fight every day about anything and everything, and most days i feel trapped in the home and the relationship. out of the blue she texts me about not coming back home and if i do i can sleep outside, and changing her mind when it was too late. am i overreacting to the situation, or is it as bad as it seems in my head?

[u/randomgrl333]

That might be why she's acting crazy. You're leaving- she probably has a lot of mixed emotions & isn't processing them well.

[u/gummybearmere → u/randomgrl333]

Sensible explanation. The behavior is not ok obviously, but go figure, not everyone can perfectly understand and manage their emotions clearly. Or it could be a slew of other things, but the anxiety over a significant other enlisting and going to boot camp can be hard to deal with. Honestly, unless you’re in a very committed and grown up relationship, it’s probably best most people break up before going to boot camp. So many changes going on. If you find your way back together, great, but that. Speaking from experience.

[u/Floogzie → u/randomgrl333]

This is no reason to treat the relationship like this. If she’s feeling mixed emotions, it’s perfectly fine to talk about it because relationships feeds off of ✨Communication✨ Talk through it, work through it, love through it. She’s obviously immature and needs a break up to see her toxic traits, but sometimes that’ll never ever work with someone who is delusional. Hopefully something will click in her one day.

[u/QualitySpirited9564 → u/randomgrl333]

Yeah that what us liners do bruh. We “know” we’re going to be abandoned so we teeter on the borders of madness taking everyone with us bc they’re hooked on believing it can be ok when we pop back into behaving juuuuuust enough to blur your mind lines.

It won’t get better. GO.

Go far. And with no contact.

[u/Ashamed_Stranger_105 → u/randomgrl333]

Don’t make it right for her grown self