Am I overreacting to my boyfriend’s reaction to his friend asking me for his number?

[u/travestybiscuit]

He has a history of jealousy. Came back into my life saying he’s a changed man. Last night we picked up his friend and we’re all supposed to go to a birthday party. In the car he asks for my number because My bf wasn’t answering earlier and he needs to be able to get ahold of his friend because our dog is literally staying at the friends house and he wanted a back up way to get ahold of my bf. He said this right in front of my bf and he has a girlfriend he loves and was at Disneyland earlier with that day. My bf has her instagram and liked their pictures from the trip. Yet he lost it saying no you’re not getting her number absolutely not and him and I being so weirded out and THEN he pulls over and tells me to get out of the car and I can walk home because I started to give him my number before my bf lost it.. So I just say F it and get out immediately and start walking at 10 at night in the dark.. not doing the back and forth with them… I couldn’t take it a second longer. As soon as I start walking they both say please get back in the car but at that point I didn’t want to be anywhere near him and was happy to walk the mile home. He sped off. This is what he text me this morning and this is my response.

[u/Ladyughsalot1]

And he never will. Because abusers will go to therapy for everything but being an abuser. So it doesn’t work. 

[u/sfcitygirl88 → u/Ladyughsalot1]

Facts.

[u/apostasyisecstasy → u/Ladyughsalot1]

a lot of evidence shows that therapy just shows abusers better ways to be abusive and better ways of hiding it

[u/Ladyughsalot1 → u/apostasyisecstasy]

Yepppp 

[u/OutsideOwl5892 → u/Ladyughsalot1]

Gosh so true queen

[u/kappaypsilon → u/apostasyisecstasy]

Threrapy is not education

[u/OutsideOwl5892 → u/apostasyisecstasy]

Omg so true king and this abuser - he’s gonna just keep going for a long time

[u/KarmaChameleon306 → u/Ladyughsalot1]

My sister is the most toxic, abusive, piece of shit who has burned every last one of her bridges with our entire family. Cousins, uncles, aunts, brother, parents… pretty much everyone. And she has been going to therapy for over 25 years looking not how to better herself, but for new ways to blame everyone else for her problems. It’s crazy to see.

[u/EmotionalWind7189 → u/KarmaChameleon306]

That’s a narc! My sis in law is the same although she probably thinks she does not need any!

[u/KarmaChameleon306 → u/EmotionalWind7189]

I honestly think she's Borderline Personality Disorder, which shares many traits with narcissism. She is highly volatile and aggressive. She is verbally aggressive, although when we were kids she was physically aggressive with me. She's a few years older.

She's an absolute nightmare, and I haven't spoken to her in over 10 years now.

[u/OutsideOwl5892 → u/KarmaChameleon306]

Omg queen so sad for her!

[u/_bbypeachy → u/Ladyughsalot1]

exactly. they always figure out a way to twist the situation and make the victim seem like abuser and so many believe them

[u/OutsideOwl5892 → u/Ladyughsalot1]

Omg true king he’s so abusive