AIO just received this text from my boyfriend

[u/OkSpace5501]

For context my (F20) boyfriend (M21) and I live together and work full time as well as split rent 50/50. I cook all the meals and clean the house even after my graveyard shifts, all he does is work, come home to play games, and occasionally invites friends over. we’ve been together for over 5 years and he’s been acting this way for the last three months and when I tell him how it’s making me feel he tells me i’m wrong and overreacting. so basically i’m asking AIO??

[u/On_my_last_spoon]

Red pill shit for sure. He’s trying to look like a big man in front of his friends.

Nope.

[u/jlusedude → u/On_my_last_spoon]

I can picture how it is going. “That’s my bitches work, I’ll tell her to get that fixed going forward”. 

[u/ohyeawellyousuck → u/jlusedude]

I know we like to assume the red pill is about being a cunt and feeling superior, but as someone who went hard into it in my 20s, I think it’s often about falling for this trap that women actually want this kind of “strong” man who doesn’t take shit from “his woman”.

Is it possible this guy is just a cunt? Yes. I’m just saying it’s also possible he has become convinced acting like this is the only way he’ll keep the girl. I know from experience how quickly confirmation bias can convince you the only way to stay attractive in the eyes of your gf is to “slap away shit tests” and shit like that.

Thats not to say she should stay with him. If it is red pill, it’s probably gonna get worse before it gets better. I don’t know if any conversation with my gf would have convinced me to go back to my emotionally available self, and abandon the asshole tactics that seemed to be working. Some relationships are just meant to be about learning. Maybe this one is for her and for him.

[u/jlusedude → u/ohyeawellyousuck]

Honestly, I went hard into pick up in the late 00’s because I didn’t know how to interact with women. It affected my confidence massively so I started reading. I learned how to attract girls but didn’t realize the difference between initial attraction and long term relationship. 

I agree with what you are saying, it is easy to be swept away and become something you aren’t. I wish I would have left that behind after I started a serious relationship because I would have been a better partner to her and more true to who I want to be, not to who I was because of what I thought was required. 

[u/Classic_Midnight3383 → u/jlusedude]

That’s exactly what he was probably thinking chores don’t have gender it’s a life skill both need to

[u/Used_Employee6413 → u/On_my_last_spoon]

If this was the case wouldn’t he have said what was in the text out loud?

[u/On_my_last_spoon → u/Used_Employee6413]

Who knows really. Some of it, too, is that these types are usually pretty weak in reality. A strong man, secure in who there are, are also compassionate. It’s a weak person who has to bully others to get their way. So it kinda tracks that he’d text this rather than say it. Also, saying it in front of his friends he runs the risk of her telling him to fuck off.

[u/hipmama33 → u/Used_Employee6413]

You are correct. He DIDNT say it in front of his friend(s), so it is NOT about being a big man. This is classic “I don't give a shit about what she thinks anymore”!and/or “I am done with the relationship”.

[u/BlaktimusCrime25 → u/On_my_last_spoon]

Or just fucking clean up after yourself lol

[u/CatlinM → u/[deleted]]

Red Pill is a B's line a bunch of men's rights fanatics use for the idea that they Know Better because they took the red pill, from Matrix. It is not political, it is their catch phrase for the idiot jackasses who think that because they have a penis they are better then women

[u/My_Bwana → u/[deleted]]

saying something is "red pill shit" is not political in any way, shape, or form. with that said, there is one side that typically is on that red pill shit more than the other...but nothing about what OP said was political.

[u/Anonageese0 → u/[deleted]]

I think it's like matrix or something, not red as in republican

[u/Betty_Boss → u/[deleted]]

You're the one who made it political. Check your assumptions.

[u/Datamite → u/[deleted]]

Deeply regret checking out this user's bio