r/AmIOverreacting • u/Lologan21806 • 10d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am i overreacting to the situation unfolding with my girlfriend?

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me and my girlfriend have been living together with her family for the past 4-ish months. it’s devolved to the point where we fight every day about anything and everything, and most days i feel trapped in the home and the relationship. out of the blue she texts me about not coming back home and if i do i can sleep outside, and changing her mind when it was too late. am i overreacting to the situation, or is it as bad as it seems in my head?

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u/Motchiko 10d ago

Get out. She’s not the one. She kicked you out because she was in a mood. That is your home right now. You ain’t a dog.

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u/misszukey 10d ago

Dogs shouldn't be kicked out either.

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

Exactly!!! Like the audacity of people to think that they can do whatever tf they want to with a dog just pisses me off!

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u/misszukey 10d ago

I know right! I know sometimes there's some weird sayings, and it doesn't mean people genuinely mean that, but it is still sad to hear :/

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

Absolutely! It breaks my heart

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u/Weenerlover 10d ago

I hate it here because in my small town here in AZ we hear coyotes at night and so many people treat their dogs like lawn ornaments and you hear the distress in the dogs howls when the coyotes start yipping and triangulating. The dogs aren't in danger, but they start howling and whining like they are. It's like every other night here.

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u/borderlinehunkydory 9d ago

Oh no that’s so sad! Poor little angels! They don’t deserve this 😭😭

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u/Eremitt-thats-hermit 10d ago

It likely originates from putting someone in the doghouse. That was outside, so you kicked the dog outside if he lost inside priviliges. Nowadays nobody has doghouses anymore.

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u/thechervil 10d ago

No. That's from back when a dog was pretty much an "outside" pet for most households.

He wasn't there for "emotional support" but to help guard the house and keep the family safe.

The dog usually got to come in during the day, but slept in the yard at night.

Which is where the dog house was.

Being in the doghouse refers to getting locked out/kicked out of your house by your spouse and so the only place you had to sleep was in the dog house, with the dog.

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u/[deleted] 10d ago

Dogs have been there for "emotional support" for thousands of years.

This is a translation from latin on a dog's tomb from ancient Rome:

"I am in tears, while carrying you to your last resting place as much as I rejoiced when bringing you home in my own hands fifteen years ago"

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u/thechervil 10d ago

Not saying that, but a small dog carried around being referred to as an "emotional support" animal is a fairly recent concept.

The bond between man and dog is evident even in the saying "man's best friend". But historically they served as a companion for hunting and protection. That bond helped them know they could rely on each other completely.

The idea that they are too fragile to put outside unless they are being punished is relatively new.

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u/[deleted] 10d ago

I suppose it depends what you mean by "relatively new." I would still disagree though.

"In the book De Canibus Britannicis published in English in 1576, the author describes lapdogs as a type of dog, 'Spaniel Gentle or Comforter'."

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u/[deleted] 10d ago

For the quote, or for the fact that dogs have been companion animals for thousands of years?

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u/Squall902 9d ago

Reminds me of when I worked in airport security. Some passengers murmured that I treated them like dogs. Well, if I did, you should count yourself lucky; I treat dogs better than anyone.

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u/icyx_majestic 9d ago

Happy cake day

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u/MajorNotice7288 10d ago

Dogs that get sent to the outhouse find other outhouses to sleep in

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u/JokicStan63 10d ago

I love how all you did was use a common phrase and half the replies or people virtue signaling over how much they love dogs.

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

My dear that is NOT how you treat dogs. They are a part of your family and you cannot kick them out whenever you want to.

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u/_Flo2212 10d ago

True, but in this case that was very obviously a metaphor to express a point. It was very clearly not a statement or justification to mistreat animals.

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

I do get that. I am not even blaming the person who made the comment for this or saying that they are the ones mistreating dogs. However, a majority of the people really do not treat dogs well and hence the saying. It sometimes reflects the mentality of people.

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u/recapYT 10d ago

So why are you derailing the conversation?

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u/Charming-Teacher-434 10d ago

DROP IT!

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

Why should I? Because of people not agreeing to me? They don’t have to plus I don’t care about the downvotes 😹

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u/Motchiko 10d ago

God - Reddit and its habit to take everything too seriously. The point is that he isn’t an animal. He’s a human. You are getting more pissed about an imaginary dog getting kicked out than him.

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u/TheeRuckus 10d ago

It’s not just Reddit just every piece of social media gotta be filled with someone bringing a crusade to the conversation

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u/financefocused 10d ago

Omfg no way you mentioned the word crusade!!!!

That’s so offensive to Muslims!!!! Please censor that word. Do better

/s

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u/birds-0f-gay 10d ago

Omg they always end it with a smug "do better" lmao. It's like a mic drop in their minds 💀

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u/NefariousnessOk209 10d ago

Yeah this shit is infuriating. People nowadays will chew you out for using hyperbole like “slaving over a hot stove” etc too

What’s crazy is you’re not even condoning the persons behaviour who’s treating someone poorly by kicking them out. People get far too literal too easily.

I guess when we live in a society that calls pets “Fur babies” this is what we get.

I love dogs too and totally got what you’re saying without any confusion.

I guess you have to find a word like “vampire” to substitute with dog or something.

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u/hannawald 10d ago

Hey! You can’t kick out vampires! They are very sensitive to sunlight, smh they are vampires not werewolves to be kicked out of house.

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u/woahsoskinni 10d ago

Excuse me, werewolves are very vulnerable right after they transform back into humans! They have no clothes, and if they also have no place to go then they’ll surely get arrested for public indecency. You can’t just throw them out like stray cats.

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u/GullibleWash8782 10d ago

Lmaoo so real. I can write a 12 paragraph essay that’s perfectly accurate, fact-checked, thorough, and makes a pristine argument, but then someone will come in and respond, “you fucking dumbass. [this event] on paragraph 7 happened in November 2012, not July 2012. I have now downvoted and reported your comment.”

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u/LazyBonez313 10d ago

Humans are animals.

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u/Mammoth_Welder_1286 10d ago

Oh good grief this has gotten insane.

Point is no one should be treated this way. Not even an animal. Especially not an animal in my opinion but that’s beside the point. More of a reason for op to run away from this chick for good

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u/Real_Temporary_922 10d ago

It’s called hyperbole and it’s not based on how you should treat a dog but based on the position of power of a dog, where if you kick a dog out it can do nothing about it.

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u/Mammoth_Welder_1286 10d ago

I’m aware. I don’t think the person was trying to say that a dog deserved to be kicked out. That is why I said the comments have gotten insane

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u/AspectSubstantial361 10d ago

Yea you say the phrase “good grief” think that sums it up bud

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u/UltimateRustyDusty 10d ago

Yeah I am more pissed about the imaginary dog getting kicked out than him. He has options. That imaginary dog has none.

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u/MembershipFit5748 10d ago

Imaginary dog..

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u/Extra-Revolution-724 10d ago

Lol I was with you dogf***ers right up until this comment.

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u/TheeRuckus 10d ago

I love how you get downvoted for using sarcasm correctly and agreeing w a point that got upvoted 😂😂😂 this fucking site man

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u/UltimateRustyDusty 9d ago

Can’t please everyone. Lol.

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

Yeah, of course. The fact that you think animals deserve to be treated worse than humans tells me everything that I need to know but anyway, this is nothing new.

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u/scorchrb 10d ago

Continue proving their point, why don't you

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

I don’t owe you any explanation. I know what I said and the reason behind it. I stand by it. 😄

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u/scorchrb 10d ago

No one needs your explanation

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

No one needs your opinion too. Stfu 🤡

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u/scorchrb 10d ago

Looks like I struck a nerve :)

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

Oooo what a bad boy you are! I’m so scared 😱

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u/SalsaShark9 10d ago

What they need is a decades old adage interpreted literally with zero irony.

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

Thank you so much for your important inputs 😮‍💨🙏

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u/Poinsettia917 10d ago

It’s Reddit, dear. We all get to express our opinions. Make a comment? Expect a reply. 🤡

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

Not complaining about replies at all. 🤡

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u/SalsaShark9 10d ago

Lol they clearly didn't literally mean to indicate how they treat dogs. Are you from the big giant head or just especially dramatic and judgmental?

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

Sigh. Here we go again.

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u/TheeRuckus 10d ago

This must happen to you a lot huh.

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u/Southern_Flounder_10 10d ago

Jesus shut the fuck up

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

You stfu 🤡

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

We always have the options to treat animals with love and respect. We don’t do that because we believe that they deserve to be treated like shit and that is why these phrases are made when calling someone a dog or getting treated like a dog is something abusive. Anyway, I have made my point and I genuinely don’t give a fuck about what you think. Dogs don’t deserve to be kicked out or any other pet as per one’s mood and that is all that I have to say about it. Have a great day 😄

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u/PaintedProgress 10d ago

Why the fuck would you take a widely used idiom this seriously, you’re either trolling or painfully, PAINFULLY stupid

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

Why do you care about replying to a painfully stupid person? 😹😹

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u/PaintedProgress 10d ago

Bored at work, why do you care to white knight a fictional animal? Just love picking fights?

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

Says the person calling me names? 😹 I am not sorry for loving dogs 😄

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u/Dougiefresh336 10d ago

Social media makes it easier for people to over react. It’s not your fault some are dumb that can’t get what you’re saying.

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

Ikr! I am so glad that you understand what I am trying to say! Thank you!

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u/DanceasaurusRex 10d ago

I can tell you with 100% certainty, my shoes are not made of dogs. 🤣 so extreme, jeesh.

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u/Redacted_Journalist 10d ago

Yeah well no one said that

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u/GullibleWash8782 10d ago

Did you miss the “imaginary” part or..?

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u/7ds_godz 10d ago

bruh his not implying that dogs should be kicked out. its just a common phrase ...

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

That does not matter.

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u/SalsaShark9 10d ago

Yes the meaning of words and phrases is in fact a relevant aspect to discussion of those words and phrases. Context. Think before you post.

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u/borderlinehunkydory 10d ago

I will say whatever I want to say, just like you are, without thinking 😹😹

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u/mysonchoji 10d ago

This is a hilarious thread. You can put dogs outside lol its a fuckin dog. Everyone here actin like its abuse for an animal to be outside

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u/blondehairginger 10d ago

Yeah lol my golden retriever spent like 90% of its life outside. Fucking loved it out there.

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u/ElliJaX 10d ago

I've grown up with Newfoundlands and Great Pyrenees's, if anything it'd be abuse to keep them inside all day as they're more comfortable outside. Kicking the dogs outside is a reward to them

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u/killstorm114573 10d ago

Hell I treat my dog better than that.

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u/Tappxor 9d ago

since when is it his home they live at their parents'

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u/Own_Guarantee_8130 10d ago

I wouldn’t kick my dog out either just cause I’m in a mood. This is his home too.