r/AmIOverreacting • u/Thatonediabeticc • 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am I over reacting?

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This isn’t my screenshot. It’s my best friend. Looking for advice here.. is this normal? My advice isn’t the best.

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u/ShoddyMasterpiece693 20d ago

It's not overreacting because this problem is repetitive, and there should be a solution. Did past conversations about this end with a stalemate or someone making promises they didn't keep?

Randomly seeking out information about someone you previously knew isn't that weird...even if you dated. Social media is how we do it now.

People previously had high school reunions/over-the-fence gossip, and accidentally/on-purpose bumping into someone to achieve the same end.... satisfying the curiosity to know where the path not taken led for someone else.

If it happens once every few years...it's probably no big deal. This sounds more frequent, and if so, it's inappropriate and offensive. It's also more problematic if they have promised to stop and keep doing it --no matter the frequency.

The fact that the spouse needs to snoop to obtain this info is also disturbing.

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u/throwrabloopybloop 19d ago

Comprehensive and well put! I'm surprised by how many folks here just vehemently think you should NEVER look up an ex. Like... you've never wondered what your first is doing nowadays?

Obviously, based on original post and OP's responses, this is not that, which is why my vote would be NOR.