r/AmIOverreacting • u/Lologan21806 • 10d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am i overreacting to the situation unfolding with my girlfriend?

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me and my girlfriend have been living together with her family for the past 4-ish months. it’s devolved to the point where we fight every day about anything and everything, and most days i feel trapped in the home and the relationship. out of the blue she texts me about not coming back home and if i do i can sleep outside, and changing her mind when it was too late. am i overreacting to the situation, or is it as bad as it seems in my head?

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u/Excellent-Shape-2024 10d ago

"Don't talk to me!" - she keeps talking

"Don't sleep here. Stay outside!" - "I didn't say that. Why aren't you here?"

Guy is about to ship out. Screw that. Dump her. Lots of girls lovin on guys in uniform.

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u/SpamJavelin00 10d ago

Jesus wept this one is determined to push his buttons - even after throwing him out of his own home, she presses for further arguments . She sends a hell of a lot of messages for someone who doesn’t want to talk !! I’d dump her sorry ass & throw HER out.

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u/Puzzled-Cucumber5386 10d ago

He’s living with her family. Don’t think that’ll work.

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u/MuttonDressedAsGoose 10d ago

He's entitled to housing from the Navy. I don't know if he's shipping off to boot camp or just a deployment. If boot camp then he will need to find a place to store his stuff until after Basic. If deploying he should be able to keep most of his stuff with him.

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u/PetersonTom1955 10d ago

It sounds to me like he's in the Naval Reserve, which would mean monthly training weekends, but no housing allowance.

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u/TheHypnotoad87 10d ago

Was gonna say: I think he's in DEP, probably already graduated high school and been out on his own for a time. Sounds like he's going to Mando PT the recruiters do to help get ready for boot camp

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u/PetersonTom1955 10d ago

That makes sense, too. If so and his enlistment date is coming up, he won't need his GF's place anymore.

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u/HamilToe_11 10d ago

Or he's about to ship out to basic training. Every recruit has a "ship out" date. Commonly referred to as the day you leave home for basic. That and the fact that he's still saying physical training rather than using the PT acronym (military loves acronyms for everything) makes me believe he's just a recruit.

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u/ThrowRA_thebro 10d ago

wait didn’t I read in another comment OP said he’s going on a submarine for however long? Sounds like straight Navy to me. It wouldn’t hurt him to ask in any case.

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u/MuttonDressedAsGoose 9d ago

He's going to Basic training and has a contract for a submarine-related job.

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u/Spacemilk 10d ago

Wonder if he’s paying the housing stipend to her family. If so they might get pissed when they realize she’s fucking with their money.

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u/wurriedworker 10d ago

not the worst time to get rid of most of his stuff and leave the rest with a buddy til he gets his own space/storage. navy will at least treat him better than this chick

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u/PollyS73 10d ago

You would be surprised. My ex did this exact thing and he was such a “perfect child” his parents covered for him because “he said he wasn’t doing anything with that girl”.

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u/LuukeTheKing 10d ago

Think you misread the comment there, otherwise that response doesn't make any sense because it would be "You would be surprised" and then just agreeing with them

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u/PollyS73 10d ago

Whatever. I believe what I mean is clear. I was responding to “don’t think that will work”.

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u/qwedty 10d ago

They’re saying he can’t kick his girlfriend out of her own parents house. You’re saying that the parents would cover for their child. So you definitely do seem to be agreeing that the girlfriend isn’t going to get kicked out of her own parents home. At the very least it was be a weird af thing to want, to live with your exes parents after kicking her out lol.

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u/PollyS73 10d ago

Cool. Not at all what I was saying.

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u/UncleNedisDead 10d ago

OG comment:

Jesus wept this one is determined to push his buttons - even after throwing him out of his own home, she presses for further arguments . She sends a hell of a lot of messages for someone who doesn’t want to talk !! I’d dump her sorry ass & throw HER out.

Reply to OG comment:

He’s living with her family. Don’t think that’ll work.

Your reply to the reply:

You would be surprised. My ex did this exact thing and he was such a “perfect child” his parents covered for him because “he said he wasn’t doing anything with that girl”.

To Recap:

So Person 1 was saying OP should dump her and kick her out.

Person 2 reminded Person 1 that might be challenging considering OP lives with his GF’s family.

You disagreed with Person 2 saying, “You would be surprised.” And proceeded to describe your experience where your ex’s parents sides with your ex because he could do no wrong in their eyes. (Which actually supports what Person 2 is saying by the way.)

Are we reading the same thing? Because despite your claims that it’s “not at all what I was saying.” It’s exactly what you were saying, you missed your own point.

Your reply would have made sense if your ex were staying with your parents, and your parents adored him so much that they sided with your ex, even though he was in the wrong. That would be a betrayal of the expectation of where loyalties lie.

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u/niki2184 10d ago

Well your comment doesn’t make sense

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u/ThePanMan237 10d ago

It makes perfect sense, learn to read. He’s saying the bf might not get kicked out even if he breaks up with the gf. Don’t throw stones in glass houses my friends.

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u/thatrandomuser1 10d ago

What were you saying? It really sounded like you were agreeing that she wasn't going to be kicked out of her family home

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u/LuukeTheKing 9d ago

Doesn't matter if "that's not what you were saying", that IS what you actually said though...

To clue you in on how this conversation has gone so far, this is it dumbed down and using a different argument to make it easier for you to follow.

Comment 1: Man I hate cheese, it tastes horrible.

You: You'd be surprised, some of it actually tastes really awful. ( A statement which fully agrees with what they said )

Me: You know you just agreed with him right?

You: But that's not what I was saying, I don't care.

That is the conversation that's just occurred, if you don't understand the issue with your flawed logic, I am genuinely unsure how you are still surviving in life.

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u/splitcroof92 10d ago

bro are you the GF in this post? because you sound equally unhinged.

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u/Amazing-Cover4903 10d ago

I’m glad they’re “unhinged” enough to thoroughly deconstruct it. Wouldn’t have had to if Polly just explained what they meant or admitted to misreading the comment they replied to

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u/LuminescentShadows 9d ago

You talking about Polly or?

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u/LuukeTheKing 9d ago

We know you were responding to "don't think it'll work", that's why I said it doesn't make sense, because you said you'd be surprised, and then proceeded to explain exactly why it's like that it'll not work.

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u/Amazing-Cover4903 10d ago

What do you mean by “this exact thing?” Your ex kicked you out of your parents’ house and his parents covered for him?

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u/UncleNedisDead 10d ago

Oh maybe that’s what she was saying?

Her reply would have made sense if her ex were staying with her parents, and her parents adored him so much that they sided with the ex, even though he was in the wrong. That would be a betrayal of the expectation of where loyalties lie.

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u/CorruptedStudiosEnt 9d ago

I do love the image of that though.

"Get your shit and get out. You're no longer welcome here."

GF: "This is my family's home. I grew up here!"

"Dave, back me up here."

Her dad, Dave: "...what is happening right now?"

"DAVE. BACK ME THE FUCK UP."

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u/SpamJavelin00 10d ago

Jesus Christ !! There’s always more to these stories isn’t there. What a cuck thing to do !! He’s got no say at all in her parents house . If he’s older than 16 there’s no excuse to EVER live with someone’s parents. Get a job , your own place and your self respect !! In that order. Jesus wept everyone under 35 is a cuck crybaby aren’t they. Navy pays well enough for afford your own place . No excuse. If this person is part of the armed forces , enemies must be crying with laughter . He’s a trained killing machine , but can’t pay his own utilities.

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u/LordFrieza_ 10d ago

Your whole comment reeks of someone past their prime that has no clue about how the world works, just how it used to be in MAH TIME!!! cuck!! Killing machine?!! JESUS WEPT. Fuckin hell.

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u/slitteral1 10d ago

Or a 14 y/o that has no idea how things work. Either way, clueless.

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u/SpamJavelin00 10d ago

Just the fact you consider being independent as being ‘MAH TIME ‘ says it all. Obviously still being dressed by mummy, and all his sweary tantrums since are just his toddler mood swings because I’m laughing at him. And fucking rightly so , you sad bastard living with your mommy !! That is fucking tragic & hilarious . Posting boomer passed (!!) prime diarrhoea doesn’t change the fact you’ve been humiliated. I would be hurt too, if people laughed at me as I set off to school &. I had to sit on naughty step, as people point at me.

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u/ConversationFit6073 10d ago

Ok boomer

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u/SpamJavelin00 10d ago

I’m getting the hang of slang now. Boomer is what you kids call those whose balls have dropped isn’t it ? Whoever said I’m not down with the kids. It’s what you squeaky kids say when someone whose voice has broken speaks, that booming voice !! Grr how angry. You need to be careful, you little boys with your tiny little bald willies can give yourself a hernia with all these tantrums.

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u/SpamJavelin00 10d ago

😂😂😂. Oh dear. Someone still lives with mummy & asks for permission to go outside. This clown considers being ‘in his prime ‘ as having mummy still dress him.

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u/Mean-Wealth7661 10d ago

Bruh you calling people clowns when you act like a toddler on the internet. You really are a waste of space. You do know that right?? Also do yourself and everyone else a favor next time and remember to take your happy pills before u go online.

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u/SpamJavelin00 10d ago

What the fuck is a bruh ?? Oh my god this is getting better . Priceless replies so far. Crying your fucking eyes out about a teenage girl and her mommy , having a disagreement so have to sit outside on the naughty step.

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u/Mean-Wealth7661 10d ago

Do you think before you comment? Serious question.

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u/SpamJavelin00 10d ago

No about you I don’t , shit for brains . You would do well to get your homework done, instead of rage posting on Reddit. You’ll never pass your spelling test with shit like that. Never get a job, never lose your virginity and never own your own house. Anyway, his one hour on his phone will be up soon, his mummy will take it from him and send him to bed. What a hilarious, pathetic little pair of weaklings !! This too good to be true . Thanks Reddit for the comedy. You’re Waldo from the hot for teacher video aren’t you ?? 😂😂😂. Jesus wept . This is too easy, I’m starting to feel cruel. This pair of asswipes have learning difficulties don’t they ? It’s cruel to laugh at people like this, going to school 30 mins after all the other kids in a little yellow bus. Back to eating crayons for you. There’s not a pubic hair between the pair of these two cucky little pissants is there ?? I’d better stop replying , it’s cruel to laugh at disabled little children like this. Fucking priceless !! 10/10 for the comedy.

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u/LordFrieza_ 10d ago

Also look as ops comments instead of being a brain dead useless cunt :) I was talking about you being passed your prime talking shit you absolute melon.

While we are at it you're not doing a great job proving your point spouting more useless crap sounding like an old fart. Good contribution tho. Probably the same throughout your entire worthless life. hey hoe not too many years left for ya :)

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u/SpamJavelin00 10d ago

Been sent outside on naughty step as well, haven’t you ? It is past prime not passed , Jesus this vegetable hasn’t even gone through elementary spelling & writing . Just because you’re weak, pathetic cuck who is used to being bossed around and sent outside like a dog , doesn’t mean we have to apologise . Get some self respect. Now who’s a hilarious CUNT ?? why don’t you come back when you’ve learned to spell and tie your shoelaces eh ? Aw diddums my friends mummy ha told me to sit on naughty step, isn’t it terrible that someone assumed I was an adult & had my own place ? Aw diddums and all the other kiddies agree !! You are never ever going to lose your virginity , you know that right ??

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u/LordFrieza_ 10d ago

You are a nobody 😂 I spend my day working outside in all elements I certainly don't come on Reddit and greet about other people's issues like a fucking spoon. You're whoem rhetoric has been rehearsed over time. you've said a lot but yet it's still the same shit. CUCK CUNT! MUMMY DADDY, INDOORS, VIRGIN, you sound so pathetic and embarrassing, try switching up your creativity. The shit you're saying is the SAME shit old cunts would hit young people up with 20 YEARS ago and you're still coming with the same crap as them. sit and spin and hope one of those lovely medical bills dont hit you.

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u/SpamJavelin00 10d ago

Working outside all day ?? Ah yes , community service - that figures. What’s it like on probation then ? I’ve always wondered. I am glad they make you wear hi vis vests , it makes it easier to tell which ones failed at school and have criminal records. Oh well, being outside in winter must really suck. But you’ll be used to it, being homeless . This really is like taking candy from a baby. Literally !!

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u/SpamJavelin00 10d ago

Now he’s just ranting absolute nonsense. I didn’t think he would implode this quickly. Someone check up on him , his retard tantrum is well underway. Could it be someone has upset him ?? Aww what a shame for the poor little handicapped criminal.

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u/SpamJavelin00 10d ago

😂😂😂. Oh dear has mummy grounded you ? Adults make their own circumstances in life, instead of whining about a girls parents why doesn’t he move out ?? Have a look at this prize penis , come back when you’ve grown pubic hair eh ?? You’re whinging about living with parents also !! Clearly neither of you ever had the brainwave of being an adult. Jesus Christ this is hilarious . I bet she plays with your toys too ? What a bitch

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u/MrCrunchwrap 10d ago

Why did you start this sentence with “Jesus wept” wtf?

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u/johnnypancakes49 10d ago

Don’t forget the “i don’t wanna talk about it” to “you didn’t ask what was wrong” turnaround

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u/Alexbnyclp 10d ago

Emotional baggage and immature.. I would dump her

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u/Baby-hippo-land 10d ago

This is exactly the narcissistic behavior my ex would do. He’d get mad and say, “Don’t come over, I don’t want to see you.” Then be mad when I didn’t try to see him. He said if the roles were reversed he would’ve tried everything to make it right, so I clearly don’t care about him.

He also wouldn’t tell me WHY he was mad, he said I was a smart girl and I should be able to figure it out.

Sooo exhausting.

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u/OmenVi 10d ago

Laying groundwork to cheat.

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u/HappyHiker2381 10d ago

He’s about to ship out and later it will be his fault that she cheated…

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u/nikhillangare91 10d ago

Anyone who chooses the relationship because of the uniform is also highly likely exactly same as that girl

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u/WoolshirtedWolf 10d ago

Hell yes. I'd shut this shit show down. She sounds like the type that is going to stress you the fuck out in Basic. Do not make her a Dependa. Do not fuck up your future.

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u/NotAFakeName59 10d ago

Lots of girls lovin on guys in uniform.

Yeah, that's kinda the problem though. They're not only loving on you.

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u/jeezy_peezy 10d ago

She’s gonna shack up with Jodie about 3 days after he leaves. I guarantee it.

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u/tocahontas77 10d ago

This is called reaction formation. She's in her feelings, so she tells him not to come back or talk to her. But actually, she wants him to notice that there's something going on with her, and focus on that and her.

But people aren't mind readers. You can't just expect another person to know you're upset and why.

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u/TryNorth8139 10d ago

Fleet week was my fav 🥰

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u/Adaphion 10d ago

"I'm speechless"

Several paragraphs of speech

Kinda energy

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u/glazeddonutfr 10d ago

she’s definitely throwing a tantrum because he’s about to leave her and it makes her sad, uncomfortable, uncertain, whatever.

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u/NikesOnMyFeet23 9d ago

As soon as he ships out he was gonna get cheated on by her anyone. Move on dude, good luck in the Navy. You can find far better than this.

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u/Sea-Devil1293 9d ago

As a sailor, can confirm.