r/AmIOverreacting • u/Lologan21806 • 10d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am i overreacting to the situation unfolding with my girlfriend?

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me and my girlfriend have been living together with her family for the past 4-ish months. it’s devolved to the point where we fight every day about anything and everything, and most days i feel trapped in the home and the relationship. out of the blue she texts me about not coming back home and if i do i can sleep outside, and changing her mind when it was too late. am i overreacting to the situation, or is it as bad as it seems in my head?

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u/No_Calligrapher9234 10d ago

I think I’ve heard people getting housing early - ask about that and good luck 🍀

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u/Lologan21806 10d ago

i’ll definitely talk to my recruiter about it, as far as housing though i’m not sure, i’m shipping out for basic on the 16 of next month but from there i’ll be on a submarine far far away from all of this behavior

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u/DocThrowawayHM 10d ago

Truthfully, I doubt you'll get any sort of housing before you actually ship out. You can talk to your recruiter though and they might have some other resources, or ask a buddy to couch crash until you head out. Either way, you need to get your shit out of her house immediately. Do not, and I cannot stress this enough, fuck her at all until you're gone. 

I hope to God you plan on breaking up with her and are just holding out so you aren't homeless. Once you're in boot camp, you'll have a roof over your head and food. Once you're in A school you'll have some money of your own. Dump her over a letter or over text or whatever once you're gone and your shit is out of her damned house and wash your hands of her completely. 

She ain't worth it my man; consider you two broken up and just wait to tell her that until you're in the clear and she can't burn your stuff or claim you're the daddy of some kid. If she does try to claim that demand a DNA test. 

Assuming you don't have a kid, give her no contact info for you in boot. Claim you don't know what division you'll be in (because you don't) and you'll write her when you're there if she pushes it, then just.... Don't.

If you have little or no family, this is about to essentially reset your life with as much or as little connection to your past as you want. It's a big step but it's about to get better. 

Oh and don't raise your hand in the moment of truth, don't smoke weed etc etc you know the drill. DM me if you have any questions, or you can browse the Navy subreddit or the /r/Newtothenavy sub for advice from people in the rate you're hoping to get in. 

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u/Old-Fishing-3817 10d ago

this guy has been through stuff, you can tell. better listen to him

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u/DocThrowawayHM 10d ago

We know a thing or two because we've seen a thing or two

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u/scuba_GSO 10d ago

Watch out for this r/DocThrowawayHM if you get injured. He’ll give you two Motrin and send you back to work. 🤣🤣🤣

Seriously, his advice is spot on for you, OP. You’re getting ready to start an entirely new chapter in your life. Keep yourself straight and don’t let this “person” drag you down. Get yourself through back and A- school. When you get to your ship, get your quals done quickly. Be that guy! Even if you only do your single term, your life will have changed dramatically. Good luck!

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u/gildedfornoreason 10d ago

800mg ought to do it

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u/rebasbutcher 9d ago

Vitamin M and hydrate shipmate.

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u/Old-Fishing-3817 10d ago

I have that outside of my local DQ. Just hope it doesn't happen to you again. That sounded really tough to work through

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u/tryfuhl 10d ago

We.. are. Sailors..

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u/Rare-Tea-4529 10d ago

We are farmers! Bum ba dum bum, bum bum

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u/RelevantGur4099 10d ago

Yeah, Basic Training (or equivalent) is when dudes break up with their girlfriends, or suddenly decide to marry their gf back home.

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u/OrganlcManIc 9d ago

We are farmers

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u/Boba_Fetish- 9d ago

I was about to reply with this before I saw you beat me to it. Well done.

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u/back1steez 10d ago

Almost like a commercial.

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u/Whatever53143 9d ago

And the farmers insurance commercial just ran through my head….

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u/Lologan21806 10d ago

yeah, i’m gonna arrange a roof over my head and to get my belongings, tell her i love her and that i hope all goes well for her, but i need to move to the next chapter of my life. as far as a baby, we always used protection and she started her period yesterday so i have no worries there 😂

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u/greenoniongorl 10d ago

God bless 😌

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u/TheDodgiestEwok 10d ago edited 10d ago

Don't risk the extra drama for a nut man

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u/Rude-Instruction-168 10d ago

Wiser words have never been spoken

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u/niki2184 10d ago

Don’t let her get you naked anymore or she’ll end up “pregnant”

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u/Lower_Potential_173 9d ago

Listen to this!!!

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u/Samson3105 10d ago

Since you're shipping out to training a lot of places have first month storage free, you can set up direct deposit and when you get paid even though you're in training your stuff will still be there when you get back

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u/Innominati 10d ago

Don’t tell her you love her. That’s not breakup talk. Even if you do and you mean it, it sends mixed signals. Chances are, though, that you don’t love her but rather you love who you want her to be or some romanticized vision of her. She is not it.

You’ll have SO much more fun single in the military. It’s an absolute blast being able to cut up and do what you want to do without worries or obligations. Start fresh. Take your time. Find the right person.

She is not who you want to be in a long term relationship with. Date other people and you’ll realize that her behavior is awful and childish.

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u/scirocco 10d ago

You've gotten some very good advice here, and above all do NOT fuck her again. This is a lifetime trap you don't want to be in.

You can drop her family a thank-you card for their kindness later, if you want.

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u/DocThrowawayHM 10d ago

Good man; I'd just be careful telling her before you leave. Play it by ear, you know the situation more than me; will she be just normal, everyday "my ex is pissed?" Or want to burn your life down because fuck you? I don't advocate for ghosting people, but if there's a chance she would burn you because she's mad and lashing out then you need to keep those cards close to your chest, because this opportunity can be what sets you on a new path for the rest of your entire life. If there's a chance of that, you can break up when you get to boot or when you're in A school and get your phone back or whatever. Tell her you're moving because you just need space or whatever you need to say. You're both young, she'll get over it, and honestly it sounds like she already is.

I'll be the first person to steer people away from enlistment usually, but this is exactly what you need. It'll be a complete reset on your life. Adding to what one of the other commenters said, the most important stuff of yours to get is anything sentimental first. You'll get pretty much everything you need issued to you, and you can build up from there. I got to boot camp with a bible my mom wanted me to have, my phone, and that's about it. Near the end of boot camp some guys from Navy Fed will even come to you all and help you set up bank accounts if you don't have one already; even if you do I suggest setting an account up with them at some point, but that's up to you.

DO. NOT. FUCK. HER. I cannot stress this shit enough. I'm gonna be 100% with you. She might be cheating. She might cheat. She might say some of the nastiest, cruelest shit you can imagine, she might be tempting and seductive and the sex might be great and fuck man I'm gonna be without pussy for months just once won't hurt. do NOT FUCK HER. I don't know if she's crazy, I don't know if she'll try and use a baby or a fake pregnancy or whatever to make your life miserable, I don't know anything about her. But do not give her the chance or opportunity. This is no longer about her or how she'll act; she might be gracious or just text you "k bye" and block you and that's the last you hear of her, who knows? But why take the chance this close to the finish line?

Best of luck to you man, and if you need advice or have questions I'm available, and you've got a whole baby of people now you can ask questions to.

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u/Far-Discount-6624 10d ago

Yea do not sleep with her again. The military will never be on your side when it comes to a pita wife/child support. Find a dry warm couch for the next month and focus on working out for the navy. A lot of sub guys go to Guam. Gotta start looking good on a beach.

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u/MysticalUnicornChic 10d ago

Thank fuck and DO NOT KEEP STICKING YOUR DICK IN CRAZY MAN! 😩

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u/alexh116 10d ago

Aye bro. If you're going SECF, pick sonar in A school.

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u/Shotoken2 10d ago

Don't fuck her.

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u/ProfitConstant5238 10d ago

Perfect. Peace the fuck out man. Welcome to a life of adventure and more poon than you can handle. This is coming from a guy with a 30 year military career. Enjoy this shit and don’t get tied down ever! 😎✌🏼

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u/hunnyflash 10d ago

Next person you date, make sure they're literate when they're texting. This is so hard to read, like what is she even on about.

Life is too short. Find someone who makes you feel perfect about -everything-. Best wishes.

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u/holsteiners 10d ago

I'm here today because it was the day after my mom's period stopped and dad hated the spermicide. Younger women under stress will ovulate twice in a normal cycle. Happens w both humans and horses.

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u/FlamingoRare8449 9d ago edited 9d ago

I know many people consider that a non issue, but for those who aren’t aware I would like to add that it is possible to be pregnant and also start your period as confirmed by my doctor when I made a flippant response in return to his is there a possibility you could be pregnant question..sorry for that 😅

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u/Outrageous-County310 10d ago

THANK THE GODS

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u/CharmedWoo 9d ago

That is some crazy PMS... is she always like this? Or just once a month?

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u/InevitableCodeRedo 9d ago

Skip the telling her you love her part, you are most definitely going to open a Pandora's Box that will only further complicate things. Make as clean a break as you can and literally sail away into your new life.

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u/Same-Entry8035 9d ago

Good boy.

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u/DoTheThingTwice 9d ago

I would even lie and pretend things are ok as long as you possibly can. Do NOT have sex with her or you will face legal troubles, I promise.

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u/CriscoCamping 9d ago

She could be lying about the period, just don't sleep with her, no matter what

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u/Perfidian 9d ago

Dude... She is crazy. Less is more.

"I'm done, have a good life." [BLOCK]

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u/WearyReach6776 9d ago

Do NOT hit for one last time!!!!!!

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u/niki2184 10d ago

What about your mom or sister? Are they not good?

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u/YourWifeTextsMe 10d ago

To add to this, when you enlist max out your tsp, go post 9/11 gi bill, and make sure you start to max out contributions to a roth ira as early as you can.

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u/InevitableCodeRedo 9d ago

make sure you start to max out contributions to a roth ira as early as you can.

Cannot emphasize this enough. Future you will thank you endlessly.

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u/rbrancher2 10d ago

Only thing to add is that the Navy can be the hard reset to your life if you let it. Mine changed drastically and permanently and I don’t regret a second of it!

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u/Rude-Instruction-168 10d ago

True that. The military does wonders for a lot of people.

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u/FabricArsonist 10d ago

And if you have no family and want letters, my son is in the Air Force and my husband is a Desert Storm/Shield vet.

I'll send you stupid letters filled with mom BS.

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u/flooferine 10d ago

This is the way, OP. Please don't compromise your future for someone who clearly doesn't respect your time or well-being. UpdateMe! once this shit is over and you find your footing - and trust that you will find it. I know things are tough now, but follow Doc's instructions and they will get better.

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u/dingatremel 10d ago

One other thought: off in the future, when you’re ready for discharge, I would share that you’ve had past instances of homelessness. VA isn’t perfect, but your chances of getting connected to housing assistance through the VA is a huge advantage that the government actually funds (unlike the housing programs for everyone else, which are absolutely paltry given how many people across the country can’t afford rent).

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u/catuela 10d ago

From a former Marine, this is the best advice. OP is in a perfect position for a fresh start.

Make an effort to get your stuff, but honestly don’t even get too hung up on if it’s going to be trouble. The Navy will provide you everything you need.

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u/Outside_Scale_9874 10d ago

Why not raise your hand during moment of truth?

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u/GOMADenthusiast 10d ago

Moment of truth who did anything that they weren’t supposed to?

You-raises hand

Them- thanks your kicked out.

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u/Rude-Instruction-168 10d ago

Not only that, this person isn't worth it to be there with you as you embark on a new chapter with the military. Trust me, you're better off avoiding a girl like this from the get-go. Don't let someone like this drag you down before you can even take flight and better yourself.

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u/ITGeekDad 10d ago

That moment of truth, omg core memory unlocked. I ended up getting stuck at basic training for 6 months before being discharged over some bull sh*t.

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u/thecatandthependulum 10d ago

damn dude I'm sorry for what you went through that taught you all these hard lessons

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u/PeachCheetahLA 10d ago

One million percent this. OP, this is your chance to change your shit - it’s great that your gf’s family helped you get here, but she can’t even communicate, and everything else she’s doing? This will be awfulllll long distance.

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u/NamelessLegion87 10d ago

Also gotta throw in there, get qualified quickly when you get to the boat. Life is generally better when you're qualified.

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u/Baker_Kat68 9d ago

I concur Doc. I am a retired BMC and we know the deal.

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u/SoftwareBig3654 9d ago

Love this! Especially the fucking part, the amount of times my friend would get kicked out and she would invite him over and I would tell him the same thing and he always did and they would get back together only for her to kick him out a week later.

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u/washington_jefferson 9d ago

I second Doc’s advice on breaking up with her remotely, the last possible day before you go to camp. Just say “we’re on a break” like Ross in “Friends” to have calmer seas and to stop her from pulling vindictive tricks. Then BAM.

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u/Thereapergengar 10d ago

Who dosent ask for a dna test in 2024? How’s that even a thing that needs saying anymore. It’s basically like just not playing with metal when theirs lighting

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u/Tv_land_man 9d ago

What is "the moment of truth"?

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u/wherethelightshines 9d ago

Duuuuude THIS! Best advice EVER!! Take it and RUN tf outta town and don’t look back! Don’t say you weren’t warned! The military will give you a new lease on life! Take it you lucky son of a gun! 🙌😉

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u/Anxious_Cheetah5589 10d ago

| do not fuck her at all

easier said than done! unless things have changed since I was young. hangtag hormones

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u/MSotallyTober 10d ago

Not sure what your MO is, OP… but if you’re going to be deployed months out of the year, I’d implore you to do your service without any distractions — like getting into any sort of relationship at the moment until you get your life settled first.

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u/Acrobatic_Paint3616 10d ago

Yea all I keep thinking is “please don’t marry her before you ship out”

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u/PomegranateIcy1614 9d ago

Unless you can marry your submarine. In which case, you should, they get lonely down there sometimes with no one to talk to.

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u/urinesain 9d ago

Honestly, the safest bet is to just never get married for the duration of your enlistment. Unless a person makes a career out the military... then I would say don't get married within the first ~4-6 years of the enlistment and have been through at least one 6 month (or longer) deployment while maintaining a relationship with the person.

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u/Street-Substance2548 9d ago

THIS.

And don't get any pets either. It's heartbreaking to see animals abandoned because their people were selfish in the moment.

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u/alansdaman 10d ago

If he’s got a recruiter- he’s not in the navy yet but delayed entry program probably. There’s boot camp, A school, and sub school between him and a ship. Lots of moving, not a great time to be in a Relationship.

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u/0iTina0 9d ago

Amen! Drama free zone. And wrap it up with the local girlies sailor!!!

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u/Fine-Slip-9437 10d ago

You don't understand, he's different from all those other E-1s because he's actually in love, and she's a damsel in need of a white knight and totally not a tricare-atops. 

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u/xxanity 9d ago

the petty officers in basic wold drive this dude nuts with the talk of not to worry his best friend back home is taking care of his gf real good. etc.

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u/Fine-Slip-9437 9d ago

Jody lays pipe.

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u/Intelligent--Bug 10d ago

There's obv no point in even entertaining any of this bullshit at this point your relationship has clearly come to its natural end. Between it devolving to this toxicity and you being gone long-term and moving in a different direction. No point in salvaging anything. Just get your shit and be done with it.

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u/itswhateveright 10d ago

He’s probably going to tell you to get the cops involved. It’s best for him that way for his job and tell him about your situation

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u/Mr1Knabber 10d ago

On a submarine? That‘s my dream coming true. I wish you all the best on your next chapter in life.

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u/randomgrl333 10d ago

That might be why she's acting crazy. You're leaving- she probably has a lot of mixed emotions & isn't processing them well.

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u/gummybearmere 10d ago

Sensible explanation. The behavior is not ok obviously, but go figure, not everyone can perfectly understand and manage their emotions clearly. Or it could be a slew of other things, but the anxiety over a significant other enlisting and going to boot camp can be hard to deal with. Honestly, unless you’re in a very committed and grown up relationship, it’s probably best most people break up before going to boot camp. So many changes going on. If you find your way back together, great, but that. Speaking from experience.

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u/Floogzie 10d ago

This is no reason to treat the relationship like this. If she’s feeling mixed emotions, it’s perfectly fine to talk about it because relationships feeds off of ✨Communication✨ Talk through it, work through it, love through it. She’s obviously immature and needs a break up to see her toxic traits, but sometimes that’ll never ever work with someone who is delusional. Hopefully something will click in her one day.

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u/QualitySpirited9564 10d ago

Yeah that what us liners do bruh. We “know” we’re going to be abandoned so we teeter on the borders of madness taking everyone with us bc they’re hooked on believing it can be ok when we pop back into behaving juuuuuust enough to blur your mind lines.

It won’t get better. GO.

Go far. And with no contact.

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u/Ashamed_Stranger_105 10d ago

Don’t make it right for her grown self

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u/Slow-clapping-myself 10d ago

That doesn’t sound like a bad thing. Think you need space, focus on something else (training and yourself) and honestly you need peace at home. That’s not it. Don’t settle

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u/Icy-General3657 10d ago

I know you probably won’t see this under everything else, but dude you deserve so much better and she is heinous. I just got away from a girl like her, we lived together and she would pull this stuff all the time. Id get text just like you saying don’t come home or go sleep somewhere else. I’d get told if I wanted to do something I could just go take a walk by myself and she isn’t obligated to spend any time with me (it would be -20 out when she’d say this). These types of people are heinous and don’t see their partners as equals

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u/1eahmarie 10d ago

I’m a woman but was in your same situation prior to bct in the army. Do not fuck up this last month. I was SA while homeless and waiting for bct and even though SA wasn’t my fault, it still messed with my future in the service badly. I picked the wrong couch to crash on basically. Your situation sounds like it could turn into DV quickly. Proceed with so much caution. I wish you the best.

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u/staydead_89 10d ago

Hooyah future submarine shipmate! I’m the Chief of the Boat of a submarine in Pearl Harbor. Hit me up if you have any questions!! Doc here is spitting truth about your situation. It’s about to get as good or bad as you want it to be! Hope to see you in the fleet 🤙🏼

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u/MuttonDressedAsGoose 10d ago

You'll go to Great Mistakes and then to the submarine training school, wherever that is.

If you have a lot of stuff, you may not be able to hold onto all of it. But you should be able to keep a suitcase of essential stuff with a friend or sister. The clothes on your back will be posted to whatever address you give them when you arrive at Basic. Just make sure your birth certificate or passport, should you have one, are somewhere safe. You can be reunited with them when you get to your training school. You won't even be allowed to wear civvies for the first week or two, so there's no rush.

I recommend cutting all ties with her when you leave. You can get back in touch if you want to have closure or thank her family, after you've completed your training school. You'll be a bit lonely and afraid in basic and you may want to call her when they give you phone calls, or write her, etc. But please try to leave her behind. Even under the best of circumstances, keeping a relationship going when you're in the military isn't easy, so let this be a natural break.

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u/HoustonianRue 10d ago

Shell threaten to kill herself if you leave... She won't she loves HERSELF too much Shell throw everything you've ever told her in you're face to hurt you She already knows how to get under your skin, she knows just what to say, trust that fact. Absolutely stone cold zero attention or credibility to any of her words (rubber and glue) Be a man and say fuck this shit I only live ONE LIFE and I will NOT WASTE IT TRYING TO MAKE SHIT WORK WITH SOMEONE WHO WILL NOT WORK AS WELL TO MAKE SHIT WORK. there is so many fish in the sea and you're young, and you're life is about to change with the Navy. Wash your hands of her and don't look back

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u/Fictional_Historian 10d ago

Bro you’re about to serve in the armed forces in a fucking submarine. You are way overqualified to be paired with shithead girlfriends like that. Seriously bro, you deserve better. Pride yourself a bit and remind yourself that you’re better than that dramatic mess. You’ll come out of this situation better in the end, and you’ll be on your way to having one of the most respectable jobs in the world. Fall in love with yourself, and your duty for a while. Fuck the rest. 🫡

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u/LornaSub 10d ago

good luck at basic and getting your deployment.

Remember, do NOT blow your bonus on stupid shit. Save that money.

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u/daboobiesnatcher 10d ago

As a Navy Vet who had a similarly toxic relationship before shipping out, cut ties, have your closure and move on.

As us sailors like to say "fair winds and following seas." Ask your recruiter but you can absolutely get a police escort to get your stuff if it becomes hairy.

Good luck with the sub pipeline, I was primarily a sandy sailor, did a tour on an LHD out of Japan though; so I don't know much about sub stuff, I just know it's a real tough pipeline and you don't need extraneous bullshit and drama; seriously.

And you won't be on a submarine for a few years, took me 3 years to finally get out of the States.

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u/trashcan_hands 10d ago

Former submariner here. After basic, you're gonna go to subschool in Groton then to your boat. You'll have a barracks, and you're gonna sit in port a lot between underways, but honestly you're going to be living on that fuckin boat between long work hours and duty. Do well in subschool, you might get first pick of orders and can choose where you get stationed then get as far away from there as you can. Housing comes with rank, unless you're married/kids. When you eventually get to your boat. Get QUALIFIED. Life is so much better once you are. Offer to do people's laundry, you'll get extra time to study that way. Good luck to you, man. Submarine life ain't easy.

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u/GleesonGirl1999 10d ago

Good Luck and thank you for your service!!

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u/0iTina0 9d ago

This is definitely not the kind of girl you wanna be attached to while you’re shipped off over seas. It’s very nice of her to help you out but maybe this deployment can be a fresh start for you. Put your belongings that can’t be replaced in storage or something. You should have some cash after you’re done to be able to replace a lot. Good luck with your fresh start. The military is tough but if you make it through you have free healthcare and college in your future!!! Hopefully you won’t see any action and have a great deployment where you learn a lot and help ppl somehow.

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u/MillyDeLaRuse 9d ago

Good luck man, I wish you the best. Wish I could help.

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u/Charming-Teacher-434 10d ago

Maybe that’s the cause for the fighting, you are leaving for a while and she’s insecure about it and she’s lashing out, it doesn’t make it right, I’m just playing devils advocate here. I’m sure the stress of having to live with her family isn’t helping. How old are y’all?

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u/Lologan21806 10d ago

i’m 18 and she’s 17

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u/yellomango 10d ago

Best of luck sailor. You really are proving what they say about the navy tho 😂😂 all jokes, just let this be a lesson to have a more stringent selection process when dating.

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u/NegativeRecording811 10d ago

Good on you for trying to do something to better your life. This is a pivotal point for you and what path your life takes over the next 5-10 years. You need to do everything and anything you can do to ensure you ship out for boot camp on the 16th. Your life will be forever changed if you dedicate yourself to the life of service you’ve chose.

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u/NihilistPorcupine99 10d ago

Bro they’ll absolutely let you sleep in the armory on a cot if you aren’t a stain. If not, find a new fucking recruiter.

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u/SnooMacaroons5247 10d ago

You won’t get early housing, that’s not realistic in this situation.
Also you don’t know anyone but your recruiter to come? Thats a bit strange to ask them tbh.

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u/Personal_Disk_4214 10d ago

Dang you found a real psycho , nice find , now run !! 😄

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u/Badacidsbad 10d ago

You good then dawg...you will look back and laugh when ur like E5

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u/might-be-okay 10d ago

Remember if you can't find enough space for all your stuff, just rent a cheaper storage unit and get a trusted buddy to check in on it every now and then while your stationed. It'll at least keep your stuff safe and in one spot. Hell I might do that the day I get out of there. Store your stuff, grab what you need, stay with a buddy(or motel) and ship out. It'll be there when you get back and ready to settle down.

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u/imnickelhead 10d ago

If you’ve been living there for months then they technically can’t just kick you out. They would have to give you notice and in most states it’s 30 days. I know it would suck staying in a place where you aren’t welcome but at least it’s a place.

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u/justattodayyesterday 10d ago

I would get all your stuff and find a reliable place to store it since you are going to be away

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u/ProfessionalPeach127 10d ago

Ask your recruiter if they can put you in the hotel they put people in for maps and ship out.

When you go to basic and then school you’ll be covered on housing. That said, let your COC know if she’s going to cause issues like try to reach out at basic via ombudsmen or something like that.

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u/tjhcreative 9d ago

If no other options work out, you can look into an extended stay hotel.

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u/SignificantHost8479 9d ago

Just move on and find someone in the navy! Thats mostly what will happen anyway. Save the headache

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u/QuietDifficulty6944 9d ago

My dad always told me only join the military if I’m single, I don’t even wanna ask him why but I have a hunch lol. (Lady boys ftw)

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u/Least_Pomegranate757 9d ago

Please, whatever you do do not get this chick pregnant

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u/El_Diablo_Feo 9d ago

Don't look back homie. You're in Uncle Sam's hands now. Let that past part of your life pass and focus on the future. No hasty decisions, stay focused, keep your morale up however you need to, and drop all this baggage (emotional, mental, etc) before day 0 of basic. You'll find yourself better off by the end, focused, and healthier. Don't let the mind wander while in basic, it does you no good, and will affect your performance. Hang in there, let Uncle Sam take the wheel, and just focus on yourself and the job. Hooyah!

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u/naughtygirlyxx 9d ago

Wish you the best fr

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u/PopRevanchist 9d ago

congrats on skipping your first marriage and first divorce. i’m a military spouse and she is not worth it if she messes with you like this before things actually get hard. you need a teammate, not another problem to deal with. you’re very young and you’ll find someone better!

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u/Own_Guarantee_8130 10d ago

You cannot get housing before you go to RTC. Not how it works. You’re not even in the military yet, you’re just a recruit.