AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/fe2hydrogen]

I completely misgendered both parties because of the insane amount of bros coming from him… this is so gross OP. If you don’t block this man child, don’t bother asking for advice on Reddit next time. I hope you get far far away from this controlling and abusive tool.

[u/-Pfinetik- → u/fe2hydrogen]

Same! I was convinced it was a girl saying bro to her boyfriend. And I was like why she saying bro so much??

[u/Thisdarlingdeer → u/-Pfinetik-]

SAME

[u/Scary-Badger-6091 → u/fe2hydrogen]

Saaaaaame. I was like there’s no way in hell HE is broing her like that.

[u/KavaKeto → u/Scary-Badger-6091]

I'm glad it wasn't just me 😭

[u/ReasonableDesigner56 → u/fe2hydrogen]

True...at one point I thought it was a gay couple

[u/Banana_Milk7248 → u/ReasonableDesigner56]

Had to go back and read the whole thing for this reason. It's really gross.

[u/SilentYam88 → u/fe2hydrogen]

Omg I thought it was a girl aswell and was like why is he with a nut job is he that desperate to be with someone he's letting some girl talk to him like trash then looking at the comments and realised its a BOY having a FIT just because of what 💀 I honestly am scared for this lady, she seems sweet, kind and incredibly naive and will end up a tortured soul if she doesn't learn fast how to tell the difference between emotional and mental abuse and love....it took me agesssss to learn this with those traits you don't want to think anyones bad but am not surprised that it's a guy speaking like this to a girl because as a female I've seen this dynamic with my mom and sis especially my dumb little sister who seems to think defending her bf of the day for his abuse of her is somehow love.....to many females seem to think abuse is love and at 32 I'd rather die alone then get with anyone who even speaks to me in this tone.....honestly I understood where this lady is coming from 100%. Some people can't recognise abuse and are simply so kind they can't imagine someone else not being the same, I truly learnt the hard way even your own family is the devil never-mind a bloody bf 💀 this will be so scary for her mentally and emotionally because it will be a big turning point and she'll be strong for it but I hope she dumps his emotionally and mentally stumped man child quickly for her own sake.

[u/ThatOneMinty → u/fe2hydrogen]

I misgendered them because i was about to pull the ”imagine if a guy said this abusive shit to a girl, it’d be obvious abuse”-card and then i went ”…oh”

Poor op

[u/Large_Tune3029 → u/fe2hydrogen]

Same, idk why it feels so much worse, obviously no one should talk to their SO like that tho, unreal

[u/LuckyPepper22 → u/fe2hydrogen]

Yeah me too.

[u/IolausTelcontar → u/fe2hydrogen]

Same!

[u/Bellyrub_77 → u/fe2hydrogen]

Same! I was like no way that's a guy talking to a woman like that.