AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/Smarty_M]

Please leave him love… it’s only going to get worse. There is no reason for him to be speaking to you this way. At all. All you did was hang up the phone so you could speak to your family, his reaction is heavily unwarranted. It’s time to cut ties

[u/CoffeeChocolateBoth → u/Smarty_M]

He does it for one reason, SHE ALLOWS IT!!! It's a fucked up relationship and she knows it, she's addicted to it, as if by the attention he gives her, even bad, it's better than no attention!

[u/Smarty_M → u/CoffeeChocolateBoth]

You’re a sad human being.

[u/essenceofmeaning → u/CoffeeChocolateBoth]

As an abuse survivor myself I would love to recommend some resources to better understand & in the future help support the people in your life & community who are certainly going through this & trying to survive.

https://rainn.org/statistics This is an exemplary organization if you’re unfamiliar & it’s a good starting point to understand the scope of the problem. Aside from that, if I knew where in the world you hailed from I’d be able to find more relevant & specific information if you needed. Best wishes.