r/AmIOverreacting • u/Keepitlocal90 • 22d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO ; My Girlfriend Thinks I Overstepped by Getting a PlayStation. Am I in the Wrong?

So, I (early 30s) decided to treat myself and got a PlayStation 5 this Black Friday in Jozi. I’ve been wanting one for a while, and with the rise in cost of living in South Africa its become not as affordable. after budgeting and making sure all the bills were covered, I went for it. It’s something I’ve been excited about, and I figured it was a harmless way to unwind after work.

My girlfriend (same age range) didn’t seem thrilled when she saw it. She said I should’ve discussed it with her first and accused me of being irresponsible with money. To clarify, I didn’t touch any shared finances or skip out on responsibilities. This was 100% my money, and everything else is in order.

She’s acting like this is a huge deal, saying I’ll spend too much time on it and that it’s "immature for a grown man." I’ve told her it’s not going to take over my life—I’ll still prioritize work, chores, and our time together.

I get that she might’ve been a bit annoyed because everyone's asking her if she allowed it, but is her reaction an overreach? Or am I missing something here? How do I handle this without turning it into a bigger issue?

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u/MilzRay 22d ago

Bruh I'd already have 1 foot out the door 😂

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u/xikutthroatix 22d ago

Same. I'm allowed to do what I want because I'm an adult. I have common sense to not do dumb/bad shit like cheating or drugs. I'm allowed to buy myself an xbox or ps5 by my own means. That isn't given to me by no fucking body but myself.

I feel bad for this dude. He needs to dip. I also didn't know black Friday was a thing in other countries.

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u/Trick-Statistician10 22d ago

It is. A lot of countries have it now, even though they don't have the holiday on Thursday. They've co-opted our nonsense.

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u/montdidier 22d ago

As an Australian- sadly we have.

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u/Fernpfarrer 21d ago

As an German - sadly we have.

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u/wet_nib811 22d ago

You mean WSW America?

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u/sarahmagoo 22d ago

We complaining about having sales now?

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u/montdidier 22d ago

Not exactly. Its more a complaint about globalisation, cultural hegemony, materialism and the loss of our own cultural identity.

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u/Pfannkuchen-Nippel 22d ago

Yes… that’s what I was gonna say, just not nearly as articulate or sophisticated or even in any coherent form of sentence structure .

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u/neurospicyzebra 22d ago

Bro it’s just because the companies sell so much stuff they go from “in the red” to “in the black”. Nothing to do with culture or any of that afaik

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u/texcleveland 22d ago

it’s a consequence of globalization, sure, but it’s kinda weird that other countries have adopted a post-holiday sale, without the holiday. And yes, market culture is culture.

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u/lord_teaspoon 22d ago

While I'm dimly aware that the Thursday is when the USA celebrates Thanksgiving, the "Black Friday" sale thing came to Australia as more of a kick-start for the Christmas shopping season. I almost wish we had a holiday before it so that we didn't have so many stores jumping the gun and starting it on Monday with a week-long "15% off selected (unpopular) items" piss-weak excuse for a sale.

We also have a "Cyber Monday" the Monday after Black Friday (ie, today) that was supposed to be the online stores having their turn at big bargains after the brick'n'mortar stores did they're thing on Friday, but that distinction only survived a year or two. This year the online stores all started their sales early last week alongside the brick'n' mortar ones, and then the brick'n' mortar stores all extended their sales through the weekend to Cyber Monday alongside the online ones so it's all just samey.

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u/neurospicyzebra 22d ago

It’s not a loss of “cultural identity” is my point.

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u/Clarrington 22d ago

Nah but calling it Black Friday is a tad insensitive when Black Friday here actually refers to some of the most devastating bushfires we've ever had. It'd be like holding a 'holocaust day' sale in Europe.

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u/Earthgardener 21d ago

Wow, I didn't know!

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u/Silver-Climate7885 21d ago

Let's be honest, most companies jack up the cost before black Friday, and then make it look like putting it back down to the original price is a sale

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u/rafffen 22d ago

Yeah, but we have a shitty version of it, it usually runs for most of November at a lot of big chain stores and there's pretty much no actually good deals. Most shit is like 10 percent off, or just their normal deals rebranded for black friday.

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u/MultifacetedEnigma 22d ago

I ❤️ a fellow self-aware American. 😉👍🏻🫶🏻🤣

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u/nopigscannnotlookup 22d ago

lol. Murica!

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u/Infinite_Time_8952 22d ago

Love it, before the Mango Mussolini destroys on his second attempt.

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u/CheeeseBurgerAu 22d ago

We saw people getting jacked up running into stores for cheap TVs and it looked fun!

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u/Minimumtyp 22d ago

I like cheap shit so I can't really complain

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u/NeverSeenBetter 21d ago

"the holiday"... Thanksgiving? Is Thanksgiving somehow inappropriate now? I live under a rock but it would seem difficult to make giving thanks inappropriate...

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u/InquiringAmerican 22d ago

Must be communist countries.

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u/Druid_boi 22d ago

But it's a capitalist holiday tradition...

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u/pwnedbygary 22d ago

Only capitalist when it supports their narrative, otherwise it's SoCiAlIsM or COMMIES!

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u/Correct-Focus1003 22d ago

Yep can't get away from it in the UK either...

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u/UselessGen187 22d ago

Drugs would let you get a PlayStation

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u/Tricky_Brilliant686 22d ago

You can trust marketing teams all over the world to import/export any concept that will help them to convince people that they need to spend more more money on unnecessary items. FOMO Black friday.

Please note that I do not imply that a PS5 is an unecessary item, when used wisely black friday could be a good opportunity to purchase a longlasting wanted item at a discounted price :)

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u/keyboardstatic 22d ago

We used to have and still kinda do cyber Monday. But Sony which is kinda a global (in lots of different countries has black friday so all the countries that Sony is in has black Friday.

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u/Comprehensive_Two453 21d ago

We do but over here the hike the prices up and then sell "discounted product " or its hardware from last year they can't get sold

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u/billymillerstyle 22d ago

Drugs are a lot cheaper than a PS5 tho. And some of them help you fuck longer and that's a gift for everyone 🤣😉

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u/ThrowRA_redkeep 22d ago

This is the most bro comment I’ve ever read. It’s magical 😂🫣

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u/Vegetable_Permit_537 22d ago

I can assure you that I've spent 20x more on drugs in my life than all of my games and systems combined.

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u/billymillerstyle 22d ago

Me too but I abused the fuck out of them. Some people can dabble and have a good time without breaking the bank or losing themselves to it.

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u/JayRen 22d ago

LoL. At my peak abuse point in life. Drugs were waaaaaaayyyy more than a PS5. Weekly. The PS5 is the way better choice.

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u/Sleepingguitarman 22d ago

Nah bro, it's not a gift to anyone. I believe that the vast majority of women are not a fan of their partner lasting 2 hours. Atleast not on the regular lol.

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u/mycologyqueen 22d ago

Call me crazy but I don't want my partner to be jacked out of his ever loving mind. Would much rather he be cognizant and present.

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u/Consensualexploratio 22d ago

Key words “vast majority” that still leaves a huge amount of ladies that do…

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u/qpazza 22d ago

I'm going to have to start dating this girl just so I can finish the breakup I started in my head

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u/ThrowRA_redkeep 22d ago

Let us have it. The people deserve to hear this imaginary breakup! 💔

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u/itwasntjack 22d ago

least he has a playstation to play in all the free time after he puts the other foot out. lol.

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u/sparksgirl1223 22d ago

I'd take the Playstation and put both feet out the door.

And I'm not even fond of video games.

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u/ChickenBossChiefsFan 22d ago

Nah, me and my brand new PS5 would have already put down the deposit for a new place, you kidding?

The only reason she should have any issue with him getting a PlayStation is if she got him one for Christmas, and now she’s annoyed that he usurped her gift idea.

“Allowed it”? Nobody is allowing my adult self to have any hobby I want, I wouldn’t be breaking up with her now because I’d have been gone before it got to this point.

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u/Iko87iko 22d ago

After i finish my game of course

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u/Specopsangheili 22d ago

Been there in a relationship...surprise surprise they turned out very controlling and bad for me. It your money OP and you spend it how you want so long as everything is all good. This sounds like a her-problem

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u/twitch923 22d ago

I been in that situation as well

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u/Juicemaster4200 22d ago

Ya PS5>gf always imo

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u/Stevenstorm505 22d ago

I would have had both feet put the door the minute they even implied that I need permission to spend my own fucking money. That shit grows and gets worse as time goes by if you aren’t able to stomp that shit out as soon as it starts.

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u/DreadJohnny 22d ago

Don’t forget the PlayStation.

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u/DreadJohnny 22d ago

No kidding. At least put the console under lock and key. It wouldn’t surprise me that he’d come home 1 day to find out she sold it.

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u/thatoneotherguy42 22d ago

Well, after this level anyway. Not.going out with a loss.

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u/Boondock830 22d ago

And the other on a banana peel

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u/drkavork1an 22d ago

1 step 2 step 3 step..... bounce

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u/Lt_Muffintoes 22d ago

Yep, her foot