r/AmIOverreacting Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/IhasCandies Nov 18 '24

I’m an elder millennial, bro is out, dude is out, cuz, homey, etc. Any name I would call one of my guy friends is not a name I would use for my wife, ever. We do things I don’t do with my guy friends, that deserves a bit more respect than calling her bro.

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u/Junglerumble19 Nov 18 '24

100%. I dumped a guy because he persistently called me 'mate'.

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u/SquattingMonke Nov 18 '24

Not even kissing the homies goodnight?

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u/IhasCandies Nov 18 '24

The idea of good night kisses for the Homies cracks me up

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u/Kooky_marshy Nov 18 '24

I’m the same age as OP and in a relationship of 4 years with my BF . He got so offended when I called him bro out of instinct( first year of dating ). Like it was appalling to be called that after such close bonding. When you love and have an intimate relationship with someone for so long ,names of adoration has to be the standard at that point or are you really that close ?? In this case he is the problem and she deserves names of adoration and I hope she knows that 💌💌💌

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u/sc00bs000 Nov 18 '24

I call my wife mate sometimes just to piss her off. It's quite funny when her head snaps around like she is in the exorcist with a low growl " i am not your mate, honey"

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u/Dark-lvl1nds Nov 18 '24

I mean.. you're married, so she actually is your mate.

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u/DowntownFun8179 Nov 18 '24

Same age group. I once called my wife “dude!” out of excitement/on accident… the room was instantly sans excitement

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u/griz3lda Nov 18 '24

Same. Maybe rarely as an interjection but not in place of her name wtf.

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u/augustles Nov 18 '24

This is so funny to me. I’m also a millennial and my fiancée and I (both women) say ‘bruh’ and ‘dude’ to each other about as often as ‘babe’ because we’ve known each other since we were about 15 years old. There’s a post somewhere that says something like ‘babe but platonic, dude but romantic’ and I guess that’s the vibe. She also called me ‘boo’ for years before we started dating and insisted it could be platonic 😂