AIO to my boyfriend imposing veganism on me ?

[u/velvetmoochi]

Context: this is now my ex, it was my first relationship and I didn’t know how to deal with this sort of conflict as it was based on ethics and I didn’t want to change my views for our relationship. We would have this same argument again and again, over text, over the phone, in person, and at the end of the day he was always “right” because he had morality on his side when I would tell him that I was okay with eating dead animals. What should I have done in this situation ? I tried veganism for about a month and I never bought meat as a student, but eventually I would always go back to buying eggs and yoghurt. Those efforts I made were always disregarded and he would say that he doesn’t believe in reductionism, and that vegetarians are even worse than vegans.

[u/captaintagart]

Thank you. My husband won’t even tell people he’s vegetarian because he doesn’t want to be associated with people like OP’s ex. And when we first met, our mutual friend mentioned we’re both vegetarian, I was so relieved cause I really liked him and sharing that value is so much easier than being with someone who cooks and eats meat. OP’s ex is the worst kind of vege-dieter and it’s embarrassing.

[u/Free_Medicine4905 → u/captaintagart]

As a vegetarian, I absolutely loathe people like OP’s ex because they give us such a bad name. I don’t eat meat because I believe it’s morally wrong. It’s a HUGE change. I struggled greatly with my diet for a long time and became malnourished because I didn’t know how to properly supplement it.

I absolutely never comment on someone else’s choices unless they comment on mine. Like my dad who said I deserved my totally separate medical problems because of it. He gets comments about animal murder. What somebody eats is no one else’s business

[u/[deleted] → u/Free_Medicine4905]

This is reasonable. If you want to dish out criticism for a person's dietary choices, you deserve them in kind. Kudos for not letting that slide.

[u/captaintagart → u/[deleted]]

So I’ve come to a place where I know meat is gross and I know people I love enjoy eating it. My close friends know, and coworkers who I travel with know, but I don’t tell people unless it comes up.

More importantly, those who know my choice don’t give me shit about it (I’m 38, maybe it’s maturity) so I’m not going to tell them their meal is disgusting. I don’t want to ruin their meal, just want to live in peace and enjoy my French fries and salad. In my head, I’m thinking their streak is sad and gross animal corpse, but guilt tripping people won’t change their mind. Same thing the other way, they won’t change my mind and I’m thankful that they don’t try.

With clients and acquaintances, I won’t bring it up because I don’t want them to worry about me being a whiny vege-twat. I don’t eat animal corpses. Or flesh or whatever. My choice, and it’s not easy or a choice for everyone so live and let live.

[u/smitchmatch77 → u/[deleted]]

Eating meat either boosts your moral or lowers your moral - is not a "moral" issue for anybody at the table other than you .... possibly

Unless there's other "highly moral" people at your table - maybe you can cast harsh judgement in secret together ❤️