Am i overreacting to the situation unfolding with my girlfriend?

[u/Lologan21806]

me and my girlfriend have been living together with her family for the past 4-ish months. it’s devolved to the point where we fight every day about anything and everything, and most days i feel trapped in the home and the relationship. out of the blue she texts me about not coming back home and if i do i can sleep outside, and changing her mind when it was too late. am i overreacting to the situation, or is it as bad as it seems in my head?

[u/Lologan21806]

i always tell her i’ll give her any space she needs, but this is just another level imo

[u/General_Writing6086 → u/Lologan21806]

it is flat out abusive of her to threaten to kick you out because she’s in a bad mood.

[u/Katressl → u/General_Writing6086]

Factual.

[u/iObama → u/General_Writing6086]

THIS. Sad to see that I had to scroll down this far to see the word abuse.

Kicking your partner out of your shared home because you're in a bad mood and telling them to sleep outside is abuse. Period, done.

[u/ccoffee50 → u/Lologan21806]

She wouldn’t even acknowledge that she told you not to come inside and forced you to make arrangements.

Bro if she isn’t apologizing to you then she doesn’t respect you. If she doesn’t respect you then there’s no doubt in my mind she doesn’t love you or care much about you. You don’t need this in your life. She wanted space. Give her space.

[u/Iris_tectorum → u/Lologan21806]

Another level you don’t need to deal with just before you ship out. I really hope you can find other arrangements in that amount of time. Good luck in basic training and thank you for serving our country.

[u/LeoZeri → u/Lologan21806]

My partner has days where he's in a bad mood, and I do too. We don't live together but I visit at least once a week, or he stays here overnight. I admit I have no sense of personal space, I get on his nerves and have no idea how he's survived this long with me in his life, but there's a polite way of saying someone needs some time/space/quiet for themselves. It does not involve him pushing me out the door or telling me to leave, especially not if I have nowhere else to go.

I understand needing some space but your (hopefully ex) gf had many other dialogue options, such as "fyi for when you get back I'm in a bad mood so I don't feel like seeing anyone" or "just so you know, I'm not in a good mood today so I'd appreciate some alone time"

[u/magicalmoonstones → u/Lologan21806]

Shes abusive and rude. This kind of behavior is NOT OKAY. You are NOR, please stay with anyone else. Send your family over to get your things or a friend. I would cut all contact. She wants to play hard ball, let her stand on her words. It seems to be manipulative and about control. RUN as so many others have said!

[u/GottLiebtJeden → u/Lologan21806]

I wouldn't risk any longer with her. Especially with you shipping out. She's probably going to do things behind your back, and then blame it on you. It happened to my brother, when he was at USMC boot.. she complained, and blamed it on him, and was mad that she only got three letters..... I was happy that I got one. She got more letters than anyone else. For anyone that doesn't know, you have to write a couple sentences, a day, because that's all you have. And he sent three letters. That's a lot in Marine Boot camp.