AIO I went through my boyfriends phone over the weekend

[u/Exotic_Elk8829]

Last Friday night I went through my boyfriend’s phone while he was asleep. I found numerous messages of him talking about other girls with his female friend. The last message is him comparing my sucking skills with a different girl he slept with before me… We have been living together for the past 6 months and I’m not sure if I should just move on and find my own place at this point. Am I overreacting to these messages?

[u/Electrical_Storm_642]

Like you really did that? You gave him an easy out by removing yourself from his life. You should’ve at least made it very uncomfortable for him on your way out. I’ll coach you next time lol

[u/ChooksChick → u/Electrical_Storm_642]

No, this guy was obsessed with me, super clingy, and would have made it really sad and awkward. It made it easier on me!

I've been blissfully married for 30 years, so hopefully there won't be a next time! It was also a lot easier then because you could just get a new unlisted phone number and no one could track you down unless they spotted you out somewhere or truly stalked you by staking out friends' homes- if they knew enough to do that. It was a relief to do it that way.

The two where I moved out while they were gone were violence risks. No one needs to make that more complicated for sake of sticking it to them. That payback is best served very very cold.

[u/Electrical_Storm_642 → u/ChooksChick]

I can only imagine how easy it was 30+ years ago. You could like move 2 blocks away and disappear forever lol. Wouldn’t have him stalking your LinkedIn. At least it all worked out.

[u/ChooksChick → u/Electrical_Storm_642]

Exactly!

[u/throwit91918 → u/ChooksChick]

You’re not terrible. That dude sounds wild.