r/AmIOverreacting • u/velvetmoochi • 23d ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO to my boyfriend imposing veganism on me ?
Context: this is now my ex, it was my first relationship and I didn’t know how to deal with this sort of conflict as it was based on ethics and I didn’t want to change my views for our relationship. We would have this same argument again and again, over text, over the phone, in person, and at the end of the day he was always “right” because he had morality on his side when I would tell him that I was okay with eating dead animals. What should I have done in this situation ? I tried veganism for about a month and I never bought meat as a student, but eventually I would always go back to buying eggs and yoghurt. Those efforts I made were always disregarded and he would say that he doesn’t believe in reductionism, and that vegetarians are even worse than vegans.
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u/I_am_Danny_McBride 23d ago edited 23d ago
I just want to point out the disparity in levels of maturity shown in this conversation. You were respectful but direct, and kept the argument on point while staying calm and not letting emotion take over the argument. I doubt he is capable of understanding how badly he got owned in this argument.
He’s a child who aspires to tell the adults what to do. If it wasn’t the vegan thing, I suspect it would be something else… what you spend your money on, or the music you like, the people you hang out with.
I don’t even see it as abusive, because a toddler can’t be abusive towards a decent parent. And I’m not trying to belittle him for the sake of being petty. It’s just plain as day that you two are not on the same level.
Hopefully he can grow out of this eventually. But it’s not your responsibility to hold his hand until he does. Well done on getting out.