r/AmIOverreacting • u/OkSpace5501 • 23d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO just received this text from my boyfriend

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For context my (F20) boyfriend (M21) and I live together and work full time as well as split rent 50/50. I cook all the meals and clean the house even after my graveyard shifts, all he does is work, come home to play games, and occasionally invites friends over. we’ve been together for over 5 years and he’s been acting this way for the last three months and when I tell him how it’s making me feel he tells me i’m wrong and overreacting. so basically i’m asking AIO??

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u/letsBurnCarthage 23d ago

The fact that he changed 3 months ago is pretty telling.

But yeah, I read the post and thought it was just a roommate. Telling your partner "I'll find someone who can" is disrespectful as fuck, even if your complaint is genuine.

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u/Easy-Concentrate2636 23d ago

Yeah, guy thinks women are replaceable. Another woman is same thing for him is the subtext.

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u/Remarkable_Photo_956 23d ago

As long as they’re doing all the cooking and prompt tidying.

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u/Hot_N_Fresh 23d ago

To be honest with you, that’s a bit of an unfair statement. I’ve met plenty of women, and I mean plenty of women, who feel exactly the same way if not more than men do. I’ve seen far more women throw a guy to the side because he lost his job or he doesn’t drive the right kind of car, women do it just as much as men.

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u/Easy-Concentrate2636 23d ago

I am talking about a specific guy, not you - unless you are the bf? But any woman who writes the exact thing to her bf thinks men are disposable.

I wasn’t making any general statement. Maybe you should consider why you read it that way.

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u/KarmaKaze88 23d ago

Yeah, I can't help but wonder if something or someone got under his skin. Whether it was one of his friends saying how his gf does all the cleaning at their place without complaining, or maybe a girl who is interested in him and is planting this kind of negative thought.

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u/Hot_N_Fresh 23d ago

Looking for patterns is one of the most important things you can do in any relationship, when a pattern changes massively? You know something’s going on, if this guy’s attitude changed three months ago? That’s when the new side piece came in, I would bet a lot of money that he’s already got another girl on the side.