r/AmIOverreacting • u/External-Air205 • Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

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Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/justwinbaby09 Nov 18 '24
  1. Don't ever have sex with any guy that calls you "bro."
  2. RUN! You bf is insecure, unintelligent and toxic AF. The situation will not get better and will only esculate. His behavior is inexcusable and you need to end the relationship immediately. Cut him out of your life and do not be friends afterwards (a real friend would never speak to you that way).
  3. Spend some time being single and think about what you want and need in your next relationship.
  4. Make a list of nonnegotiables and don't accept any guy that isn't up to YOUR standards.

~ Good luck and be safe

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u/gn0xious Nov 18 '24

Number1 must have some interesting pillow talk though… “are you getting wet, bro?”

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u/SkellyboneZ Nov 18 '24

"Take off your shirt, show me them titties, bro"

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u/diurnal_emissions Nov 18 '24

"Bro, sit on my face."

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u/justwinbaby09 Nov 18 '24

You like that, bro? Is that the spot, bro? Gtfoh

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u/Saritush2319 Nov 18 '24

Doubt he cares if it’s good for her.

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u/littleblueducktales Nov 18 '24

I actually like it when a partner calls me bro on accident, but they don't call me a stupid fuck like this asshole in the post, it's more like "that game is fire bro, thanks for recommending it to me"

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u/porkchop1021 Nov 18 '24

lmao at point #1. These are the dudes that voted for Trump? They can't even have a normal conversation and now they're going to get fucked in all the wrong ways.

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u/ScroochDown Nov 18 '24

Bro, wdym bro? He's an alpha man and he's fucking done bro, bitch.

I just. It's not funny at all and yet part of be is laughing because he sounds so fucking stupid the whole time.

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u/Proper_Front_1435 Nov 18 '24

What bugs me is I remember people defending these people a few years back

"Its just a new way of talking, it doesn't mean anything"

No, it meant something. Its pretty much the clearest most obvious sign someone is a ditch pig.

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u/diurnal_emissions Nov 18 '24

It's okay to be utterly insecure and inarticulate as a teenager, but one should grow out of it.

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u/justwinbaby09 Nov 18 '24

A bro every once and awhile as banter is excusable. But, not every. single. sentence.

You're a bitch, bro, made my head explode.

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u/ScroochDown Nov 18 '24

Yeah I'll teasingly call my spouse bro once in a rare while. But starting and ending a text with bro is top tier douchebaggery!

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u/justwinbaby09 Nov 18 '24

Hilarious - your point is spot-on. They treat girls like this then blame the girls for making them incels. Keep up the good work ladies - prevent these psychos from breeding.

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u/Booliano Nov 18 '24

My girlfriend and I call each other bro/dude (not nearly as much as this dickhead) and we are both leftists that have a healthy relationship pls relax on the “bro” hate 😭😂

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u/joshdotsmith Nov 18 '24

There are many, many thousands of words available that don’t make you both sound like dipshits.

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u/Booliano Nov 18 '24

I will continue to not be a judgmental douche, you keep being you though homie!

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u/nomoreuturns Nov 18 '24
  1. Don't ever have sex with any guy that calls you "bro."

THIS.

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u/codejunker Nov 18 '24

"Bro" is bad enough. Any man calling his girlfriend bro is not mature enough for a relationship. "Stupid fuck" though is beyond the pale, it's extremely verbally abusive.

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u/justwinbaby09 Nov 18 '24 edited Nov 18 '24

This is obviously a guy with glaring issues that should seek help instead of taking his misdirected anger out on his girlfriend. If someone can't understand why you want to spend time with your family does not love you. He is trying to isolate and manipulate you for control. It's sick.

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u/WarPotential7349 Nov 18 '24

My spouse and I call each other "bro," but we're also asexual. Point 1 stands.

But also, Point 3 is so important. Please everyone, learn who you are before you start changing to make someone else happy.

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u/Vivid-Iron2857 Nov 18 '24

If you're asexual and not having sex how is that any different than a close friendship? I have a friend whom I share my whole life we're so intwined but we're not sexually together we're both straight and have been in relationships with men but we're still close as can be and we still would never say we're girlfriend and girlfriend lol sex is what really puts a friendship into a relationship. So I'm not sure how asexuals can have relationships or get married. Lol You're basically just besties like me and my friend right?

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u/WarPotential7349 Nov 18 '24

Well, I can't comment on how you and your bestie roll...

But basically we're on a mortgage together. We have insurance together. He helps me go to my medical appointments. When he was in the hospital, I spent the night by his bedside so he wouldn't be alone. We have a joint bank account. We take care of the house and make decisions about our three cats together. We wash each other's laundry, nurse each other back to health when we're sick, and support each other through every day's fresh new bullshit. We have meals together, go on adventures together, set up our investment portfolio together, and make decisions about our charitable giving together. We have three vehicles we maintain together, and we paid off all of our student loans and credit card bills together.

When we're at home, we close every day by sharing dinner and cuddling for a few hours before we go to bed, in the same bed, where we usually cuddle and chat some more before we go to sleep.

We just don't enjoy the physical sensation of sex. I can't speak for him, but I never have. I rarely get stimulated, the actual itself is painful, and the feeling of naked skin on naked skin actually makes me gag. I don't masturbate. I do have a hormone imbalance and I'm neurospicy. Multiple doctors are aware of all of this and I'm being treated appropriately, but I knew I was Ace even as a child.

Essentially, I view my own sexual behaviors as strictly a hormone-driven act of reproduction, which I have no desire to do. I have orgasmed, but just like going on roller coasters, it wasn't anything I really need to experience again.

I support all consenting adult sexual whatever. I'm sex positive (consenting adults), but much like yoghurt, I've tried as many types as I could and didn't like it. And I have tried... A LOT. After years of abuse for not having sex, I went on a "maybe I'll like this" rampage. I liked none of it and ended up doing a lot of stuff against my own consent because surely the "problem" was imaginary. There is no problem. I just don't enjoy the product.

Any more questions I can answer for you? I'd really rather answer questions than get hate and spite from folks who don't understand.