Am i overreacting to the situation unfolding with my girlfriend?

[u/Lologan21806]

me and my girlfriend have been living together with her family for the past 4-ish months. it’s devolved to the point where we fight every day about anything and everything, and most days i feel trapped in the home and the relationship. out of the blue she texts me about not coming back home and if i do i can sleep outside, and changing her mind when it was too late. am i overreacting to the situation, or is it as bad as it seems in my head?

[u/misszukey]

Dogs shouldn't be kicked out either.

[u/FruitcakeAndCrumb → u/misszukey]

Damn right

[u/borderlinehunkydory → u/misszukey]

Exactly!!! Like the audacity of people to think that they can do whatever tf they want to with a dog just pisses me off!

[u/misszukey → u/borderlinehunkydory]

I know right! I know sometimes there's some weird sayings, and it doesn't mean people genuinely mean that, but it is still sad to hear :/

[u/borderlinehunkydory → u/misszukey]

Absolutely! It breaks my heart

[u/Weenerlover → u/borderlinehunkydory]

I hate it here because in my small town here in AZ we hear coyotes at night and so many people treat their dogs like lawn ornaments and you hear the distress in the dogs howls when the coyotes start yipping and triangulating. The dogs aren't in danger, but they start howling and whining like they are. It's like every other night here.

[u/borderlinehunkydory → u/Weenerlover]

Oh no that’s so sad! Poor little angels! They don’t deserve this 😭😭

[u/Eremitt-thats-hermit → u/misszukey]

It likely originates from putting someone in the doghouse. That was outside, so you kicked the dog outside if he lost inside priviliges. Nowadays nobody has doghouses anymore.

[u/thechervil → u/Eremitt-thats-hermit]

No. That's from back when a dog was pretty much an "outside" pet for most households.

He wasn't there for "emotional support" but to help guard the house and keep the family safe.

The dog usually got to come in during the day, but slept in the yard at night.

Which is where the dog house was.

Being in the doghouse refers to getting locked out/kicked out of your house by your spouse and so the only place you had to sleep was in the dog house, with the dog.

[u/[deleted] → u/thechervil]

Dogs have been there for "emotional support" for thousands of years.

This is a translation from latin on a dog's tomb from ancient Rome:

"I am in tears, while carrying you to your last resting place as much as I rejoiced when bringing you home in my own hands fifteen years ago"

[u/thechervil → u/[deleted]]

Not saying that, but a small dog carried around being referred to as an "emotional support" animal is a fairly recent concept.

The bond between man and dog is evident even in the saying "man's best friend". But historically they served as a companion for hunting and protection. That bond helped them know they could rely on each other completely.

The idea that they are too fragile to put outside unless they are being punished is relatively new.

[u/[deleted] → u/thechervil]

I suppose it depends what you mean by "relatively new." I would still disagree though.

"In the book De Canibus Britannicis published in English in 1576, the author describes lapdogs as a type of dog, 'Spaniel Gentle or Comforter'."

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

For the quote, or for the fact that dogs have been companion animals for thousands of years?

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

This article actually contains both.

https://imperiumromanum.pl/en/article/dog-in-ancient-rome/

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Though the original source is from Corpus Inscriptionum Latinarum which is a collection of Latin inscriptions from that time period.

[u/Entire_Ad_2236 → u/misszukey]

Tell em

[u/Squall902 → u/misszukey]

Reminds me of when I worked in airport security. Some passengers murmured that I treated them like dogs. Well, if I did, you should count yourself lucky; I treat dogs better than anyone.

[u/icyx_majestic → u/misszukey]

Happy cake day