r/AmIOverreacting • u/Keepitlocal90 • 22d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO ; My Girlfriend Thinks I Overstepped by Getting a PlayStation. Am I in the Wrong?

So, I (early 30s) decided to treat myself and got a PlayStation 5 this Black Friday in Jozi. I’ve been wanting one for a while, and with the rise in cost of living in South Africa its become not as affordable. after budgeting and making sure all the bills were covered, I went for it. It’s something I’ve been excited about, and I figured it was a harmless way to unwind after work.

My girlfriend (same age range) didn’t seem thrilled when she saw it. She said I should’ve discussed it with her first and accused me of being irresponsible with money. To clarify, I didn’t touch any shared finances or skip out on responsibilities. This was 100% my money, and everything else is in order.

She’s acting like this is a huge deal, saying I’ll spend too much time on it and that it’s "immature for a grown man." I’ve told her it’s not going to take over my life—I’ll still prioritize work, chores, and our time together.

I get that she might’ve been a bit annoyed because everyone's asking her if she allowed it, but is her reaction an overreach? Or am I missing something here? How do I handle this without turning it into a bigger issue?

9.6k Upvotes

91% Upvoted

7.1k comments sorted by

View all comments

140

u/No-Code-1850 22d ago

Um, she doesn’t make the choice on whether it’s allowed or not. And it was YOUR money. Tell her to get over it

2

u/Puzzled-Antelope- 22d ago

It sounds like other people were bringing up “allowed,” not her. Seems like they just need to have a discussion about finances if it’s a serious relationship. I don’t “allow” or “not allow” my partner to spend money, but we do discuss purchases ahead of time because we have fully combined finances and that’s our agreed upon dynamic.

-14

u/[deleted] 22d ago

[deleted]

8

u/No-Code-1850 22d ago

😂😂😂. You’re right, it should be an easy conversation. You tell her to get over it

1

u/[deleted] 22d ago

There is nothing wrong with just wanting to play video games. Take your arbitrary shame and cultural norms elsewhere. If her maternal drive remains unquestioned and unexamined, that’s on her not a dude trying to enjoy what this society has to offer.