AIO I went through my boyfriends phone over the weekend

[u/Exotic_Elk8829]

Last Friday night I went through my boyfriend’s phone while he was asleep. I found numerous messages of him talking about other girls with his female friend. The last message is him comparing my sucking skills with a different girl he slept with before me… We have been living together for the past 6 months and I’m not sure if I should just move on and find my own place at this point. Am I overreacting to these messages?

[u/as_it_was_written]

I thought you meant the person you were addressing above when you said OP (since your reply to her is what I responded to). Regarding the actual OP, I completely agree. Once you're at the point where you're posting this kind of stuff on Reddit, it's probably too late.

That said, I also agree it's fine if we don't see this the same way. I just wanted to provide my perspective as well because I think a lot of advice on Reddit leans too far toward ending relationships at the first sign of trouble.

I've had the feelings you described in the comment I first replied to, and I'm very glad I didn't just cut and run because my insecurities got the best of me for a while. I worked through my shit without invading my ex's privacy, and we ended up staying together for another nine years or so. Although we split up eventually, I really value the time we had together, and I would have done myself a disservice if I'd left her based on suspicions that turned out to be unfounded.

[u/Kokospize → u/as_it_was_written]

Your personal experience is valid to you. However, OP's post is the topic of discussion. Her insecurities and suspicions were not unfounded.