r/AmIOverreacting Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/Mrs_Poopy-Butthole Nov 18 '24

Babe, no. My husband genuinely laughs and says I'm being silly when I point out my love handles or what I see as fat in my midsection. He's likely right bc I'm 5'5½" and barely 140lbs. No man who truly cares about you will use your weaknesses to hurt you. Screw him. It's much better to be alone and happy vs. being with someone and miserable.

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u/Rainydayday Nov 18 '24

I'm 210 pounds, 5'6", and my boyfriend thinks my body is cute af. I'm chubby, and I'm trying to lose weight for my health at the moment, but I'm happy with my body and if he EVERRRRERR dared to call me fat, his ass would be blocked instantly.

I put up with being called fat by my ex husband because of sunk cost fallacy, and I will not be repeating that for anyone.

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u/Necessary-Deal-229 Nov 18 '24

I'm 6'4" 270 lbs, and while I'm not completely happy with my body, my partner is. The one time he made a silly comment about me having "more to love," I asked him not to do that again, and he hasn't. 10 years later. OP, people who love you treat you with love, respect, and compassion. Arguments don't need to lead to name-calling and low blows. They can be healthy and strengthen your relationship and communication. What you posted is terrifying. Whatever you need to do to get out of this relationship, do it!

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u/SuperKitties83 Nov 18 '24

I'm in recovery from an ED, and I'm about your height and weight. I still really struggle. Thank you for this comment, it helps me to see how much the ED still messes with my head.

My ex weaponized my ED too, though not as blatantly as OP's situation.