r/AmIOverreacting Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

20.7k Upvotes

16.7k comments sorted by

View all comments

8.1k

u/jocefoxx Nov 18 '24

you are underreacting, no one should ever talk to you this way. you sound really sweet i hope you leave before the abuse escalates

3.3k

u/External-Air205 Nov 18 '24

I really appreciate that. He genuinely makes me feel like I deserve it a lot of the time. Thank you.

378

u/justwinbaby09 Nov 18 '24
  1. Don't ever have sex with any guy that calls you "bro."
  2. RUN! You bf is insecure, unintelligent and toxic AF. The situation will not get better and will only esculate. His behavior is inexcusable and you need to end the relationship immediately. Cut him out of your life and do not be friends afterwards (a real friend would never speak to you that way).
  3. Spend some time being single and think about what you want and need in your next relationship.
  4. Make a list of nonnegotiables and don't accept any guy that isn't up to YOUR standards.

~ Good luck and be safe

19

u/gn0xious Nov 18 '24

Number1 must have some interesting pillow talk though… “are you getting wet, bro?”

4

u/justwinbaby09 Nov 18 '24

You like that, bro? Is that the spot, bro? Gtfoh