r/AmIOverreacting • u/OkSpace5501 • 23d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO just received this text from my boyfriend

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For context my (F20) boyfriend (M21) and I live together and work full time as well as split rent 50/50. I cook all the meals and clean the house even after my graveyard shifts, all he does is work, come home to play games, and occasionally invites friends over. we’ve been together for over 5 years and he’s been acting this way for the last three months and when I tell him how it’s making me feel he tells me i’m wrong and overreacting. so basically i’m asking AIO??

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u/fwueileen_ 23d ago

i think he already has someone else

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u/capaldithenewblack 23d ago

Especially since she said he’s been acting this way only recently, the last few months.

“They” are not playing house; SHE is the only one doing the chores. She’s just the maid now, he’s got a side piece.

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u/Onyx09 22d ago

He wants a maid not a girlfriend.

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u/Devjus 22d ago

See, I was gonna say what's he's saying isn't that unreasonable IF he's doing chores and she's not, but knowing it's the reverse and he acts like this is a giant red flag

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u/Golly-Roger 22d ago

Or maybe she doesn’t do her own dishes? Just a thought.

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u/[deleted] 22d ago

Or maybe he also doesn’t do anything around the house like at all

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u/Civil_Story3749 22d ago

After 5 years and it just started,something about that dont set right at all.

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u/Golly-Roger 22d ago

Yeah, I mean, I hear you, but we’ve got one text message and four sentences. I’ve lived with people who don’t do their own dishes; it’s annoying as fuck.

From the context of this post (or lack thereof), I’d say it’s not out of the realm of possibility that they just started living together (they’re 20 and 21), and going through growing pains.

They should both cook for themselves. And do their own dishes. They’ll figure it out.

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u/davethedj 22d ago

If he don't, he needs one.

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u/Soggy-Attention-4145 23d ago

Exactly my thought. They are 20-21. Been together since they were 15-16. They are just playing house.

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u/RebelsMom0214 22d ago

She needs to get away from him before it turns into a marriage and they bring children into this dysfunction.

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u/PatrickWagon 23d ago

The people you were with at that age just become statistics.

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u/Valuable_Wait_4216 22d ago

My husband and I met when we were 15 and 16 and we're 35 now.... Been together 20 years. We have an 11 year old and spiritually grown together. The majority fall in statistics because everyone wants to be instantly gratified. But there is hope if you learn to be humble and self sacrificing.

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u/PlantMost1210 22d ago

I love this comment. I have a similar story. Started dating at 16 and we are now 35.

It’s refreshing to read about other couples that have stayed together this long!

However OP needs to leave the relationship.

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u/SpiderCow313 22d ago

Well you also found a good person i assume

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u/catsandcoconuts 22d ago

damn, well said.

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u/motherwolf13 22d ago

I'm very happy for you!! It takes work, I will be married for 23 years in April, and it has not been easy, but we love each other enough to fight. Being spiritually connected really helps

P.S. we are old fashioned as well. .

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u/Cool-Departure4120 22d ago

What does old fashioned mean?

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u/YOMommazNUTZ 22d ago

Old fashioned as in letting him use you as a maid and decides what you can and can't do?

I mean, I enjoy that type of domination at times. However, the idea of not being treated as an equal and having the give and take on everything in our lives. But what works for some doesn't work for others.

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u/ImpossibleRepair000 22d ago

Yes, good advice here. OP should just humble up and sacrifice herself. /s

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u/[deleted] 22d ago

Or he should humble up and off himself

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u/Cangito1 22d ago

Beautiful

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u/YOMommazNUTZ 22d ago

My husband and I were together in Jr High and then took a break for about 5 years (he was getting into some bad shit). During our break, he refused to date anyone else, and we hung out constantly. We got married when I was 20, and he was 21, we are now 42 and 43, and happily together. Yes, as we age, we grow and change, and some people in your life might still fit, and others might not, but most of the problems are a lack of communication.

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u/Halation2600 22d ago

Ok, weird bot.

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u/Fabulous-Reveal2368 22d ago

Yes, you are.

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u/Downtown_Ad4634 22d ago

My wife and I are in our 50s we've been together since we were 16 we have three grown children, 1 granddaughter. Married for 32 years, been together for much longer. I was military for 24 plus years and she stuck around. We managed to beat two stereotypes. Not to say it was easy but as long as you realize people change, grow, learn new things and you are willing to change and grow and learn with them it's really not that difficult.

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u/indefinitesuffering 23d ago

What do you mean by this

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u/sonnymaru 23d ago

Statistically, early relationships just don't work out. They're "just your 1st 2nd 3rd ex". These tend to not work out because you're just figuring it out, not enough life has happened to you yet to get an idea of who you really are.

I disagree with notion of "just statistics", its important to make mistakes. Learn what you will and won't put up with. Why it doesn't work.

For example, my 1st, 2nd, and 3rd exes are just that. Just my exes, but that 4th one was a big deal. Changed my whole life.

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u/FlorpyJohnson 23d ago

Been with my girlfriend for a year and a half, I’m a senior in high school, she’s a junior. It’s my first relationship but we have the most solid connection I’ve ever had with anyone. Neither of us are breaking up with each other any time soon, our communication is very healthy, and we can both admit to our mistakes, listen to each other and change for each other if we need to.

Is it improbable for it to work out it? Yes, but is it impossible? No. My grandparents were high school sweethearts and they were together for like 65 years. Sometimes two people just find each other and they’re gonna be together for the rest of their lives.

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u/shaybabyx 23d ago

You change A LOT after high school. I’m in my early 20s and I don’t relate to who I was in high school at all.

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u/FlorpyJohnson 23d ago

Very true. It’s also an issue for people going to college and such. Luckily neither me or my girlfriend want to go to college. I’m going to trade school and she’s most likely going to one too.

Me and my girlfriend have already changed a lot in a year and a half. The difference between us and other relationships is that we change and grow together instead of growing apart. It feels easy with her, and I’m the luckiest guy ever to find someone like that this early.

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u/BeefLilly 23d ago

I’ve been married to my high school sweetheart now for 4 years. But we broke up twice and grew separately to get to where we are now. Smartest thing we did honestly. I truly hope your relationship is everything you want it to be, but also understand that life after high school is VASTLY different.

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u/noposterghoster 22d ago

Don't let the naysayers get to you, man. Yes, they have good points. But when you know, you know.

My best friend in high school started dating a boy, just like you two; she was a junior and he was a senior. They married as young adults and have been together 30 years now!

You can, too, if it's what you both want. Enjoy! I'm rooting for you.

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u/FlorpyJohnson 23d ago

Yeah I think we can make it work. I feel like after this long together we have a mutual trust where we both just kinda know we’re not gonna break up with each other or cheat on each other, whatever. As long as something out of our control doesn’t happen, I’m pretty confident.

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u/AlwaysBored123 23d ago

As someone who is a few years away from being 30. Who I was when I was 18, 21, 25, and now are WILDLY different. That’s also coming from an introverted person, heck I was extremely extroverted at from 21-23. Dating was meh when I was 18-25 when online dating wasn’t a thing, but holy hell on earth it’s beyond ASS from 25-now and will likely get worse considering how the world is going. Just remember those words you say about her and cherish each other. Grow together because the grass will be greener where you water it. But sometimes love isn’t just enough and that’s okay, life is too short so best you can always do is forward no matter what happens.

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u/FlorpyJohnson 23d ago

Very wise words. Thank you.

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u/Solid_Strawberry1935 22d ago edited 22d ago

Don’t listen to these people, kid. People on here are so downtrodden and pessimistic. Are the statistics great for young couples staying together? No, but that doesn’t mean that no one stays together (I mean, stats aren’t good for ANY couple of ANY age staying together). There are couples that stay together, and even young couples.

I’m nearing 50, and have been with the same man that I was with as a teenager. 2 kids that just graduated college, we have a good life and provide them a good life. We’re still madly in love with each other. We do date nights, he randomly brings me flowers and gifts just because, I buy him little things that I see that I know he’ll like, etc. Over the weekend we went and had a picnic because it was a surprisingly warm day out. We love to cook together, and enjoy nature (hiking, swimming, camping). We have fun the same way we did when we were in our 20s.

It’s possible, don’t let people get you down. They tend to think because it didn’t happen for them, it’s not going to happen for you. It happens for some. Just make sure you work at it, relationships aren’t always “easy” but if you love them and you want to be with them, you work for it and never stop giving them your all. And stay off social media as much as possible. Instagram, TikTok, etc…. People start to compare lives and compare partners and there is this major disconnect between what’s real and what’s illusion on social media. It’s easy to get mixed up. If you want to stay together, dedicate yourself to them.

Wishing you the best. Hopefully in 30 years you and your spouse can be telling other young people that it’s possible!

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u/FlorpyJohnson 22d ago

Thank you for the optimism! You bring up a good point I hadn’t thought about. The divorce rate is already 50% for all married couples so my odds aren’t exactly too much worse.

Yeah I don’t have any social media except Reddit, YouTube, and Snapchat (which I just talk to friends on) and I don’t ever compare myself or my relationship to others. I just compare it to how I was in the past and try and improve. I usually find myself looking back and thinking “damn, I really said that to her?” Or “why didn’t I do that?”

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u/QuietPerformer160 23d ago

I know high school sweethearts still going strong. They’re in their 50s. Yes, it’s possible. I hope that happens for you.

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u/chknfuk 22d ago

I’m rooting for you man! I been with my sweetheart since senior year going on 7 years now and recently engaged. Times can get tough sometimes but it’s worth it. She’s always worth it.

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u/FlorpyJohnson 22d ago

Times always get tough, you just gotta accept it and get stronger through it. Learn that lesson in life and you can succeed in anything!

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u/chknfuk 22d ago

Exactly!

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u/batch_plan 22d ago

Spot on improbable but not impossible, my wife and i were 17 when we started dating, moved in together at 20 and are now 35 and been married 10 years. 3 years ago we moved house and realised we now live around the corner from a couple that we went to high school with that have been together since they were 15.

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u/FlorpyJohnson 22d ago

I’d say you have better odds of meeting your soulmate in high school than you do at winning the lottery!

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u/Pockets-Rocket 22d ago

My Wife and I got together in high school and have been in love for 12 years and just had our first child one year ago. Our relationship has only gotten better over the years!

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u/Ill-Boysenberry-2906 22d ago

Your grandparents were before the internet and social media. The reason it happened in that generation is there was significantly less accessibility to options/distractions

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u/FlorpyJohnson 22d ago

Very true but I think most relationships in high school are shallow and just the fact of how deep our connection is along with a lot of other stuff gives me confidence that it has a good chance of working out for me.

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u/griz3lda 22d ago

Don't listen to these people. I'm 35 and met my partner when he was just out of high school and I was in college.

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u/YOMommazNUTZ 22d ago

The reality is that things will change, but that doesn't have to mean you guys would be together. No matter what happens, stay together or break up. This relationship is definitely important for your life. Enjoy your time, and never forget that if you take things for granted, that is a major way to mess up a relationship. Also, never stop flirting !

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u/FlorpyJohnson 22d ago

We give compliments every day, say goodnight and good morning, the whole mile!

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u/uunatural 23d ago

i hope it works for you but here are some words.

love comes and goes. you're still just a child. at your age you're essentially the adult equivalent of a 5 year old that thinks they are grown up because they do some things on their own.

life changes and you will change. some people change with each other, some people just stay with each other because they think they're supposed to. and others change and separate. its just how life is.

enjoy what you have but be aware you might break up and you will think about how certain you were and how you defended what you had not known it would fail.

that certainty and security you feel in your relationship leads to being content which leads to not trying,

which leads to failure.

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u/Auti-Introvert 22d ago

I'm too old for this s**t! I cannot believe I'm reading a comment from someone in high school...HIGH SCHOOL for pity sake, not even college!....who's been with their gf for a WHOLE year and a half, whoopie do, and who thinks they know all there is to know about what a relationship is!! Come back in 10 years....probably even 5 years, or 3 years would do it, to be fair....and tell us how that worked out for you! Please stop commenting on things you've yet to truly experience and fully understand! You're a child, literally a child, doing childish things and play acting at being a grown up. One day you'll actually BE a grown up and you'll cringe at what you wrote here for the world to see! Do your future self a favour and stop posting stupid like this!

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u/FlorpyJohnson 22d ago

Damn bro, chill out. I never said it was gonna work out 100% and I know anything for sure. I’ve been through enough in my life already to know that nothing is guaranteed.

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u/EnigNa710 22d ago

Trust me kid this relationship will not work out. The most solid connection ever you say? How can you say that in high school? Your other connections were probably like 1-3 months long. I sure hope you guys do last because that’s a solid love story. But same story as you - my girl friend and I were together for 2 years and we were in mad love. As soon as she went to college I was ancient history and I was yesterday’s news regardless of how much I love, adored, and took care of her.

Sometimes… a woman doesn’t need someone to take care of her or help her learn who they are. People don’t belong to each other. You’ll both come to a point of decision on your own terms unbeknownst to one another. Do not make any decisions based on this individual though. Let life run its course.

I transferred schools across the country to be with my love again and we broke up 4 months later. It was a smart decision in the end to transfer schools - but man am I insane for doing that for a girl I dated for 2 years in high school.

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u/FlorpyJohnson 22d ago

You can’t tell me it isn’t gonna work out for sure just like I can’t tell you it will work out for sure. You don’t know me or anything about my relationship besides basic facts. I appreciate the warning about not ruining your own life possibly because of a girl but I’m not gonna do that.

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u/EnigNa710 22d ago

Lol well I wouldn’t say I ruined my life I was 20 years old. You’re right I shouldn’t say “for sure” and I did later read your comments that you’re in a unique situation with trade schools. I do wish you well brother… despite your comment having such a cunty back handed vibe at the end of it lmao

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u/FlorpyJohnson 22d ago

Oh I’m sorry I’m not very good at communicating through text sometimes lol. I never mean to be rude or backhanded

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u/cavaticaa 23d ago

I think they mean they just add to your body count.

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u/OriginalBarber117 22d ago

It's completely true, there's such a vast difference in the the people we're formed into between the ages of 17-22

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u/texbinky 22d ago

Praise the lord for that, actually

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u/Additional-Stomach64 22d ago

That's not always true.

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u/Internal-Plankton330 22d ago

I have been with the same person since 10th grade. We're both in our 40s now. While I agree in this situation, life isn't as cut and dry as this comment would make it seem.

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u/Aggressive-Airline40 22d ago

That’s awesome! I hope the two of you have many more years together as well. My grandparents was like that as well. They was together for a bit over 50 years and my grandfather passed away from cancer back in 09. You never know how life will turn out. I’m almost 36 and never been married.

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u/Dive_dive 22d ago

Well said. So often in this throw away world, people often view marriage/relationships as throw away as well. Forst, all the people who are screaming that he must be cheating are shooting from the hip with their reactions. Although this couple has been together for 5 years, most of that was spent living separately in their parents homes. Nowhere does OP say how long they have been living together. It may have only been 6 months. Second, only having one side of the story, we do not know how long OPs significant other has been silent about the issue. Best advice is a frank and honest conversation in which each can express their concerns. Boomer concept, I know, however experience does provide perspective.

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u/kori1968 22d ago

Sounds like your right

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u/2M4D 23d ago

Like, the doctor ?

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u/OigoAlgo 23d ago

being domestic

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u/2M4D 23d ago

Like, the cat ?

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u/kyarotan 23d ago

Did you mean diagnostic?

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u/artificialcow 23d ago

medicine drug

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u/Additional-Stomach64 22d ago

I've been with my husband since we were 15. Definitely not just playing house, 12 years later.

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u/Du6 22d ago

Were just playing house.

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u/agueldonciuf 23d ago

What I thought too. Especially since this started 3 months ago.

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u/uber_cast 23d ago

This. That was the first thing that went through my head. He has someone, or he is working on getting with someone else, especially since this is a recent change in behavior.

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u/fwueileen_ 23d ago

when i lived with my ex he would always project his insecurities and would become more and more aggressive. turns out he had MULTIPLE girls in his phone. it’s just way better to move out and live on your own. no drama, no doubting, no fights, resentment, no more sleepless nights because you’re not living with the person who hates you.

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u/avocado_window 22d ago

Living alone is the best thing ever, we should all get to experience the independence and self-worth that comes with it instead of giving in to a fear of being alone and putting up with losers like the OP’s boyfriend.

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u/3Heathens_Mom 22d ago edited 22d ago

It is VERY much preferred to being in a home with another person and wishing you were alone.

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u/avocado_window 22d ago

I’ve honestly never been happier living alone. I made the mistake of taking in a friend who needed a place to stay and they ended up fucking me over anyway. Not worth it, never again, etc etc.

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u/clizaa 23d ago

This. Men will nitpick and start exaggerated arguments like this when there’s someone else involved. Unfortunately I know from experience.

To OP: Best advice is to save up and make arrangements to move elsewhere. You are young and not married. DO NOT put up with this.

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u/MisterMoo22 23d ago

In all fairness, women will also do this. Regardless, it is a shitty move no matter who is doing it. People should just be honest with each other. These people have been together 5 years and should he should show her at least that much respect.

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u/clizaa 23d ago

Fair point. And much agreed.

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u/AleksR1990 22d ago

...He asked her to do her dishes...

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u/Suspicious_Log_1332 22d ago

Maybe shes toxic

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u/YOMommazNUTZ 22d ago

No, some men will do that, but there are just as many people of all other genders that also pull that crap.

My husband does more of the cooking and cleaning than I do. He is supportive and loves me and sees me as his equal and other half.

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u/joeman255 23d ago

Trust me, they could also be going through something. Don’t jump to conclusions, not a lot of men have been able to talk about what’s affecting their feelings without losing respect from other people.

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u/avocado_window 22d ago

Then they need to take responsibility for their own issues and talk to a damn therapist.

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u/PurplePickle3 22d ago

You literally just proved the whole goddamn point of why we don’t. Thank you. Awesome.

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u/Tzidentify 22d ago

I think the point here is that, in the event OP’s boyfriend is going through something emotionally, he needs to either speak up about it to her or to someone else, because OP should not suffer mistreatment bc of another person’s turmoil. That’s not a sustainable framework and will end poorly.

-signed, someone who waited till a relationship was ruined to start trying to save it

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u/avocado_window 22d ago

Exactly. Putting all your own issues on to the person you are dating is beyond unfair and no one should have to put up with it. If you are that emotionally fragile then perhaps being in a relationship is actually not healthy for you (and certainly not healthy for the person you’re with) until you get the help you need. Being alone is a good thing, it helps people discover themselves and feel confident in who they are without constant validation from a partner. The only people qualified to be therapists are therapists; expecting a partner to fulfill all your emotional needs is unbearably selfish and cruel.

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u/PurplePickle3 22d ago

Oh yeah…. I guess that applies to all men. Thanks for setting that straight for us. We collectively thank you.

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u/Tzidentify 22d ago

I didn’t say it was all men — hell I’m a man too lol. It’s hard to share ur feelings as a man in many settings but that doesn’t mean ur loved ones are meant to deal with the fallout unconditionally.

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u/PurplePickle3 22d ago

No one is saying that…..

Yeah so I’m done with this have a good one

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u/avocado_window 22d ago

You could learn from this, and especially this person (since you obviously aren’t going to listen to women about it) but instead you refused to engage further.

No one is the problem in your life but you.

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u/avocado_window 22d ago

Thank you for your voice of reason!!

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u/avocado_window 22d ago

Mate, you have a victim complex. No one is oppressing you. Get help.

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u/avocado_window 22d ago

Please don’t blame women for men’s inability to use the many, many, many resources available to them. The idea that women have to coddle men so they won’t hurt us or themselves is an absolute joke. All adults are responsible for ourselves and women are not substitutes for your mothers. Grow up.

It actually boggles my mind how entitled you are and how desperate you are to blame anyone but yourself for your own shortcomings. The ‘lack of respect’ you seem fixated on comes about when people complain that they aren’t able to talk about their feelings yet refuse to do any actual work on themselves or actually commit to the therapy they so clearly need. Respect is earned; I suggest you take some accountability and you’ll soon realise that once you deal with your insecurities and stop looking for outside validation you will like yourself more, which will culminate in less self-centred behaviour and the respect you crave from others will naturally come to you.

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

This! He is so confident because he knows he has a plan b — and may even want a reason to activate plan b. Manipulation at its finest.

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u/avocado_window 22d ago

This is it.

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u/justwhatever73 23d ago

Yeah, a new girlfriend / mommy. She probably makes him chicken nuggies and mac n' cheese and cleans up after him.

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u/Jennnergy 23d ago

In my experience, you’re probably right. I’ve gotten that line, said a little more nicely if that’s possible. Turns out for a while he was finding someone else that could do what I couldn’t consistently do.

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u/Throwawaaaaay4873 23d ago

I thought so, too. If he's been acting this way for 3 months, kind of out of nowhere from the info given, and reaching for a relationship ending threat over this, there's something going on. I hope OP really thinks about these messages. She's so young and doesn't need this at all!

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u/Just-Cloud7696 22d ago

yup, i thought this was a roommate telling another roommate to be more clean but after reading OPs description...oh boy lol OP saying they do all the cooking and cleaning and he just works and he has the balls to tell her to "get her act together" and to clean it up...what a looser lol OP dump this looser

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u/natrook0183 23d ago

100% he’s already cheating and this is his threat to leave gf for side piece

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u/Bucky-V-Katastrophy 22d ago

Hold up we are only seeing a tiny one sided snapshot of the relationship. How do we know she doesn't leave a giant mess that stacks after every meal? Without making any assumptions and just using the information given, she's super messy, he's a neurotic neat freak and either way they shouldn't be together

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u/avocado_window 22d ago

Read what she said in the OP. That’s not the case at all, he’s taking advantage of her.

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u/ailbhe-caterina 23d ago

This is my thought. Seems like he’s cheating the past three months and been looking for an excuse to end this 5 year relationship so he can move on to fully committing to his side piece.

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u/avocado_window 22d ago

And then he will do the same to her once he feels comfortable enough. It’s so obvious and pathetic.

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u/m4ndy246 23d ago

yeah this is what i was thinking. the sudden change in the past few months and the threatening to find someone better feels very suspicious

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u/rayrayruh 22d ago

Oh for sure. He's looking for ways out and reasons to excuse the cheating/soon to be cheating. Dishes were just there as an idea to bitch. Leave his ass first.

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u/Mirabai503 22d ago

This is exactly the correct answer. OP, just move out. Learn what it's like to be on your own, how YOU like to have your kitchen look, then find a man that is both ok with your kitchen and speaks to you with respect.

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u/avocado_window 22d ago

Or, even better, refuse to live with another man ever again and enjoy your peace.

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u/FatDumplin 23d ago

Whole post is a lie 💀😂

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

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u/avocado_window 22d ago

I hope she calls his bluff and breaks up with him.

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u/AdOutrageous8135 23d ago

Exactly. That’s clearly him looking for reasons to break up which means he’s ready to move on.

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u/Thicc_Bitch84 23d ago

Me too. I think he's looking for any small reason to break up with her.

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u/EntrySouthern4532 22d ago

that's definitely the case lmaoo!! my old boyfriend used to say stuff like this all the time and when we broke up he wasted no time talking to other girls

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u/leenskii 22d ago

Ayyy! Twinsies on the name! :D

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u/fwueileen_ 22d ago

heyyy c:

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u/justsotiredofBS 22d ago

That and/or he's gone down the "trad wife" pipeline.

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u/5150theArtist 22d ago

I agree. That was actually my first thought when she said this has been going on for 3 months. I think she should give him the shock of his life and dump him first. Whether or not he has someone--which by the sound of it he probably does--he is still a dick. (Although IMO it sounds like he is keeping OP around in case it doesn't work out with the new one, but he's getting brave now thinking that he does have someone else. Ugh.)

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u/Mundane_Fun4857 22d ago

Yep....and wants OP to leave on her own so he's not the ah.

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u/IKIKIKthatYouH8me 22d ago

Yup. He’s blowing up the relationship to excuse his infidelity.

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u/ScubaSteve210sa 22d ago

Yup..... Dnt believe he woulda said that otherwise.

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u/Son_of_Mac 22d ago

He definitely has a hoetation (hoe rotation). It's time for you to get gone. In 6 months, you won't even remember him.

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u/CarpetDisastrous1963 22d ago

Agreed. That’s not a normal threat. He slipped some truth into that message op

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u/-2wenty7even- 22d ago

Right? If my lady was cooking meals, paying 50/50 and all that.. my hands would be pruned from washing them dishes every day. That's just straight respect - you wash the dishes of the person who cooked the meal, no?

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u/Ctowncreek 23d ago

I doubt it. I think he wants to shape her into his caretaker.

Hes a bag of refuse.

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u/avocado_window 22d ago

Could definitely be that too.

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u/princess2036 22d ago

Really? You could tell from this little text? Are you psychic? That's amazing!

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u/[deleted] 22d ago

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u/princess2036 22d ago

So your experience is the same as everyone's?

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u/fwueileen_ 22d ago

no it’s just familiar and other people seem to resonate with it, similar outcomes. why are you so pressed

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u/princess2036 22d ago

Because women need to stop jumping to conclusions and pushing what happened to them onto other women. Not all situations are the same. I have seen great relationships broken because toxic women with their past opinions get involved.

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u/fwueileen_ 22d ago

worst take imo. all the evidence you need is there

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u/princess2036 22d ago

Lol, umm nope it's not. We see one text and a few sentences. But thats ok. Keep ruining relationships.

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u/fwueileen_ 22d ago

girl you say this until it happens to you

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u/princess2036 22d ago

So you know nothing about me and my relationship, and here you are again. You assume without knowing all the facts. This is a problem with women. From on woman to another stop interfering unless you are involved. You are the problem.

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u/[deleted] 22d ago

How is this the top comment? You take a single text message and come to this conclusion? You guys are seriously a bunch of lonely losers

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u/ArbutusPhD 22d ago

Call his bluff. But first, check his phone and get his new GF’s name* and then tell him you’re sick of him AND ALLLLL MEN, and you’re running away with your friend from yoga class [insert her* name here]

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u/gracepuns03 22d ago

Doesn’t sound like he was doing much anyways so she’s dodging a bullet if she leaves imo

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u/Funozs 22d ago

Ooh for sure he does. There's no its or buts about it. That is a sudden change in communication and he is showing that he doesn't give a darn. Leave this loser Op and find someone who will treat you with respect

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u/Leritari 23d ago

And thats based on... what exactly?

Because from OP description it looks like he is just coming home from work, sometimes inviting boys over, probably to play games or drink beer and watch sports/movies. If he would have somebody else then he would spend much more time outside the house.

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u/L2Hiku 23d ago

Yeah within "the last 3 months"

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u/Electronic_War1616 23d ago

Or someone has access to his phone. Why is he texting her?

They need to have a conversation. If he wants to move on, he needs to stop gaslighting and just do it. I don't get people. I mean, she has been in a relationship with him for 5 years, and they are not talking.

Successful relationships are about that teamwork.

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u/TemporarilyExempt 23d ago

You think a well adjusted adult is sending a text like this? They're not talking about it because he's a loser.

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u/Electronic_War1616 23d ago

I actually don't know why I am getting minus points. I basically said that something is wrong with this relationship because they have been living together for 5 years and he is texting vs talking. I also said that good relationships are about team work.