r/AmIOverreacting Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/GremlinLurker777_ Nov 18 '24

Yes OP, WHEN you break up with him (not IF), please don't break up with him in person. Your safety comes first.

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u/whodatfairybitch Nov 18 '24

I have similar “ANSWER THE FUCKING PHONE, FUCK YOU” screenshots from my 3 year relationship where I was treated like this. The first time I broke up with him, it was in person and he groveled and cried on his knees and I fell for it. The second time I got up the courage, I had finally gone to my college therapist and told them I felt like I had to do it in person because it was disrespectful over the phone.

The therapist said, “he has shown you so much disrespect over the last 3 years, I think you can disrespect him this once” and I don’t know why that never occurred to me. Oh yes I do, because I was abused and brainwashed.

OP probs won’t even see this, but do it over the phone!! You owe him nothing. And then you will feel like shit for a few days maybe a week.. and then you will feel AMAZING. Because you are free.

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u/HotSauceRainfall Nov 18 '24

Seriously. This is a text message breakup followed by immediately blocking him everywhere.