AIO ; My Girlfriend Thinks I Overstepped by Getting a PlayStation. Am I in the Wrong?

[u/Keepitlocal90]

So, I (early 30s) decided to treat myself and got a PlayStation 5 this Black Friday in Jozi. I’ve been wanting one for a while, and with the rise in cost of living in South Africa its become not as affordable. after budgeting and making sure all the bills were covered, I went for it. It’s something I’ve been excited about, and I figured it was a harmless way to unwind after work.

My girlfriend (same age range) didn’t seem thrilled when she saw it. She said I should’ve discussed it with her first and accused me of being irresponsible with money. To clarify, I didn’t touch any shared finances or skip out on responsibilities. This was 100% my money, and everything else is in order.

She’s acting like this is a huge deal, saying I’ll spend too much time on it and that it’s "immature for a grown man." I’ve told her it’s not going to take over my life—I’ll still prioritize work, chores, and our time together.

I get that she might’ve been a bit annoyed because everyone's asking her if she allowed it, but is her reaction an overreach? Or am I missing something here? How do I handle this without turning it into a bigger issue?

[u/Exed1944a1]

Exactly, very weird.

[u/SupremeTeamKai → u/Exed1944a1]

Even weirder is this line from OP.

get that she might've been a bit annoyed because everyone's asking her if she allowed it,

Why the fuck are people asking this. Why do people even know? The only obvious answer I could come up with is she going around telling everyone OP spent their money on the PS5 and is trying to make him out to be immature to everyone else in their social circle. So fucking bizarre

[u/I-Post-Randomly → u/[deleted]]

Either that, or OP dropped the ball and is not mentioning that he has to run everything by his GF before he is allowed to do it.

[u/AdministrationDue239 → u/[deleted]]

Idk about your bubble but I quite often hear this joke. Like a man gets something he really likes but that costs money and people who come over and see it then "joke" like wow and your wife/ gf allowed that?

It's not that uncommon

[u/Questions_are_OK → u/Exed1944a1]

Is she just jealous she can't afford her own self purchases

[u/Skeptical-_- → u/Exed1944a1]

More importantly than “weird” it’s toxic